Alright, I'm venting. long vent alert - no pressure guys sorry
I'm stressed. I'm worried about it all.
I cannot believe I have become a person that has let this man affect me in the way he has. Yes am pregnant, and yes I want and I still feel willing to do everything I can to make him see.
I feel fine, then all of a sudden its anger and frustration that comes washing over, like red mist. I physically don't know where else to put the rage - expect in a stupid message to him. I hate this power he has, and I'm trying and trying to not let him have that power over me.
The message I sent the other day - two blue ticks. Its rage. Pure rage and hate, I can feel it seeping out of me...
I want to not be my worst enemy, but I cant seem or don't seem able to help myself.
I really don't want to slip back to the stressed out, overly emotional person I was 1-2 months ago.
I've come such a long way.
I know I personally felt that I had to break the NC to see if anything had changed, I think I knew deep down that I was never going to get the reaction and answers I deserve.
He's 33 for Christ sake.
I just let it eat me, like that 4 weeks of me not saying anything. I managed, I had bad days but I did it.
I just don't understand, how a person can be this way. Can ghost someone? And do it so blatantly - its because I keep saying I wont do anything and I then I keep doing it. So to him - I guess its 'well shes still there trying to contact me' 'I can keep telling her the lies and she'll believe them'.
And honestly - its because I know in 2-4 weeks time, instead of being 2.5hrs away, he'll be at a new barracks which is 45mins away.
I know this makes no difference to our situation, but he'll be so close. My friends (single) might see him on Tinder...he could be passing my house from time to time, he could be out in my town on nights out. I do not want him anywhere near me. This is honestly one of the main reasons for me being so angry and irate. My friends and family said straightaway, they've noticed as the time period gets shorter, I'm fretting more. How silly of me is it that I've let it affect me.
I feel like to him I'm portraying myself as desperate to be loved. I'm not, everyone wants to be loved yes... but I'm desperate for him to be a permanent fixture in my child's life. Its like I cant see myself really doing it without him, until this baby is here and I do it.
I know everyone here and in my life have told me I'll be better off, and that my child will be loved - and I agree. It's just getting to that stage, I feel like I'll break. But then I think no 'you wont break - you're strong you've managed 6months of pregnancy without him and you managed a month NC'
I don't want to hate him - he's the father to my child. There will always be something there. I just don't want to feel as passionately as I do about it all. Because he doesn't deserve me.
I want to be able to talk like an adult to a man that has helped me create life.
I am so sorry, I feel like you'll read this and be like PULL IT TOGETHER
I've been through this stage, I don't want to be here again.
I feel like I shouldn't feel this way, and I feel bad for not being over it.
rant complete