Have you got a good one. (Husband)

[Gouldengirl9]

After reading lots of threads that husbands are in the wrong in lots of ways eg affairs, spending money on himself not family, selfish in outlook. I would like to say I have a good DH, he's not perfect he has a few faults as we all do he wouldn't know a romantic jesture if it stared him in the face. But I trust him with my life, he has to be forced to spend money on himself. He tries to make sure I'm happy with every outing or holiday we have.
So come on everyone is your DH or DP a good one.

I don’t think you’re “prey” at all. I just don’t think the poster meant anything other than “I think this thread is supposed to be for positive stories”.

I’m not criticising you!

Yes, I am so very lucky to say I have one of the best of the good uns.

He is kind, gentle, funny, very smart, and quite easy on the eye. Cooks really well, and makes excellent coffee. He would walk through fire for his people. He is also very attentive and makes me swoon. Still. After 37 years I consider myself the luckiest woman on the planet.

Don't know what I did to deserve him, really.

I've been a good, loyal wife and mother. I met my H when I was very young at university.
I 've always worked hard, been loving, caring and, "nice."
I've kept my figure despite 2 dcs, major injury and a mastectomy for breast cancer.
Ithought I had the perfect H.
I was wrong.
It's shocking.
I hope it never happens to you.

Frances, that’s really awful.

Maybe you could start your own thread for support? That might help you more.

FWIW I don’t think your figure had anything to do with it. Some men are just bastards no matter what you weigh/how you look.

Frances and a big hug. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

We are perfectly imperfect together. Despite being polar opposites.

I am sorry, Frances

Frances or as appropriate

My Dh and I have been together for 26yrs, married for 23yrs. He is my best friend, and I love him with all my heart. He would do anything for me and our children, and we are very lucky to have him.

@FrancesDestroyed
I think you should start a thread too. It might help a lot.
Sounds like a huge amount that you’ve had to go through.
Threads like this make me feel very sad too in their own way, sometimes I think it’s simply luck that others end up with someone they love so much. But I think we all could have come on here at some point in our relationships and said how wonderful our DH were. Sadly many of us are more cynical now.

Sorry Frances, I was just answering the op. I didn't read the whole thread. Sorry you're going through a bad time 🌸

I’m married to the loveliest person I have ever met. I’ll never forget when I was heavily pregnant and driving to work in awful weather and really didn’t want to be going to work, the car was de-iced and there was an iced chocolate muffin on the dashboard and a hot chocolate in my hot mug....

for People out there who are wondering....
It’s not how often he tells you he loves you, it’s how often he SHOWS it....
it’s not about flash gestures or extravagant declarations. It’s about chocolate muffins (and warming your side of the bed for you before you get in!)

52 years together here, and that old saying that no one uses now is true of us, he's my other half. My totally opposite other half. We are now at that time of life when we know that one of us will be left behind, he desperately wants that to be me, and he's right, he will struggle without me, I keep him grounded.

My heart bleeds for Frances, life is so undeservingly terrible sometimes.

Francis I don't think you've done anything wrong in posting here. The question was 'do you have a good one?' and you answered honestly. Ignore any nit picking from others, they clearly haven't been through the type of pain betrayal brings xx

I have the most amazing boyfriend for many reasons.

I hope we are together forever. He makes my life wonderful and I thank my lucky stars that he is mine.

He tells me often that he is happy and I'm so proud of our relationship I really am.

I can't even say he's not perfect because to me his is. He honestly gives me no bother at all and I've never been more myself with anyone.

I absolutely cherish me and I know I am loved.

Frances, I am sorry. If you start your own thread you will get great advice.

Woder, 58 years! Wow!

Frances take no notice of Silage's pompous little message. You simply answered the question the OP asked. You are as entitled to post as anyone else is.

Nope. Next thread !

Yes I have a lovely husband.

But it's a shame when you read about shockingly awful ones on MN which are often so bad you had no concept of it.

Like reading about happy birth stories but knowing others are going through the trauma of a miscarriage.

Like never wanting to post holiday pictures on social media knowing that others might not be able to afford to go on holiday.

It is hard to celebrate or talk about how wonderful our DHs are if we have empathy for others who don't and who might be reading.

Yes I do. We have fallen out currently for which i am about to go say sorry as i don’t want to go to bed on an argument (ive just got in from work). But falling out is rare.

It’s not how often he tells you he loves you, it’s how often he SHOWS it....
it’s not about flash gestures or extravagant declarations. It’s about chocolate muffins (and warming your side of the bed for you before you get in!)

This is so true. Sadly mine doesn’t measure up

Nope. Abusive arsehole. Next time I'm joining the club of those with good husbands though. I promise myself

He’s my best friend and my equal. At whilst he often drives me crazy I love him with all my heart,

Yes! I have a fantastic one. Kind, generous, selfless, funny... he makes my life so much better.

I do, he's perfect and my best friend ! Ever since we had our DS I have loved him more and more each day