Am I being love bombed?

[Neweternal]

I met this guy for a date and yes I like him but after one, one short date (one drink) . He tells me he is in love and that's it I'm the woman for him, he can wait to have sex months and months. I'm not sure. I have had other men being keen and very available after a short time but this is different as I feel a bit of pressure to commit when I haven't had enough time to be sure about him. I do like him a lot, but I'm wary. Any advice? He is nearly 50, his kids are at boarding school I'm early 40s. How do you know the difference between being over amorous and a potential abuser. To be fair he good friends with both his ex wives.

wha???

very occasionally the moon is blue and love does strike on first encounter but tbh I'd be seriously taken aback by a declaration of love like that. If nothing else, at nearly 50 you'd think he had learned to be a bit more graceful socially.

Do you believe him when he says he's good friends with his ex wives?

Feeling pressured is no good either.

No, I think I'd be backing away from this one.

He sounds like a lunatic or a scammer. Perhaps both.

Could you love someone after one date? How can anyone know someone enough to love someone they don't know. Maybe he feels it and is being genuine and has felt a connection with you, but all that tells you is his feelings are shallow and he's immature.
Personally this would put me right off

And yes to scammer. All the dodgy types like narcs and sociopaths use love bombing to hook their targets, so that they are already committed before they realise what they're dealing with.
What evidence have you seen he's friends with his exs? Potential for triangulation there.
And that his kids are in boarding school? Not saying they're not but how do you know?

Steer well clear! That's OTT and I think a red flag

My DH told his mother he'd met the girl he was going to marry after our first date. 30 years ago, and still married.

It's possible but I think it's odd

I know because he added me to his Facebook. He only has 20 friends two being ex wives and the rest are his family who are very loving. Kids are in uniform in pictures. They seem to think he is an amazing Dad too. As so as I was added the whole family knew about me.

It does seem strange and he seem reluctant to give me space to think, which concerns me. He tell me he just loves hard!

That’s way too much way too soon! I would avoid as that sounds massively worrying!
Also being Facebook friends does not mean they get on.

They goes in pictures together with his kids and new new husband.

Her new husband, sorry posted too soon.

He's an 'all or nothing' type, I bet.
I mean, to be saying this to you at his age with his history (he's done the marriage thing twice) is a bit of a red flag.
I know, I know. I sound harsh. But I don't think I'm too far off the mark.
I'd expect a more level-headed, 'lived it, learned it', mellow approach.

Fools rush in and all that.

He can't have been such an amazing husband if he's got two ex wives..

He may think that he really likes you but he should be a bit more reserved in my opinion.

Too much too soon!

Not having any friends on Facebook seems odd also. I know some people don’t use it much, but even so.

You say you feel,pressure to commit. If you feel uncomfortable, then that’s not right. Listen to your inner voice and what it’s telling you.

Agree with pp, he has two ex wives. This suggests that he has an idealised vision of love and relationships which real life can never fulfil.

Did you meet him online? Have you googled him? Have you done an image search with his profile pic?

It’s too much. Be very wary. Perhaps he just enjoys himself in this stage, admiring his own ‘passion’, enjoying being that. It’s not personal to you.

Two wives down suggests he like the experience of meeting someone new and love bombing.

You do not know him and he does not know you, so he is inventing this feeling and expecting you to play along? Nope.

both his ex wives... May give you an insight! Stick with your suspicions and hopefully he'll prove us wrong!

Too much of a risk, fun for the hills.

I'd be running away fast before I became ex wife #3!

As so as I was added the whole family knew about me.

It does seem strange and he seem reluctant to give me space to think, which concerns me. He tell me he just loves hard!

In this case - NO.

Anyone who is reluctant to give you space when telling you he loves you madly after the first date is bad news.

He is now telling me no one has ever questioned him in his life before. He is a man of his word and never cheated, one wife had an affair the other just grew apart. He also tells me he is a mature man knows his feelings and I should just let him love me. He wants a life with me, he knows his feelings and that's that. He is quite a successful guy but this isn't normal is it?

How are you not hyperventilating at all this OP? I am and I'm just reading it. Run!

This is a red flag. Please do not continue your relationship. Men who do this tend to be hyper controlling and even sometimes violent. Get out now.