Have you got a good one. (Husband)

[Gouldengirl9]

After reading lots of threads that husbands are in the wrong in lots of ways eg affairs, spending money on himself not family, selfish in outlook. I would like to say I have a good DH, he's not perfect he has a few faults as we all do he wouldn't know a romantic jesture if it stared him in the face. But I trust him with my life, he has to be forced to spend money on himself. He tries to make sure I'm happy with every outing or holiday we have.
So come on everyone is your DH or DP a good one.

My husband is truly wonderful.

He is the man of my dreams and I honestly couldn't want for a better person to spend the rest of my life with.

He is away working in India for 3 weeks and I miss his desperately.

I think the problem some people may have with this thread is that although this board has plenty of threads where the poster is having problems in their marriage that is probably because it is part of human nature toseek support in bad times. Whereas if you have a great marriage and no reason to seek support of course it seems odd to post just to say how great everything is.
Doesn't bother me much, I know lots of fab couples who have just awesome relationships and I love that. My own relationship was like this til recently too.

I think it is maybe a bit of a triggery title for many who frequent this topic though.

Thankfully, nobody is obliged to read threads here.

Yes. What is the point of it? Not single/alone btw although why you need to conflate that with being bitter, who knows 🤔

Overall, it’s a thumbs down from me. My DP is lazy and criticizes me for being lazy but happy to ruin my work and can’t see that it might put me off doing it again eg almost always walks into kitchen in muddy wellies minutes after I have washed floor.
However, he does have his good points. He is very good at orgnanising lovely holidays and is generous at Xmas and birthdays. He is a good person at heart, but he often behaves like a spoiled child.

I guess it is a bit like a thread started on a TTC topic to say how great your newborn is.

Maybe because you've come onto a thread about decent husband's to bitch?

You do realise that some people's relationships are good and some men are nice?

Erm, did you even read my post? Of course I realise that, hell, I love that. However it is also worth realising how this thread placed in this topic will obviously trigger some posters- it stands to reason when many posters frequent this topic at their very lowest point. And just in case you still misread my post-I did not bitch at all, I just put forward a very valid reason that some posters may find this thread goady.

I wasn't talking to you, Newer

Also, people don't have to read it, or comment on it.

The title alone is often enough. Also, triggering of course illicit reaction. We all know that. Particularly if it happens in a zone people consider safe and supportive.

Sorry should say triggering often elicits a reaction.

My dh is a sweetheart.
He is probably the most decent person I have ever met and makes me a better person. He is patient, kind, and extremely clever.
Both my dd said that they want to marry a man just like their daddy.

Yep. He’s just got back from a work trip & despite having had a 24 hourish long flight, he’s sat patiently with our 8yo who has waited all week to do some homework with him. Hs’s currently slumped on the sofa opposite me loosing the fight against trying to stay on UK time.

We’ve been together since I was 19. He has his irritating points, but ten nights alone in the bed & kid-wrangling has given me a fresh appreciation for him!

For goodness sake. Can't there just be a nice, appreciative thread without it descending into triggering snarkiness?

There is no snarkinedd in my posts whatsoever, just sense I think. I haven’t been anything but polite and tried to answer questions. If you choose not to respect that to some posters on this topic the thread title will of course be pretty bad and they may just answer the question honestly then that is totally your choice.

For goodness sake
The relationship section is usually all doom and gloom
I am glad to read a positive thread

As I said earlier, people seeking support at the lowest points in their lives. Selfish buggers with all their doom and gloom in a topic designed to support. Tsk tsk.

People are allowed to post about whatever they want. Even if that’s a positive thread.

I think it’s weird to be offended or upset by the relationship of a complete randomer on the Internet, personally.

I don’t think I or anyone else is offended by this post - why would they be? - and personally I don’t think it is triggering or whatever.
I just wonder about the motives of threads like this.
It can only be a smugfest. Honestly can’t think of any other motive. Unless anybody can enlighten me?
I just think it is silly. Pride before the fall an’ all that.

just as it is weird to get upset by randomners who choose to question what the point of a thread is?

On both sides of the coin you could argue that reactions are pointless I guess?

But, humans are just that- reactionary. That and very opinionated. Hence forums such as this.

Actually there should be a separate mumsnet area entitled “I’m alright Jack” for people who want to share posts about how great they think their relationship is. I’m serious.

I hadn’t really considered the pride before a fall slant before 😮. I guess had I answered this thread last year it would have been just that though. Sobering thought.

More than one poster has said that she’s found the thread comforting.

It’s not for either of you to police what people post.

You assume the motivation is smugness. Perhaps it’s not.

Why not just leave it alone, if it’s not to your liking?

And the pride before fall thing is pure spite.

What a miserable way to live your life, do you just wait for your husband/partner/boyfriend/girlfriend to cheat and fuck off? Odd way to live.

Besides, I’m not sure it’s prideful to say “yes, I’m happy with my husband.”

Where have I tried to police? I think rather that I have been policed 😉. People should apparently not post on this thread if they don’t like it? Policing? 😂
I have merely tried to explain a possible reason for negative reactions to the thread.