I think it’s happening again.

[AMillionKisses]

DP hasn’t been home, I’ve tried calling his phone his phone is ringing, when I was calling him around 11o’clock last night I was getting the busy tone, so he can talk to other people but avoid my calls?

He has a history of cheating, I break up with him but always let him back again.

I am tired of this, I’m also 7 months pregnant with our fourth child, when I fell pregnant he said he’d never hurt me again.

And buying your kids computer games to make up for their utterly shit lives.

@Oliversmumsarmy Ok then. I am not prepared to rent a two bedroom house and sleep on a sofa bed in the living room, I would not put my children through that kind of poverty, I can not afford to rent somewhere equivalent to somewhere we live now (terms of area) as rent here is very high, then there would also be the cost of living for me and the boys. So I will not be doing that.

I will continue buying the boys the things they like to keep them happy.

You value your lifestyle over your own mental and emotional wellbeing as well as the wellbeing of your children.

I'd rather lie on a blow up bed in a flat with my children and be happy than expose them to an abusive, std riddled criminal.

Starting somewhere new is always hard. You've been with this man since you were a child yourself so you don't know anything else. You don't know that you won't cope, you've never had to function as self sufficient adult. For the sake of your children it's time you tried.

"That level of poverty". Considering you don't actually work, you could be experiencing a far greater level of poverty.

Ugh

What a fetted life

Your poor dc

Carry on as you are then, OP. I’m sure it will all change without you having to lift a finger.

Reported this and sadly it's still here.

OP you are deluded & an awful mother interrogating your 12 year old about his father's behaviour & whereabouts when you don't/won't even interrogate his father. How dare you treat a CHILD like that? He is not your spy & you are under the impression that he has no idea about his dad's behaviour. Wow! What do you think he thinks is going on when you question him then? No wonder he misbehaves! As you stated he was diagnosed with ADHD then they said that wasn't the case. So this is soley down to his environment & what he is being asked to deal with by both self centred parents. People like you should never be blessed with children you are far too wrapped up in your own wants & needs.

Also you say you couldn't cope with them all alone but by the sounds of it your partner is never around much anyway as he is living a double life with his other child's mother from the sounds as well as out drug dealing all times of the day & night hence always being "tired"!

Yet you did mention travelling to stay with your parents in the US/China alone with the kids in the holidays!?? So I assume you manage 3 kids then on a plane for hours so why can you not live alone & their dad do the bare minimum he does now whilst you are providing a safe environment for your poor children. Oh yes, I forgot... you like the drug dealing lifestyle you have become accustomed to. Some great morals there OP!

**To the poor OP who started the thread asking if she was a shit mum yesterday.... no my dear..... THIS OP is the definition of shit mum!

You are also a criminal living off of criminal proceeds so if you think your sweet little life will stay that way forever good luck because many women in your position have & do also go to jail alongside their partners. Then where will that leave your kids? In a worse position & very possibly in care.

You are also a criminal living off of criminal proceeds so if you think your sweet little life will stay that way forever good luck because many women in your position have & do also go to jail alongside their partners. Then where will that leave your kids? In a worse position & very possibly in care.

this^^
Knowingly living with and exposing your children to whatever illegal shit he gets up to is a massive risk.

Is there anyway Mumsnet can get involved with this thread to find out if it's real? There are children at danger here if it is.

I asked for my previous comment to be removed however ive reported and MN is looking into this at last

I’m not sure if this would be a safeguarding issue. The only actual current danger is the adverse effects the OP would have on her unborn child if she were to be passing on an STI to him/her.

Ok then. I am not prepared to rent a two bedroom house and sleep on a sofa bed in the living room, I would not put my children through that kind of poverty

You are seriously deluded.

The families I know who do this monetary speaking make you look like a pauper.
What you have is courtesy of someone else's work. You from what you have said have nothing.

You are living off immoral earnings and pocket money sent to you by parents who couldn't be arsed to guide their 16year old dd and what ever crumbs anyone else throws you.

You might think you are rich because of your lifestyle but when it comes down to it what do you actually own.

If you don't protect your dc SS will get involved when your partner gets caught.
They always get caught. Do you think they will be impressed by your temporary home and your parenting style of buying computer games to keep your children happy.

@Oliversmumsarmy what else are you going to come up with to get a negative reaction out of me? “pauper” ok then.

OP- I don't think you're going to leave at all. If he leaves you will have him back if he asks. You say you can't live like this and want out but only on your own terms. So you want to keep the lifestyle and the four bed house. If you can't keep that you won't go. You don't want to leave enough yet so you won't.

@1981m he has left; I’m hoping that he stays away. None of you have no idea how I’m feeling inside, you do not know how hard this is for me I’m trying to keep a brave on for the children.

But you are a pauper

What actually do you have.

Your home is owned by someone else and you could be asked to leave at any time. Even in rented you are protected by a lease.

You don't work and are reliant on some one else for money.

As someone who brought up 2 DC in a 2 bed house I didn't think we were living in poverty . nor did the families I know who live in 1 bed flats with DC. If you think that is poverty you have a very screwed thinking of what poverty looks like.

Living in
'Paupers paradise' I'd say
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@Oliversmumsarmy so that was an attempt for me to tell you what else I have? Ok then.

'Your home is owned by someone else and you could be asked to leave at any time. Even in rented you are protected by a lease.

You don't work and are reliant on some one else for money.'

But is OAM right??

@AMillionKisses If this is real, you really need to reassess your priorities. You say you don't care about money but you do seem to be very materialistic - you said yourself that the area you live in has higher rents, you could probably get a 3 or 4 bed house is a cheaper area. That would also give you the opportunity to start over. Your 12yo isn't even in school at the moment and those in primary school could move and adjust easily enough. The nice area, big house, computer games and other nice things mean nothing if they don't make you happy. You say you buy computer games to make your children happy. Don't you think a safer and more stable environment would achieve that better?

I am 100% confident that I will never be asked to leave this house, not by my sons father or by his father, the boys father may be a cheat but he would never tell me to leave the house.

I am very grateful for my parents money, if I didn’t have my first child at such a young age I wouldn’t be reliant on them. I will always be grateful for them giving me the easy out, I never planned for this to happen to me.