is my dp gay?

[rdk]

ive been with my dp for 6 years but all of a sudden hes turned funny in the bedroom and he enjoyes anul pleasure (eg things up his back passage) which i find disgusting as hes never mentioned it before do you think theres something going on. sorry but i have no one i can openly speak to about this as im so confused please help x

I wouldn't say he is gay but i would query why he is suddenly coming up with new techniques in the bedroom. You should sit down and talk to him about it - may be enlightening for you both - he may have been fantasising about thsi for a long time and only just been able to introduce it to you - surely if you talk more then the end result will be a happier and more fulfilled boudoir as you can also express your likes and dislikes.

If you don't like doing it though, you don't have to and you should never feel pressurised to do anything that you don't want to. As you DP he should understand that.

Ripax: I have a DS, how could I not have had f'ing piles? And I could reach them with the trusty anusol....

(Yes, that's way TMI, I'll get me coat).

I thought all men liked this! Certainly never found one who didn't anyway. It's got nothing to do with being gay. The majority of women like receiving oral sex but it doesn't necessarily make them lesbians.

If you remember back to being really young you probably thought most sexual acts were sick at some point, but remember anything that boosts your sexual repertoire and add options in the bedroom is good thing and saves you both getting bored.

In my experience most men who are into that like it as an optional extra and not something they want to do every time. I'm hesitant about suggesting you read up on prostate massage because you don't sound as if it'd be something you'd want to try.

If the thought of getting stuck in (so to speak) is putting you off, then tell him that while it's not your bag, you're glad he's happy to share his fantasies with you. Maybe you could share one or two of your own?

Personally I'd use the opportunity to go on a kinky spending spree. Let him choose a toy suitable for anal use and see how many toys, gadgets and underwear you can get for yourself off the back of it!