He's gone back to her again!!

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A month ago I found out my boyfriend of 3 years had been sleeping with someone else, she had no idea about me (apparently) had heard from a friend he had a girlfriend and then messaged me on Facebook, she said he texts and calls her all the time and sent me screen shots of messages of him even saying he was in love with her, how he misses her so much and wants to be with her. He’s been seeing her at least once a week for a few months.

I forgave him because I’m an idiot. Yesterday I found out he has been seeing her again, and even after all the trouble of her finding out about me even delivered flowers at her front door. I know I probably shouldn’t of but this afternoon I’ve text her a load of abuse but I can’t help feeling like such a mug, we spoke on the phone weeks back and she promised never to speak to him again. He’s coming home from work and refusing to talk about it because he’s “tired” he just doesn’t give a shit does he? I’ve asked him over and over if he loves her and he smiles and says “not really”. It hurts more the fact it’s the same girl he’s going back to!

I’m going to have to leave him now aren’t I someone give me a kick up the ass before I end up making myself look even more stupid!

You don't share a house and you have no children. From a practical viewpoint, it's easy to separate. Tell him, and mean it.

The emotional side is harder but you'll get through it. Focus on the good things, like your new house.

I agree. Tell your parents. They'll help you to be strong and get rid of this user.

I am embarassed for you

Wow. So when she found out about you, he sent HER flowers.

And he says ''all you two do is go on about each other''.

He feels entitled to two women and he's loving this. LOVING it.

Take yourself out of the game. Let her have 'the prize'. Prize arse.

I agree with @category12, you don't live with him. Just block him.

Nothing you could do would ever get to him more than being ignored.

I Would tell your parents too. There is nothing ambiguous about this situation, if you can't see it they will,

I'm sorry your relationship is over. But you need to accept it is.

Come on. He was texting her, she was texting him, he is calling you, she is sending you screenshots, he is grinning about it, she’s getting back with her ex, not blocking him on Facebook...

Who the fuck does he think he is, God’s gift? Life’s too short. Bin the dickhead. I bet he’s crap in bed anyway.

Op speaking from exboyfriend experience, once he’s cheated it will never be the same again because he’s broken your trust.

You forgive him and take him back but each time he’s late or distant or not answering your texts you will be thinking the worst and it will eat you up inside

Find someone who deserves you

Sling him to the kerb and get an STI check pronto.

I know things need to end but my head is just in a mess. Whenever I’ve spoke to OW on the phone she says the same as what most of you are saying on here, but she’s been seeing him too? I’ve been asking if he loves her because if he says yes he can go and be with her, he won’t say yes though. In a way I feel like he must give a shit about me else he would be with her?

I’ve been ignoring all his calls and texts and will try and get my head round it all! I feel like such a mug! I asked if she would block him because If she completely blocks him of everything and they stop contacting eachother it will make things easier if I do want to stay with him!

Please don't stay with him.

I know it's hard but he doesn't have a ounce of respect for you. You can't live your life dependant on her blocking him.

If not her it will he someone else. Sorry.

Why would you want to stay with him?! He has cheated on you, continues to cheat, enjoys the two of you treating him like the prize in a competition and that won't stop - if you have him back, he'll do it again. If one of you gets fed up, he'll find another contender.

Is his cock solid gold?

If she blocks him it won't stop him. Have some self respect and walk away now! This will be your life forever otherwise.

he's disgusting Lovely.. tell your Parents and kick this scum to the kerb ... keep your dignity and self respect in tact

Oh come on

You aren’t seriously considering staying with this prick are you

How can you contemplate a future with someone who’s off like a rat up a drainpipe every time you take your eyes off him?

Oh god op.

In a way I feel like he must give a shit about me else he would be with her?

If she completely blocks him of everything and they stop contacting eachother it will make things easier if I do want to stay with him!

This has just moved to a sort of desperate cringeiness, please try to get some self respect. This is awful.

He's playing the both of you. But OW wants him.
She's telling you stuff, you're telling him, he's asking her and then she's messaging you again....

Stop and think about it, he's got two women basically fighting over him, because you are. Your blaming her, but he's at fault. She's just as bad for still carrying on after speaking to you knowing he's with someone.

He's cheated on you.
Cheated, and favoured the other girl.
Fuck him off.

For your own sanity.
Don't reply and don't let him in!

Stop talking to the OW and tell him to fuck off.

I think you are beyond help with regards to this issue. One day you will read this thread back and say wtf was I thinking. Why would you even want to stay with him - why? Tell your parents. They might be able to put a stop to this if you can’t. You are not Romeo and Juliet - you are with Casanova and one of his many women. Men like him don’t love anybody, only themselves, so ponder no more on whether he loves her, you, or anybody else.

Don't blame her, it's him you want to blame for being a cheating arsehole.
Have some self respect and just ghost him, you have nothing to lose.
Block the pair of them and move on.
He knows he can do what he wants now and you'll wait around for the crumbs he gives you.
is this how you want your friends and family to see you?

He doesn't love you OP. By all means drag out this dying/dead relationship for as long as you want, but he doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you and he's going to leave you.

He's got 2 women, both thinking they're the "one", and he's having a laugh. You both sound very young. Kick him into touch , and go out and have some fun

God I bet he's loving this...two women fighting over him and he's the defenceless man stuck in the middle.
I know you're hurting but he's a bad person. He's deliberately hurt you over and over again.
Dump him and block both of them immediately.
You will get through this I promise.

I am embarassed for you .

I am just very sad that so many young women have so little sense of self-worth. You can do SO MUCH better than this, OP. You are worth SO MUCH more. If you accept this treatment, this will be your life.

He said, she said, she sent screenshots, we made it official on Facebook, he won’t block her off Facebook, I rang her, she text me ... you all sound about 15!

Honestly this is pathetic, I’m cringing inside out for you
Get a fucking grip