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is my dp gay?

53 replies

rdk · 17/05/2007 00:06

ive been with my dp for 6 years but all of a sudden hes turned funny in the bedroom and he enjoyes anul pleasure (eg things up his back passage) which i find disgusting as hes never mentioned it before do you think theres something going on. sorry but i have no one i can openly speak to about this as im so confused please help x

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ScottishThistle · 17/05/2007 00:07

I doubt it, he probably just found out that's where his G-spot is!

DevilsAdvocado · 17/05/2007 00:08

It doesn't mean he is gay, no.

Have you ever had any stimulus round your back passage when making love? It's rather nice

heightens the arousal for many men & women

Have you any other reason to believe he is gay?

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rdk · 17/05/2007 00:09

thanks sco thistle , but i really cant be messing in that area its sick what does anyone else think

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mamazon · 17/05/2007 00:11

the male equivelant of a G spot is located inside his anus, it is not abnormal for a straight man to enjoy such an act.

its more psychological side 9they thin its "gay" that prevents more men from trying it.

Spidermama · 17/05/2007 00:11

Assuming you're not having us on ....

If it's not your thing don't do it and make it clear to him you're not into it.

It has nothing to do with being gay though. Loads of straight couples enjoy a bit of it.

mamazon · 17/05/2007 00:11

just because it doesn't float your boat doesn't make it sick.

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rdk · 17/05/2007 00:12

this may sound horrible and sick but he was really loose in that area and it didnt hurt him when using a toy and i could imagine it hurting the first time unless hes done it b4

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ScottishThistle · 17/05/2007 00:13

Maybe he's been doing it to himself for years!

Spidermama · 17/05/2007 00:14

Trip trap.

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rdk · 17/05/2007 00:15

sorry what do you mean by trip trap

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JeremyVile · 17/05/2007 00:16

Umm, yes. yes he is definitely gay. He told me so himself in fact.

mamazon · 17/05/2007 00:17

it is quite possible that he has enjoyed anul stimulation for a great number of years but hass not been brave ebough to tell you as he realises you find it "sick"

so long as he doesnt try and stick it up your arse what are you worried about?

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rdk · 17/05/2007 00:17

thanks all as i would have bin thinking daft things.

like someone said b4 what ever floats ur boat.x

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sparklygothkat · 17/05/2007 00:17

triptrap

DevilsAdvocado · 17/05/2007 00:18

I hope you wash the toy before you use it on yourself

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rdk · 17/05/2007 00:19

im not worried just couldnt hurt his feelings and start asking him loads of questions thankyou x

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CheesyFeet · 17/05/2007 00:21

loads of men like this sort of play, gay or straight. Lots oof women do too.

I have to say that it's not for me though. I don't think it's sick at all and have no problem with anyone else enjoying it, it just doesn't turn me on.

If your dp respects you he should respect your views and not pressure you into it but don't assume there is a problem with your relationship because of it as that isn't the case - unless you have other concerns of course.

In fact I think you should be pleased he trusts you enough to share with you what turns him on

mamazon · 17/05/2007 00:22

Ann summers sell a fab strap on which hassd a vibrating bullet inside the actual pouch. you get to use it on him whilst also getting the vibration yourself...everyones a winner

lemme know if your interested

VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/05/2007 00:24

To quote one of my favourite MNers "how on earth would we know?"

KerryMum · 17/05/2007 00:28

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rdk · 17/05/2007 00:28

thankyou for all those who have helped im going now, im going asleep.

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Original poster
rdk · 17/05/2007 00:29

age gap, no

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mamazon · 17/05/2007 00:30

i have been nothing but informative and supportive.

oggsfrog · 17/05/2007 00:31

Ah bollocks, thought I might have been able to use my first trip trap, but foiled again.

I was too late on the "husband wearing a better wedding dress than me" one too

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rdk · 17/05/2007 00:32

thanks all but most go now night every one x

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