Have you got a good one. (Husband)

[Gouldengirl9]

After reading lots of threads that husbands are in the wrong in lots of ways eg affairs, spending money on himself not family, selfish in outlook. I would like to say I have a good DH, he's not perfect he has a few faults as we all do he wouldn't know a romantic jesture if it stared him in the face. But I trust him with my life, he has to be forced to spend money on himself. He tries to make sure I'm happy with every outing or holiday we have.
So come on everyone is your DH or DP a good one.

Why do you keep assuming everything is addressed to you?

What two posters were you addressing if not me? Am confused.

Where did I say I was addressing two posters??

I have made direct reference to another poster’s points and you just keep jumping in and answering the posts!

Are you always this eager to get involved in stuff?!

When you posted ‘it’s not for either of you to police’.

Can you see why I read that as being addressed to two posters?

Nice little PA grin though, here’s one in return 😄

I wasn't talking to you either, yet you jumped in on that too.

It's very odd to be so negative about a positive thread. What a way to live life.

My god! ONE of my posts was to you. The other was a direct response to the other poster’s point.

How weirdly over-invested you are. You ok Hun?

Nope, I personally don’t feel negatively about this thread just tried to make posters see why some people may have reacted in a negative way to it because they were questioning why some might.

So the post I answered about policing was to me?

Maybe it is you who is overly invested, I think it could be.

Everything ok?

No, everything isn’t ok. I’m so, so, SO upset that somewhere in the world people who have nothing to do with me might be happily married.

Thank god for people like you who can tell off the big bad meanies who haven’t gotten divorced yet.

Thank you SO much for your very important service to sad, single women everywhere who are incapable of even having the knowledge that some relationships are ok.

There you go - happy now?

They really need to sort out Sunday night telly

Dear god! Who knew that nasty snipes were the best way to make a point?
Glad I didn’t resort to them, but why would I? It is just a discussion forum.

I like this thread, it debunks the myth that all men are bastards, it's sad that there are some who think the people on this thread are just in ticking-time-bomb relationship waiting for Mr. Stereotype to shag someone else. These stereotypes are unhealthy messages to send out to both boys and girls and I can only hope they are not sending this message to their children.

Girls raised with ideology that all men are the same, can't help themselves and can't be good are often bigger targets for abuse because they expect it, accept it and often seek it.

I would understand the comments if the OP had posted this in marriage/divorce, then it would be like posting about newborns in the TTC section or loss. But relationships are relationships, they come in all shapes and sizes. I'm really sorry for those that suffered. But one man is not all men, one relationship is not all. Some men are good, just as some women are not.

Some of us may lose what we have, some of us might be the ones that cause the collapse. But that's not what thus thread is about.

Yep, he is amazing.

I could go on and on about how great he is but suffice it to say I have a good one.

With his illness we have been through some difficult situations but we have always worked as a team and have each others backs. we love and accept each other just as we are.

This is the relationship board. It isn't just a board for people to talk about bad or difficult relationships. It is nothing like going onto the TTC board to talk about your amazing newborn.

I grew up only hearing about shit marriages, it was what I was surrounded by. It took me a long time and heartache to realise that my experiences around me weren't the norm for everyone.

Yes. This is our 13th year together. We’ve just had our second child and we’re very much in love but tired and cranky.

However he is expressive, communicative, kind, hardworking and an excellent dad.

He’s generous with his time, money and emotions and he is very handsome too.

He tells me I’m his best friend and he’s definitely mine.

I have a wonderful DP. Together 13 years had so many ups and downs (illness, bereavement, job losses etc.) But he's daft. Completely loving. He also pushes me to be the best me I can be. He saw what I didn't within me and he's given me the confidence to go and do things I thought I never could achieve. He's also so humble about his own achievements.

My DH is under a lot of pressure right now with a very responsible position ( own business) so working all hours.

BUT he still does the laundry, gardening, takes the bins out, cooks, cleans, takes the dogs for a walk twice a day, helps the DC with their homework, takes the DC to school.

He is extremely handsome, kind, gentle, helpful, fully supportive of me when I wanted to start my own business and helps out with that when he can, he makes me laugh every day, he brings me a cup of tea in bed, he surprises me with long weekends away in the UK and abroad.

He has a very silly, soppy side but he also works out at the gym and is very fit and he is really intelligent and interesting: he speaks many languages and has lived in many countries so we have friends to stay with all over the world.

He is my and my DC's absolute rock. You could not wish to meet a lovelier chap.

I wish every woman had a DH like mine.

We have gorgeous sons who are just like him!

I too have a diamond of a husband. He's not perfect but then neither am I. He works very hard to provide for me. We just bought a flat that he renovated himself during his fortnight holiday and worked 15 hours a day to achieve a fantastic result. Considering he was 60 this year, he has more energy than someone half his age. I love him to bits.

Yes, he is my best friend. We have nothing in common, no interests in the same things but we just seem to work. We have been married 10 years.

He is an amazing dad to our little girl, I couldn't have asked for better. He is always there when she needs him.

He can make me laugh, even when I am angry.
He always encourages me to do things that I want to do, I can sometimes lack confidence in myself, but he builds me up.
He strokes my hair to help me fall asleep because he knows it makes me feel relaxed and safe.
And when I am being extremely lazy and don't want to move, he brings me treats and the remote and tells me to relax.

He has his faults too, can be selective in his hearing which drives me mad. He can get so engrossed in his hobbies that you can't get him to do anything. He Is very vocal about politics and can sometimes be pushy in his opinions but if you tell him, he does apologise and back off.

He is not perfect, but he is perfect for me.

I have a good one too. Mind, he drives me up the pole sometimes and I'm sure I do the same to him. We've been together 30+ years, have 2 DC. Yes, we had the shit hit the fan on quite a few occasions and some very stressful times, but we are committed to each other and have always come out at the other end, together. He is hardworking and generous, has always supported me with my profession, pulls his weight with housework etc.
Has always supported DC academically and taken them to their different activities. He loves them to bits and has a strong relationship with both of them.
We have no problems going out to the pub, dinner or holidays on our own as we still have plenty to chat about.

I honestly do have a lovely husband. He's a bit dull and after 23 years he bugs me but i love him dearly! He never loses his temper, he does his fair share of housework etc - more than his fair share if I'm honest! When the kids were little he took as much responsibility for them as I did. He adopted my son so we'd all have the same surname (after the birth of our DD) and because he was a much better dad than my ex ever was. Even he admits that.

I've never seriously worried about him cheating on me. I did in the beginning because of past experiences and I gave him such a hard time but he took it because he loved me.

He's complimentary and thinks I'm way too good for him. He's not the most highly educated guy but he's so wise and sensible.

Yes he's immature (thinks he's still in his 20s!), he's stuck in his ways, he can be a bit judgemental about drug addicts, criminals and such but if these are his worse faults, I'm doing ok.

He's way too good for me if I'm honest!