I don't like people.

[Hamandcheesebaguette]

Does anyone else feel like this?

I do a good job of disguising it but I really don't like people. I only ever seem to able to see their bad points and focus on these... I get annoyed very easily by people.

I scroll thriugh Facebook and think oh fuck off at every post. My friends message inane chit chat in the group chat and I want to scream NOBODY CARES.

I don't know what else to say but I wish I wasn't like this. I wish I could have a group of fabulous friends who I loved and could enjoy and lean on in times of need but I just can't seem to find with anyone.

I don't know what I'm hoping to achieve with this.... anyone have aby similar experience?

I don't know what you're hoping to achieve with this either. You hate people. So why are you asking a load of people for a response?

Everyone's sick of social media. That's nothing new. It's not just you. Did you think it was? You hate it, but you're on it. WhatsApp, presumably you chose to be in conversations with these people.

I don't think it's a coincidence that you describe yourself as hating people, have no time or patience for what they are saying to you...yet notice that you haven't got the friendship circle you want. Why might that be, do you think?

What do you have to say that's so much more profound and interesting than them? This thread?

This attitude clearly isn't making you happy, or else you wouldn't have posted this. What can you do about it?

Or as a wise man once said to me: if it smells everywhere you go, maybe it's not the trees.

You are my kind of person.

I used to have a lot of friends but then moved and lost touch with them. 10 years later I have no friends but I can honestly say I'm not bothered. I prefer to be at home with my kids and dogs.

I don't !like people either

I scroll thriugh Facebook and think oh fuck off at every post.

I'm not a facebook user but I can imagine that'd probably be my kind of response.

Sometimes I'm ok with people, but a lot of the time I'm not and really don't get the point of it all. I think it's due to being an introvert. I spend a lot of time on my own, with my pets, and really prefer it that way. I wouldn't say that I don't like people, but I definitley can do without them a lot of the time. My good friend lives in another country, which is a shame.

Yes, I accept the problem is me, 100%. I just don't know how to change that.

I'm in the chats and groups bevause I don't want to completely isolate myself, but at these same time it's always the same old rubbish "so hungover" ... "can't wait to get pissed at the weekend" "no kids on the wine" ... I can't connect to this in any way.

The girl who sits next to me at work, she's adore. Do anything for anybody, kind, funny, interesting... but then I noticed she's quite impatient and pushy... and now that's all I can notice and it overshadows all her positives ... why do I do that?!

I hear ya. I feel the same. People in general are selfish arseholes, and I think it becomes more pronounced the older you get

Yes ^^

I feel like people are very selfish, and bitchy and petty.

My whole group of "friends" Talk about one another behind their backs... nobody wants to do anything other than get pissed... I feel like an alien half the time.

Nothing wrong with how you feel, I hate everyone as well. The more I see of people in general the worse I think they are.

I don't think it's as straightforward as 'the problem is 100% you'. I just don't see why you see it as you hating people in general, rather than thinking that perhaps the people you know are just on a different wavelength. And that's fine. Doesn't make them vapid idiots, doesn't make you horrible, just different people.

Some people connect by sharing trivia. I talk to my mother every week and she tells me all sorts of stuff that's pretty mundane. She knows it is, but she feels connected sharing the ins and outs of daily life. She likes hearing my voice and having me hear hers.

Very few friendships or relationships consist of nothing but Deep and Meaningful Conversations About Serious Topics. There's usually a layer of everyday froth keeping it all together until you get to one of those 'times of need' where you want to lean on someone. If you don't want to engage in any of the froth you don't have to, but how then do you expect to form any bonds?

If the people you know aren't on your wavelength, that's fine. Neither of you are lesser people for it, you're just not connecting. Maybe find a hobby you like and meet people through that shared interest.

But don't decide, from the fact that you don't connect with this group, that you 'hate people'. That's pretty hostile and anti social and won't get you the friendships you do say you want.

Don't do Facebook and only join the WhatsApp conversations when it is something you are interested in.

I am much happier since I stopped social media and have stopped meeting up with people I dont really want to see.

I agree with you op. But I have epic pmt today!

Cross post. Ok, you know one of those crowds. Find another. They exist. Rather than drinking as a shared hobby, find another pastime and meet people through that. Book groups, film clubs, dance lessons, anything like that.

I'm incredibly wary of people who 'hate people'. I wonder what they're like to keep drawing such negativity. Plus I find this idea of personal superiority to be very tiresome and adolescent.

Bloody hell OP! What a shitty way to live. No, I don’t hate everyone!

You're probably not getting the right human connecting looking at a screen. Try an nurture real life relationships that include subtlety, touch and body language

Perhaps you need to get off Facebook?
I am not on it as I was worried I would get irritated fast....
The alcohol thing is just like talking about the weather. It is pleasant and it is a default topic. People cannot be drinking soooo much or they would have terrible liver problems and be quite unwell and unable to hold down a job.

Blimey. I don’t know anyone I’d describe as a selfish arsehole.

There are some people I don’t like but I choose never to have a thing to do with them. Everyone I’m in touch with has far more good points than bad. I’m not perfect so I don’t expect anyone else to be. I hope my friends and family choose to focus on my good points more than my bad and I do the same for them.

The world has its share of wankers, sure, but I truly believe most people are inately kind, good, thoughtful and caring about others.

Your post makes me feel really sad for you. I’m also hoping I don’t know you or I’m very wrong in my estimation of the people around me.

People are mostly pretty great OP. If you don’t like your “friends” then go get new ones. You’ll find relationships are better when you try and see, admire and appreciate the good in people.

buttybuttybutthole, yes. I do sometimes think the rise of the internet and social media has stunted an awful lot of people socially. I think in many cases it's creating a confusion between genuine introversion and people who have just become crap at real life interaction.

If OP were happy like this there'd be no problem but she clearly isn't. She says as much. I'd say if you want to make friends, a good place to start would be by not deciding that you hate humanity in general. How incredibly hostile.

I understand you're on Facebook to lessen your isolation, but I think it might be counter-productive. You are seeing the most irritating and inane side of your friends (note - I am basing this on OP's examples, not making a judgement on FB generally) and it sounds like a case of familiarity breeding contempt. If you came off or at least minimised your social media use, you might find yourself feeling better disposed towards your friends.

Have you read To Kill a Mockingbird, OP?

"Atticus, he was real nice."

"Most people are, Scout, when you finally see them."

@smeaton... I relate to that post so much more than I want to

I don't think I'm better than anyone... I think I'm the weird one who doesn't enjoy partying, or the giggling over a meme about a dildo... or posting my life on Facebook for people to like it... taking selfies so people can comment that "omg hun you look so gorge!"

Maybe I'm old before my time...

I'm to skeptical of people... I don't trust anyone.

I sound like such a misery but when I'm at home with DP and the dogs I don't feel like this.

buttybuttybutthole, yes. I do sometimes think the rise of the internet and social media has stunted an awful lot of people socially. I think in many cases it's creating a confusion between genuine introversion and people who have just become crap at real life interaction.

Exactly. We all want affection but the world now only seeks attention and likes.

It's really easy on wassap and Facebook to edit texts and post and this takes away a lot of intimacy. We need to be real! (See Mockingbird quote)

It's fine to only have a few people you like. Filter out the rest and your life will be so much happier.

Lots of people don't like partying and drinking and find Facebook tiresome. There is nothing wrong with that. There are plenty of other ways to meet and connect with people.

If you were happy being with only your partner and dogs there would be no issue. But you're not.

Best I can suggest is that you find some sort of hobby that you enjoy - reading, sports, dance, craft, whatever - and try to meet some people that way. You'll have your shared interest to connect with. No guarantees, as ever, but if you do want to make some friends, it'll give you a better chance than steaming over social media, or becoming the kind of person who dismisses people they've never met as cunts.

Perhaps I should not be answering your OP, because I love people and I notice you were not soliciting opinions from happy extroverts. Still, I thought I'd share my thoughts (irritating already, I know).

I always think that my love for people comes from a place of love for myself. It sounds wanky, but I try not to judge myself too harshly and I am happy with the kind of person I am. That does not mean I consider myself perfect, but I can live with my faults. In fact, a lot of the time our various traits, good and bad, are interconnected so our and other people's perceived shortcomings are actually part and package of our and their best characteristics.

This is why I wanted to ask you how is your relationship with yourself? Do you like the person you are? Do you enjoy your own company?

@OneOrgasmicBirth

That's an interesting question. I do enjoy my own company... but don't particularly like myself if that makes sense. For feeling as I do as explained in previous posts towards other people, I don't like that about myself. But also I think that I'm "weird"... but I can't seem to embrace that that's just me. I never feel like I can truly be myself (except for around DP). I care a lot what people think... I think too much. I can never seem to switch off an relax. Sometimes I feel like I'm watching my own life through the T.V. if that makes sense? I never feel in the moment ... maybe it's all connected