Have you got a good one. (Husband)

[Gouldengirl9]

After reading lots of threads that husbands are in the wrong in lots of ways eg affairs, spending money on himself not family, selfish in outlook. I would like to say I have a good DH, he's not perfect he has a few faults as we all do he wouldn't know a romantic jesture if it stared him in the face. But I trust him with my life, he has to be forced to spend money on himself. He tries to make sure I'm happy with every outing or holiday we have.
So come on everyone is your DH or DP a good one.

I do! He's not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but neither am I. He's an absolute gem of a human being. He puts mine and DC's needs first, has completed a civil engineering degree full time while also working part time in order to better himself for our joint income, he has to be forced to spend money on himself, he's not a cheater and doesn't go out drinking much, he cooks and helps around the house (often doing a blitz just so I can relax), he's my absolute rock and best friend every day but has been especially wonderful since I've been pregnant with DC3 and would do anything he could to make us happy. I love good DH threads! Its not all doom and gloom!

Yes, he is great. Kind. Fairly reserved. Will put himself out for others. Not motivated by money. Loyal. A very loving dad.

Yep, I have an amazing one. Don't get me wrong, he can sulk like a child now and again, and sometimes gets cross, but don't we all?

He works really hard to provide for me and DS. He's my carer as I've recently become disabled, so he looks after me, dresses me, washes my hair etc. He does all the housework, laundry, cooking, shopping, school runs and much more while holding down a full time job. He's not in the best of health himself, with severe spinal issues and in a lot of pain. He doesn't drink, he rarely goes out because he's happier watching a movie or playing a video game, he worships me and DS and is always showing he cares with little gifts and gestures. I truly don't know what I'd do without him.

Yes. although we are not married yet, but will be in a months time after 10 years together. He is loving, kind, thoughtful, caring, gorgeous, my best friend. I know I can rely on him, and that although he makes mistakes, he would never do something to purposely hurt me. He is human, not perfect. He loves our dd to pieces, but can find being a dad hard. He never stops trying though. He always pulls his weight at home, and will pick up the slack without question if I am too busy to keep up with my jobs! He puts my needs in the bedroom first, is not at all selfish in that regard. If I have struggled with life and lost my libido for a while, he has never pressured me, ever.

He is just wonderful.

It hasn't always been like this. We have worked at our relationship through mental health problems, traumatic events, having a child, financial stress, job problems... the list goes on. The foundations were always there though and the rest has come through hard work and we are in a really good place.

Yeah he has his faults but don't we all? He's a lovely guy and a great dad. My best buddie and probably sometimes the reason I bother to deal with the big wide world some days.

Mine's not perfect but thank god because neither am I! He's warm and loving and kind and funny, he re-trained from scratch to give our family a better life, works his arse off and sacrifices a lot to do so and I have no doubt in my mind he loves me and DC with all his heart. I count myself (and him actually) incredibly lucky, we've been together 17 years and still make each other laugh, still have 'that spark' and our relationship is constantly improving, that'll do for me

I had a good H. 28 years together, 2 wonderful dcs, lovely Georgian house we renovated, then he nursed me through a massive injury and breast cancer, then after 27 years i found him having an affair.
I thought he was wonderful, he'd literally saved my life. I thought we were special. True love.
It's all changed now.
We're still together.
Trying to make it work with a liar and a cheat, that you loved and trusted with every sinew is tough.
(She was half his age, newly married, short, mousey, huge nose, no higher education...someone He could dominate I suppose. They never trade up do They?)
So, 18 months ago I'd have been on here saying that I had the most wonderful husband in the world...
You just never know ....

(Love the way my phone adds random capitals btw!)

This time last year I would have said yes, I would have said he wasn’t perfect and had annoying little traits but that he was honest, caring, strong and supportive and was a fantastic father too. I honestly thought all those things.
Sadly, my answer today would be ‘hell no’ he is dishonest, selfish and frankly a morally corrupt prick.

But I do have great kids thanks to him (and me obviously)

Yes..DP of 20 years

I am very sorry you had to go through such heartache, Frances, however this is not the place for your post.

My partner and I aren't married but we've been together 20 years and he's been the best part of my adult life. I had a violent childhood and have a hard time trusting people because no one in my life was trustworthy for so long, and I was skeptical of his sincere affections at first but he has proven himself loyal and generous in so many ways.

To celebrate two decades together in December, I made a top ten list of reasons why I love him:

1. He brings me random books from the library because he sees them while browsing and thinks I might like them.

1. He picks rose petals (available most of the year where we live) to sprinkle over my head when he gets home.

1. He gives fantastic foot rubs, and often.

1. He inserts my name into songs playing nearby and sometimes makes up silly new songs with my name in it.

1. He always cries at Buffy the Vampire Slayer’s season five finale. Always.

1. He doesn’t let people get away with saying sexist or racist things in his presence.

1. He reminds me that I can’t neglect my health and takes delicate care of me when my medical conditions flare up.

1. He knocks on cherry blossom branches in spring to make it snow fragrant pink petals over me.

1. He has been known to spontaneously streak through the house naked to make me smile when I'm upset about something.

10. Most nights, he walks with me to the bedroom since I go to bed earlier than him, tucks me in, and sends me off to sleep with, “Holler if you need me.”

Yes, mine is the best person I’ve ever met. I don’t know why I did to deserve him, though it might have been the years I put in with my god awful first husband.

He’s thoughtful, kind, generous, funny, a wonderful dad (DC not mine), a great friend, he smells amazing, he cooks like a dream, he’s tidy, clean, super efficient, excels in his work, supports mine wholeheartedly, hes romantic, gorgeous and being with him, wherever we are, feels like home.

He also listens with complete focus. No matter how daft the question I ask! He always makes time to talk and listen and that’s so important. He likes holding hands.

Yes I have a wonderful husband...he'd do anything for me and to make me happy, works incredibly hard to provide for us, looks after me like no one else and I do the same for him. He's bloody good looking too although would never say he is.

I think Francesdedtroyed’s post belongs here if here is where she chose to put it.

Mine occasionally sends me scatty - he's loud, he takes up a lot of space in a small house and he smells funny - but he's a good one, yes.

He's a SAHD and I can leave DS with him for a day, weekend, week without ever having to worry about whether he'll think to cook for him, give him medication or make sure he has clean clothes. If I'm going to be late home from work he cooks a dinner that can be portioned and reheated. He gets on brilliantly with my family and will drop everything (except DS) to help them when they need it. And he mends my bike for me when our local pothole riddled roads break it.

Mine is very handsome and I totally trust him. He’s great in bed, affectionate, funny and intelligent. Very hard working too with lots of ambition.
Makes a nice change from my ex who was none of the above and cheated on me

Yes I think I have a brilliant dh. Not overly romantic most of the time and he can be grumpy. But he'd do anything for me.

Well you would say that, Newerversion.

The rest of us respect Gouldengirl9's very modest request.

Well he’s just asked what I want for dinner, and is making me a G&T - so yes, he’s one of the good ones

Wow ladies, this thread has helped me see it's not all doom and gloom. Thanks OP. Maybe one day I can come back to a thread like this and share.

Mine was for 10 years until he cheated.

Absolutely - the best person in the world I could have married. Strong, supportive and thoughtful husband who makes me laugh every day and knows what I'm thinking even better than I do sometimes (even if he drives me a little batty sometimes), a brilliant dad to our little boy, and a generous friend who always goes the extra hundred miles to help however he can.

No.

I was in 2 mind’s whether to read and post on this thread but actually the ones who have a wonderful DH and have written such lovely words- this gives me hope that maybe not all men are lying ass holes.

Yes! Been together 17 years this December and 34 now (childhood sweethearts). He does more then his fair share around the house and is actually a better housekeeper then me. He works and he's an amazing cook. He has his hobbies (computers) that I loathe....but I read and love my dramas so it works. We can never afford nights out but always have a few nights a week spending time together. We still make the time. We had a hiccup for 6 months in 2013 (no third party). He moved in with my brother and it gave us some space, we dated and was thrown right back to when we first met. Was the most horrendous and best thing that happened to us was our break. Married 12 years and 2 amazing DC and I couldn't be more proud of our family.

Yes he's great. He went from a young 25 year old ( when we met) unattached guy to taking on my three children from a previous relationship and now we have a baby together.
He moved in with us and became a brilliant father to them as well as a good partner to me.
He took responsibility and found a full time well paid job before he moved in with us and takes care of the rent. I feel so lucky to have met someone like that. He's gorgeous too.