Dry Babes Just Starting

[babycow38]

Hello, I'm wanting to start to put the booze on the back burner, start to live life without it, I've perhaps like you posted on the Brave Battle Bus but because they have been going so long felt a bit "not in the club" so am starting our own stay sober thread, absolutely nothing wrong with Brave Battles just think I needed a brand new place to start with women who have lurked and have felt overwhelmed.
This thread is for you if you feel you are drinking too much, too wrong, or just don't like how you are with the drink.
Let's have an honest, non judgemental place here x

Ditto also with the not wanting to read and run.

Weird that I've just posted why do I look so old when I don't drink or smoke.

Not sure if you are or have been struggling with alcohol to the point of needing help but all I can really offer (not a great help) is my own reasons for not drinking.....and I'm a partner in a pub/restaurant funnily enough.

I have seen through my own customers what damage alcohol can do to people, their health, mental well being and their relationships. I don't like the fuzzy feeling it gives me and the way it makes me feel as though I'm underwater. I've never really enjoyed it and now probably have three or four glasses a year. I know some people use it as a crutch to get through difficult times, or even just through normal days and that must make you feel scared that it might spiral into the need for more.

The greatest thing is that you recognise that you need to step away from it and that is a huge step forward for you and all the other posters who will no doubt follow my post.

Wishing you well

I've given up drinking, hopefully for good this time. I always think some time off will fix my over drinking and blacking out. It never does. I really have a problem, and I can't drink. I shouldn't drink. I really am trying to never drink again. It's hard.

Can I join you?
I’ve had a really rubbish few weeks with a bottle of wine a night & sometimes more ONS with friend has left me feeling crap and am sure it’s booze creating patterns of self destruction. Ugly.

I've just realised that my above post probably sounds really sanctimonious and it wasn't meant like that at all. I just wanted to show support for babycow as she'd been the first to respond to my post.

I have some experience with addiction (not that any of you are addicts) as my closest friend is a gambler. She has started writing a daily diary and it's helping her to pinpoint her triggers etc. She is also adding up what she has saved on gambling and treating herself with the money. I don't know if this would help you but maybe it's worth a try.

Please don’t worry, Whydoi, your words were very helpful and reminded me why I need to give myself a break from booze. For me, it’s booze and sex. We don’t talk about sex addiction in women, but it feels similar to gambling and unfortunately the self-destruct button has been pressed far too many times. Am suffering this week and I need to get back on track.

Diary & money save are great. Also I finding it helpful to redirect the focus onto a work task of home thing, so I can engage the same energy in a positive way.

Thank you, Why!

Work task OR home thing

Can I join please... My drinking has been spiralling for a while, I keep saying "today is the day, no more"... I need to actually do it.
Was a bit overwhelmed by brave babes so thanks for starting this thread

I'd like to join too. I've been a bottle of wine a night drinker for a long time and I am struggling to stop. I am unable to have just one. The off switch is the bottom of the bottle. I've confided in my GP who did blood test results which have scared me into trying to stop. So I'm here, needing to stop for health reasons, and I could use some support. I managed one night without last week, and didn't drink last night either. Thank you for starting this thread.

I’m in. I’m fine when DH is not here. Didn’t have any last night and won’t tonight as he is away. He’s back tomorrow. Our ‘thing’ has always been chatting in the kitchen whilst one of us cooks and we have a drink. Occasionally I manage to just have a glass or two but usually it’s more. And I get greedy. If he tops his glass up I feel I have to. And I LOVE wine. I’m fat and I know the wine is a huge part of it. And I have had treatment for breast cancer and carrying on drinking is not good. I don’t sleep well if I’ve had too much - wake up about 2am and that me for the night. Keep getting little spots which clear if if don’t drink. So many good reasons to stop. Or at least cut down drastically.

I’m reading Jason Vale’s book on giving up but keep putting it down.

I'm in.

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Hi guys, just read all of your posts and this is why we need our thread, just had the one bottle of wine tonight and feel that's okay!? It's better than two I suppose, but I'm still struggling to understand why I need the stillness, mind numbing relief that a bottle of wine helps .x

Cidawithbuda yep I get it, have read so many books but have still to read the one that resonates, and I am a massive reader, hope you are doing fine tonight xxx

Tryingtoherdcats you are doing great, honestly it's lovely to hear from other woman who are battling this, let's help each other xx

I've managed to make a bottle last two nights, which is unusual for me. So we've both halved what we normally have & I reckon we can feel pleased with ourselves tonight.

Selfsestructactive
Oh yes, me too, I felt a tad out of place with Brave BB, not their fault but I wanted some guys to talk to that were on the first rung, just waking up to we want to be AF and having a wobble, welcome love xxx

Tryingtoherdcats
Absolutely! I always beat myself up about going over the one bottle rule, but I am hard on myself always! How do you stop that awful " down on yourself" crap? I just try to get up every morning and if I have drunk, just promise myself I won't today, it works some days,

littlepill
It's great you are now part of our little community, I know exactly where you are at! Let's support one another xxx

It works some days for me too. My username sums up how I feel about my life right now. Too much to do, no time to do it all & far too much stress. Wine helps block it all out & makes me sleep. And with that I have to go to bed. Another stressful day awaits tomorrow. Thank fuck it's Friday. Though Friday means I can drink as much as I want so that will stress me out too. .. Anyway goodnight & well done on sticking to one x Tomorrow's another day.

Hiya, can I join?

I'm not sure where I fit here. I''m not addicted, I know that. I have Aspergers and I am very routine-obsessed, and every evening I have two (not more than that) drinks. But when I go out which I have to for work, I end up drinking way way more than I should.I have the exactly two drinks that get me to socialising normally but then I drink loads more. I'm not sure where to go from here.

Tryingtoherdcats
Absolutely, tomorrow is another day and that's why I know our little thread will get us through. Thanks so much for everyone who has posted, I've read and not run which is what it's about , if someone is listening, there for you and in the same boat xxx love to everyone x

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Hello everyone
I am doing the halving thing, too - shall we list our week? Mine is shameful :
Mon - 3 bottles with a friend
Tues - nil
Wed - half bottle
Thurs - half bottle
Fri - three quarters of a bottle

Bad, huh?

Posy I have ASD, too. I’ve been a mess this week. Childfree, too much work, dating and a horrible ONS thing. Really shit.

Hope everyone else is faring better...

Wanted to add
Babycow thank you for starting the thread. Agree, good to support each other and sorry for your situation, too. While 1 bottle is better than 2, it is still good we can all talk the truth. These are large amounts, aren’t they? I know what you mean about the mind numbing and stillness. We need to find a way of creating that in a different way.

Posy could you have a special going-out-drinks routine, where your 2 drinks at home are non-alcoholic ones? I liked tonic water over ice in a wine glass, or some of the Belvoir stuff. Or are work drinks on the spur of the moment?

Annoyingly, I was sober for years. I need to get back to that mindset. My problem is in the all-or-nothing style of it. Going out later (Friday night) and I’m already panicking. I want to get slaughtered with this guy but have to drive first thing on Saturday.

I’m awake because I drank too much. Again. I cancelled a lunch with some friends as it was going to be a boozey one. Decided to go to Sainsbury’s. Walked out of Sainsbury’s with my trolley at 3.30. Car park was heaving. It often is at busy times and I have had issues getting out of it before. It took me an hour and a half to get out of my parking space today. So I got home at 5.30. Already stressed and thinking I needed a gin. DH came home and we decided to order a curry. It was delayed so we had had a bottle of wine by the time it arrived. As well as a large gin. Then opened another bottle.

So here I am again. Wide awake and pissed off at myself.