In your 50s and lost your way anyone?

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Don't know whether this is the right place to post this - there doesn't appear to be an obvious section for sad 51 year old women so I'm going in the 'relationships: with yourself' direction on here and hope it's ok here.

I don't know if anyone watched the programme with Susannah Constantine, Les Dennis, Tameka Empson and Miles Jupp all getting fit? Susannah and Trinny used to help women who'd 'lost their way' on their TV programme (used to love that!) and they'd often have some lady in her 50s who'd gone astray and I used to think "god how pathetic (ha!! karma), I'll never do that". And Susannah herself said that she knew how to help other women but she couldn't help herself (which doesn't fill me with hope!!).

I seem to have arrived at a point where I just look like a sack of shit and yet, I can't stop eating constantly in the evenings - I honestly don't know what to do, I've no interest in exercising. No, that's not true, I am interested, but I just cannot get motivated to do it. I used to run but I don't know whether it's menopause or not but got fed up with my x2 a week 5 k runs because I never ever get the endorphin hit any more, it just doesn't happen! I used to go to Parkrun which on the one hand I loved, but it was just another exercise in being on my own and I stopped going.

I've got things to do in the house which I've now saved up for most of them, and yet I'm in stasis - I could have organised an electrician weeks ago but I seem like a rabbit caught in the headlights, I can't seem to get going.

I just don't know whether to focus on me, my job/career, the house, the garden.

I just do not know how to move forward or what to move forward with - idiotic isn't it! I'm generally totally fed up with myself. My hopes seem to rest on winning the lottery and being able to get a face lift, tummy tuck and liposuction - that would make me happy and get me going. But since that's not going to happen....

Best I used to do yoga. It would take soooo long for me to even get minimal bendyness back!

I've pulled all my shoes out but they've not made it into a bin bag or the charity shop! You're fairly leaping ahead timefortea.

Have fake tanned and will wash off in the morning. Apologies in advance but this probably means but will rain or be very cold tomorrow simply because of this one act.

hello everyone can i join? Its so good to find a thread where people having the same experiences can find and give support.
I've read the full thread but have been feeling so overwhelmed by life I couldn't find time or energy to post.
I'm forcing myself now and feeling conflicted about doing this when there are so many other important things to do, but not enough gumption to get stuff done anymore and we all need some support.

I'm 51 and finished periods 18 months ago but now having huge anxiety and sweating. I used to exercise regularly so really do know the benefits but I just cant get myself to go. Need to lose one stone. My summer clothes are going to be no good to me as things stand.

I'm currently trying Black Cohosh.

I have been researching wool duvets and last night created a home made version to try. I have put a wool blanket under my bottom sheet and swapped the down duvet for a sheet/fleece throw/cotton bedspread layers. I woke up once but wasn't sweating much which makes me think this wool thing is maybe a thing to try. I am going to swap the fleece for a wool blanket on top tonight.

Do any of you live near Virginia Water lake? We could do a group walk - 4.4 miles round the lake, lovely walk, coffee in the Wheatsheaf? Talk about being hot & grumpy on the way round

Oh yes, my BF recommended a wool duvet to me this week. Also a wool filled pillow. I’ve been meaning to look into it. She has a 4.5 tog Southdown sheep one.

I am no where near but that sounds lovely.

I have spent most of the day in bed. Woke up in a foul mood, developed a rotten headache so decided after lunch I would do my family a kindness and leave them all to their own devices. I will have to get up early in the morning but hopefully the headache will be gone and maybe my mood will be improved too.

I would love to walk LaGatta but am in central london. I'm going to try and sleep early tonight in my woolly bed. Despite getting a better sleep last night been tired and achy all day.

Hope everyone has a good night's sleep tonight, no Monday blues.

We need a Forest School for the over 50s!!

I'd love that.

Hi all
Just read the whole thread and have made notes on all the nutritional goodies to try
I am nearing 52 gasp and feeling every day of it. Single parent to an 18 Yr old suffering depression and a pre teen little shit/darling!
Very overweight and awaiting a hip replacement due to a car accident. Been in pain for the last 8 months and over it. Have tried swimming (well I say swim it's dodgy paddle) painful at first but I feel great after.
I go to work but have no life outside the home. It hurts to drive so I spend weekends slowly doing house stuff.
I sleep badly having to get up at least twice to wee. Anyone else have overactive bladder at night issues?
I love my job and recently got a pay rise. So not all bad. I long to be able to go for a walk.

I'd love to see you doing dodgy paddle max! How frustrating with the hip. How much longer will you have to wait?

I can recommend Jessamyn Stanley for a yoga video that's really empowering and accessible for anyone. I know everyone is supposed to love Adrienne and she's super friendly and perky and all, but she really annoys the hell out of me and she is way too bendy

I'm starting yoga this week ...I'm hoping it will free up my tendons and make me more flexible. Even bending down is a mission in itself ! A hot grumpy walk with like minded people sounds bloody lovely LaGatta but unfortunately nowhere near Virgina water 😕. Belinda I hope your headache has gone....first morning I haven't woken up with one

Thanks Belonger. I have added looking at Jessamyn Stanley to my list of things to do today.

I've had a lovely weekend with my family celebrating a big birthday in the family. I got all tearful leaving them to drive 150 miles "home" and wished I lived nearer. I'd like to move back "home" one day. I might add that to my bucket list.

I agree with the being outside thing. In fact I just got up half way through typing this para and walked round the block!

I'm going to model myself on Brigitte Macron! No, I'm not going to seduce a schoolboy

Russell I know you said don't laugh but I did at this

Hey doinit it's a self invented move I use to get from one end of the pool to the other - slowly I use 2 noodles and a float.
First appointment is beginning of June but worried they will say I am too fat. So I have to lose fat fast!

I walked 4 miles at 7 this morning and did some weights and leg exercises in my return. This burst of energy won’t last due to random depletions of get up and go, but I used the energy while I had it!

By the way, to the lady who suggested nip and fab night serum on another post ref skin, and smoothies wrinkle strips, huge thank you, I don’t think my facial skin has looked as good in years and it’s affordable!! (And I don’t work in beauty)!!

Impressive timefortea
Going with the flow is ideal if not always possible. I forced myself on my dusty bike this morning. Needs must

I have looked at various yoga videos online, inspired by this thread!

But they're nearly all slim bendy young American women I feel nothing in common with - mainly because of the delivery though - talking really fast, talking way too much, and about as relaxing as a run for the 11 bus in rush hour! There is also a bit of a hard sell on the trailer one I just looked - an "I'm with you all the way and watching you progress" kind of thing - well not unless you can see across continents and through walls.

That cynically said, I have got a lovely slow stretch video I am planning to reacquating myself with . I have chronic health issues so am a bit sad I can't do all the swimming, running, walking that others can do if they are feeling "it", but I can do what is possible and what works for me.

And a few other plans a foot perhaps .

max agree it can be so hard at times living with teenagers. I feel I have more freedom - can go out in the evening etc (where to though ). Some of their difficulties problems can be troubling at times. I envy parents who have easy teens.

Just googled Jessamyn Stanley and she looks awesome.

Glad you like Jessamyn! When I first did one of her videos, I started off seeing 'large woman doing yoga' - but then it was wonderful how quickly I just saw 'amazing woman doing yoga' - we are SO conditioned by never seeing bigger bodies!

I have only just started getting hot flushes. How do you cool down quickly without drawing attention to the fact that you are having one? I don’t want people knowing my business, particularly at work or on transport. I looked in the mirror mid flush and you couldn’t tell from my face but is there a trick to it, a recommendation for a quiet hand held fan.

I think I am in the early stages and if they ramp up in intensity and quantity I will probably not give a damn who knows. Give me all the breeze, open that window!

Now that's a good question time!! At work I used to rely CONSTANTLY on a little USB desk fan that I could switch on any time I needed and take into meetings with me if I wanted. One of those little bettery operated hand fans for on the train say when you can't even get up and walk somewhere cooler for two minutes (the sort with the floppy blades you can just shove in your handbag). Yes, I hear your distress. It's horrible when it comes on and you need instant relief don't you. At home I'd just instantly stop what I'm doing, strip everything off except my bra and pants - can't quite do this at work or in the middle of a shopping mall (well, you can, but could risk arrest ).

Hi peeps, just checking in

yet nip and fab cream? Tell all please:)

I tried the Cloud 9 magic potion hair stuff, feels nice, not sure it makes my hair dry quicker, but I like the feel of it.

Had an horrendous day at work today, really want wine and chocolate. Being a good Weight Watcher I am resisting begrudgingly

All the recent sunshine has helped my mood and funnily enough this thread too. Not being the only one is a great feeling:)