Dry Babes Just Starting

[babycow38]

Hello, I'm wanting to start to put the booze on the back burner, start to live life without it, I've perhaps like you posted on the Brave Battle Bus but because they have been going so long felt a bit "not in the club" so am starting our own stay sober thread, absolutely nothing wrong with Brave Battles just think I needed a brand new place to start with women who have lurked and have felt overwhelmed.
This thread is for you if you feel you are drinking too much, too wrong, or just don't like how you are with the drink.
Let's have an honest, non judgemental place here x

I understand what you mean littlepill about adjusting to being alone. I drink sometimes to avoid feeling lonely but also to celebrate being single after a horrible relationship that ended last year.
I feel like I did ok at the weekend went camping and had about four drinks on the Saturday but that was it, none on the Sunday. I felt a bit left out and the next day felt extremely lonely as they all had partners and I was the weird single parent. But instead of drinking to forget that feeling I just let myself be sad and in the end was ok again. And no hangover yay.

Hey, thanks Scabby You did v well at the weekend! I know what you mean about being left out/partners. Sometimes it just takes a brief glimpse, a bit of focus, and then relish in the hangover-free effect!

Can I tell you all my weekend achievement? This time (tonight) last week was my binge. Was worried about the weekend:

Wed: 1 glass then 1 bottle of red
Thurs: nothing
Fri: Met friend for drinks. She bought a bottle of red but I had 1.5 glasses
Sat: Met friends in pub. 1.5 glasses of prosecco
Sun: BBQ. Had 1.5 glasses of white

Resisted the urge to buy more! Then:
Mon: BBQ. NO ALCOHOL!!!! It was freely available but I knew I had to drive and concentrate
Tues: NO ALCOHOL!

Am trying not to be too all-or-nothing about it all.

Ordered The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray, and I can't put it down! I have already been doing the practical side of what she talks about. Amazing. Lovely to see my own behaviours and to be able to take control. I hope I can keep it up this time. She has some great tips about how to attend things without drinking, v helpful coping strategies.

Ok how are we all doing? I need a check! Hope you are all ok.

I had Mon, Tues, Wed alc-free. Also tonight but feeling wobbly...

I'm not doing well at all. I've sunk to the bottom again and I can't tell anyone. My baby is with his dad until Monday. I lost my job this morning and I cracked open the wine. I'm really upset.

Thanks littlepill. 8SV hope you are ok. I noticed you wrote that at 4am. I hope you have managed to sleep.

Just wanted to stop by and wish you all strength. Sharing is incredibly empowering. The Brave Babes bus is 'established', but it isn't cliquey, but the more spaces there are for us to share our stories and concerns the better, so you might see me here (if that's ok), I might see some of you on the Bus, be the best Babes you can be.

8saltandvinegar I am so sorry to hear that about your job. A message at 4 am is worrying. How has your day been? We are here for you

SweetLazarus Thank you vv much, that is so encouraging.

Made it through last night, somehow. Those same demons that are drowned by 'it' are also the ones that come back to nip you early in the morning hours. Was awake at 2, 3, 4. Restless night. Somehow it was ok and I am on fizzy rhubarb & ginger tonight.

Hope everyone is bearing up ok.

8SaltandVinegar please dont beat yourself up love xx we ALL have down periods, we all are trying xx
littlepill im still here darlin, im so happy other great, beautiful people have got on board x

Im still here guys, i absolutely love we have a community now, let me tell you im stilltrying, im trying right nowto stop drinking/ selfmedicating because of my awful body issues, my partner told me i wasugly, fat, disgusting, it made me suicidal andi never want to goback there x

Argh... had a really boozy weekend.

Here. Horrible couple of weeks. #1 tomorrow