Help repair my face before I think about dating

[Whydoilooksoold]

Apologies for posting here but tried lifestyle/beauty and got no replies

Basically I am 51 but look older due to years of worry and stress with sick parents, domestic/emotional abuse during 24 year marriage and financial worries.

I have tentatively began to think about dating (sure no one will want me) but first I need to feel better about the way I look. I am considering a course of skin tightening using the Soprano Ice NIR laser but can't see much in the way of reviews. Has anyone tried it and found it successful. I know if only I looked better I would have more confidence.

My ex's OW was ten years younger than him, and he was massively overweight but it didn't put her off.

Tall - I prefer someone at least my height, but I'm aware it's a silly preference.
Trim, fit - I want someone who can keep up with me when we go for a walk - apparently I really walk fast. But that doesn't equal fit.
Good head of hair - couldn't give a shit.
Professional job - I earn my own way so their wages make no difference. Lots of intelligent people are not professionals.
Confident - everyone has their hang-ups. I want a human.
Charming - bleurgh, too much like my ex. No, thanks.
Funny - as long as he is reasonably intelligent he is going to have a sense of humour.

I want a man who is intelligent and empathetic enough to be able to read between the lines and work out how I might feel if he says or does something. My ex was rubbish at that. And one who is not too proud to admit he's wrong or apologise when necessary.

Someone who sees me as his equal. Very important.

I have a feeling OP that you think anyone that you think is worth having won’t be interested in you unless you are buffed within an inch of your life, I know totally where you are coming from but what I would say is do you think you could keep that up!! I had a friend who met a very good looking guy , well off, but full of himself but can’t deny he was a catch, she seriously got up at 6.30 to put a full face on so he never saw her without her fully made up face, at least for first year, in the end he actually said something to her about it, and he liked her just ‘normal’ just as much

Good head of hair

I love a good head of hair, but sadly never a given past 35.