I think my point is, women have to accept that men also will have to make compromises about their ideal partner. Not everyone looks like Angelina Jolie, for example. Men also have to accept things in a woman they may not ideally wish for. It's the old line about not letting perfection get in the way of good.
I'm not saying settle. I'm just saying if you have a long list of likes and don't likes you are fishing in a small pond and limiting your options. If you also have aspects about you that may be less than appealing to a potential partner, that pool shrinks from small to miniscule and your chances decrease exponentially.
Not saying looks aren't important because yes attraction has to be there. But it's character and values that tend to matter most. The most attractive man in the world could be a class a arsehole.
I think the distance thing is interesting myself. I'd be interested why 45 minutes is the cut off. I am about 30 mins from inner London. Dated quite a few that have been an hour away once you factor in the tube etc. Again, comes down to expectations and how much time you have available to offer.
I wouldn't date someone 2 hours away because that's not feasible. But an hour, maybe hour and a bit is ok. A lot of people commute to work for that length of time each way. I don't see why it's any different? I think just demonstrates the fact relationships are work, depends on the effort one is willing to expend as to the results you can expect to achieve.
Hope this isn't coming across as harsh, btw.