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Have you got a good one. (Husband)

188 replies

Gouldengirl9 · 01/06/2018 16:56

After reading lots of threads that husbands are in the wrong in lots of ways eg affairs, spending money on himself not family, selfish in outlook. I would like to say I have a good DH, he's not perfect he has a few faults as we all do he wouldn't know a romantic jesture if it stared him in the face. But I trust him with my life, he has to be forced to spend money on himself. He tries to make sure I'm happy with every outing or holiday we have.
So come on everyone is your DH or DP a good one.

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 01/06/2018 19:17

Are posters with shitty exes reading the OPs thread title then specifically joining in to rain on everyone else’s parade?

OP says she started this thread to counteract the misery of affairs and awful husbands we sadly see so much of on here already.

I could bang on at length, and occasionally do, when it’s appropriate, about my fuck up of a first marriage and bastard of an ex. But that’s not what she asked.

Out there in the real world and on MN it’s far more likely and also more socially acceptable to slag off your man, bewail his flaws and have a moan about bad sex, substandard housework, shoddy parenting, lack of affection, an unsatisfactory relationship than it is to be thankful for what you have if it’s good and makes you happy.

It’s lovely to read the things people have to say about wonderful partners and husbands. It’s very sad a lot of people have had a hard time. There are loads of places on MN where you can share your woes with others in the same situation. Additionally, being able to say that yes, today, you’re happy and fulfilled and in a loving relationship that makes your life better isn’t mutually exclusive to having had shit exes. A lot of recognise what we have now having had bad past relationships and knowing what’s different. She didn’t ask who used to have a good husband before he screwed you over. She clearly asked do you have a good husband (at the moment). It’s truly heartwarming how many people do. Some people being happy doesn’t mean others aren’t can’t be again. There’s no limit on the number of good husbands in the world I hope.

SingingSands · 01/06/2018 19:19

Yes, I do.

21 years of love and laughter, he’s truly my best friend and greatest supporter and I am his.

I do realise I’m very lucky, we currently have 3 sets of friends who have just split up from their marriages recently. Not unusual at our age, but it shook us up a bit and we did tell each other “thank god I have you!”.

Hastalapasta · 01/06/2018 19:21

Yup, DH is human, but amazing, makes me laugh, listens to me, supports me, has given me 3 amazing DC, works really hard to support us, looks after us all and lets us look after him. Wouldn’t want anyone else. He is my partner, and gets me in a way that nobody else does.

I am sure that there are more like him in the world, that’s why I love threads like this!

NewSense · 01/06/2018 19:26

I think op asked do you have a good husband...? The answer to which could be yes or no. I can't see where she explicitly says positive stories only. She mentions other threads being mainly negative, but doesn't say "let's hear the good stories". She says "is your dh or dp a good one?"

MrsHappyAndMrCool · 01/06/2018 19:27

Yes I do and MrCool is the BEST Smile and everyday I make sure that I show my appreciation.

lynmilne65 · 01/06/2018 19:30

Wish I had a husband ( sometimes!!)

trustnoone2018 · 01/06/2018 19:31

This gives me hope that there are good ones out there . Hopefully one finds me too or I find him Grin

JeremyWadesTackle · 01/06/2018 19:34

I have a good 'un. Been together over 30 years. He is kind, loving, hard workin, a great dad, so funny and always puts me first. He is thoughtful and always treats me with care and respect. He isnt perfect, snores, can be a bit untidy. Dont know how i got so lucky, or how he puts up with me, i have ill health and can be a moody mare but he is my life. We laugh so much together, he always holds my hand when we go out walking. Life would be unthinkable without him in it

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 01/06/2018 19:34

Mine pulls more than his fair share with the kids and is having a vasectomy tomo to give me one less medication to worry about. Not v romantic and can be a tad tight at times but I definitely have my down sides too. We're a team and I trust him totally!

VodkaLimeSoda27 · 01/06/2018 19:35

Yes. We have had our problems but he is a kind, generous person who makes me laugh every day and has supported me through illness and some truly hellish times. I admire his ambition and ability to see the best in everybody.

We basically grew up together- we met very young, lived together through uni and moved countries for his work. Sometimes it's been really tough and we've had a lot of problems with in-laws but I'm really happy with him.

savingin2018welltryingto · 01/06/2018 19:37

Yes my husband is so kind and generous. I'm so proud of him. ❤️❤️❤️

Sosogoodagain · 01/06/2018 19:38

Love to read these....I maintain there's plenty of love to go round!

letallthechildrenboogie · 01/06/2018 19:42

Yes. We are both completely different with different interests and enjoy our time apart too....but morally and intellectually we are in the same space and have kept each other in one piece through so many crises. He doesn't do flowers and chocolates, but he is thoughtful enough to buy me the most fabulous umbrella which puts itself up as I couldn't manage a normal one with our little twins in the sling. I am all in favour of the practical gift! He also makes a very fine mojito which is next one my list of tasks for this evening.....

SkaTastic · 01/06/2018 19:45

I have a star I couldn't love him more. Been together nearly 11 years and he is ace. We don't really argue, we've been through some absolutely shit times together including his Mum and Dad both passing away, and we've come out of it even stronger. He does more than his fair share of house stuff and is ace in bed.

Viewofhedges · 01/06/2018 19:49

I do. And he's making dinner while I sit and recover after a rubbish day. He makes me a better person.

TheBogWitchIsBack · 01/06/2018 19:49

I do. He's an amazing person. He treats me like an equal, always respectful. He does everything he needs to round the house and is great with our dd, I have a ds from a previous relationship and he treats him like his own. I feel incredibly lucky. I was in an extremely abusive relationship prior to meeting my dh so it's really made me appreciate the man he is.

coldestwinter · 01/06/2018 19:53

I do.. like everyone else said, he is human and sometimes drives me a little crazy, But I know I'm not perfect by any means. I wouldn't change a thing about him though! Really lovely to see so many people in love on this thread (and others seeing that there are good men out there, promise!)

MissMarplesKnitting · 01/06/2018 19:55

Mine is a gem. Sure, he drives me crackers sometimes but I must do the same to him!

He's loyal, supportive, generous, kind and clever. He's a loving dad and gives the best bear hugs in the world.

Wouldn't swap him for anyone. And I've felt the same for 16 years.

Peanutbuttercups21 · 01/06/2018 19:57

Sometimes it helps to look at the bigger picture:

Would DH rush into a burning building to rescue me, the kids, our dog evenWink

He totally would

As would I

When that bit is 100%, all other niggles can be discussed/argued, imo

Starlive22 · 01/06/2018 19:57

Love this! So glad to see something nice and positive OP! I too have a good one, wonderful dad, wonderful husband. Lazy bugger and super bad with money but I wouldn't have him any other way!

CantankerousCamel · 01/06/2018 19:57

Yes! Thanks for making this post OP

My husband is incredible he’s been with me through some truly awful times and comeback to me when I’ve really not deserved it. He has loved me unconditionally when that has been the hardest thing in the world and I can’t fault him for it.

He is a generous man, privately and socially, he cares about noting more than his family and has worked very hard to get a steady career. I trust him with my everything and I am so grateful to know him

SadieContrary · 01/06/2018 19:59

My DH makes me feel like the luckiest woman in the world. Is he perfect? Nooooo. But you know what? He's perfect for me. Everything he does has his family at the forefront of his decisions. He works hard, is kind and generous with his time, love and money etc.
Do I wish he wouldn't sometimes announce (thankfully only in my earshot) that he needs 'poo time'? Hell yes, I roll my eyes to heaven and back every time but if that's the worst I have to put up with then I'm ok with that.

MissFire17 · 01/06/2018 20:00

I do. Been married 15 years, he’s my best friend and I love him more everyday. We’ve been through really tough times, and come out the other side closer and stronger than ever. He’s thoughtful, kind, a wonderful dad, very funny, and fantastic in bed. And he adores me and dc.

RoryDrinkUp · 01/06/2018 20:01

Absolutely, 100%, yes.

He is warm and kind and generous. He is very often selfless and puts me and our son before himself without any thought.

Sometimes he's a total bellend.

But mostly he's just bloody wonderful and I genuinely don't think I could live without him.

elQuintoConyo · 01/06/2018 20:01

Yes i do. 20 years together. I still can't believe my luck as i'm a bit of a weirdo!

He has supported me through depression, through a 5-year dry spell in the bedroom following ds' birth. He does housework as and when he sees it - sink covered in toothpaste, whiz round with cilit bang and a bogbrush. He doesn't care abput keeping up with the Joneses, isn't addicted to xbox etc, doesn't fart about doing "hobbies" all weekend every weekend. He is tolerant but doesn't suffer fools. There's a huge list.

Basically, he's not a dick and although he loves his mum dearly, he never wanted to crawl back up the birth canal!

And we still make each other laugh like hyenasGrin

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