I think it’s happening again.

[AMillionKisses]

DP hasn’t been home, I’ve tried calling his phone his phone is ringing, when I was calling him around 11o’clock last night I was getting the busy tone, so he can talk to other people but avoid my calls?

He has a history of cheating, I break up with him but always let him back again.

I am tired of this, I’m also 7 months pregnant with our fourth child, when I fell pregnant he said he’d never hurt me again.

What you have is 4 potentially damaged kids under 30 to someone who is engaged in nefarious activities who has another family and seemingly active sex life outside of your household. What you don’t have is home security, a job, any self-respect, the respect of your partner, parents or children, a clean STI record or a life.

What do you actually want people to tell you on this thread?!

God makes them, and he matches them.

'I am 100% confident that I will never be asked to leave this house, not by my sons father or by his father, the boys father may be a cheat but he would never tell me to leave the house.'

So that's ok then

Why are you even posting

Your morals are on the floor. Your bar is set low enough for a champion limbo meister....so what's your problem. You are clearly happy in your soup, so carry on letting it simmer.

You are one of life's takers

Poor kids

@anothernamechanged I can not move my children out of the area my 8 year olds education fees have been paid in advance and my 4 year old has been accepted into the same school, I messed up and I need to make sure they won’t.

your like a child yourself,being looked after when you should be acting like adults do

do you not see your children need a parent who will parent,your dp is clearly not interested in that part

do you have any friends?interests?

'my 8 year olds education fees have been paid in advance'

Now any of us who actually have dc at Prep know this is bull

you say you need to not mess up for them but you are doing nothing to stop the same happening again

its like your dp's needs come first,then yours,then the kids

@MarthasGinYard - Yes you can pay educational fees in advance, hopefully someone else will come in and clarify this.

@MarthasGinYard agreed!

OP you are a hot mess. You deserve your fetid life. You clearly thrive on the drama cos you have sweet FA else going on in your life. Just download some more snoop apps and knock yourself out.

The door is that way ————->

We pay a term in advance of course we do.

But It's peanuts to get out of a situation like yours (if it exists)

I wouldn't give a damn about a few terms school fee's

'hopefully someone else will come in and clarify this'

Roll up roll up .

The best education is worthless if they've got a shit home life.

You say you KNOW their Dad would never kick you out. I thought that my DCs Dad would never turn his back on them. Guess what? He did. You can't ever really trust another person. Especially one who deals drugs and infects you with STDs.

I guess now we hear your dc aren't just at the local prep but at some real corker....

Other than the one booted out of course....

well sign them up to board at least they would have a chance of a safe up bringing

@MarthasGinYard ok, so you would know about the discount fee? I’m not referring to a term in advance.

@flopsyrabbit1 that's probably the best suggestion on this thread.

again money more important

Well it’s true that with private school a clear term’s notice has to be given, so fees would now have to be paid to Christmas. However moving is still an option.

Regardless...

OP where do you see yourself and the DC in, say, 5 years time? Where would you like to be and what do you think the reality will be?

We get fifteen percent

Nothing really

It's no deal breaker

Pocket change in the great scheme of things

OP- yes I know he's moved out from your posts but I meant he will ask to come back and you will let him. That cycle will continue as it always has and you won't leave him.

I can't believe you are putting staying in the area, house and lifestyle above your children's welfare. It's unbelievable that you wouldn't leave unless you have xyz.

Are you sure he wouldn't want the house back? It seems unlikely. Plus, if he's got that house through illegal means could it be taken from you anyway by police, people he owes money too

And if there is an ounce of truth

Get them boarding

@MarthasGinYard no they’re all at Eton. Her ‘DP’ is probably some international diamond thief whose other woman is an International Supermodel who caught the original STI from Leonardo DiCaprio, that’s why her DP so torn and mysterious. But it’s ok cos she has her mansion and Daddy’s millions.

Oh, and yes, school fees can be paid in advance several years at a time - with a good discount for doing so

Village

In her wildest dreams

Diamonds More like 'Mr pimp from Putney'

My first son did get permanently excluded from his primary school (you most probably read my other thread (it wasn’t a prep-school) I wasn’t going to risk sending him to one, I need to focus on getting him the help and the support so he will be able cope being in the next school he goes to (he doesn’t want to go to school) but hopefully in time he will.