New partner going on holiday with ex..

[nightowll]

I’ve been seeing new partner just over 2 months, he’s been single just over 3 months so we started dating not long after him and his ex split. She ended things and he seems absolutely fine about it doesn’t want to get back with her etc.

Today he’s told me him and his ex and their dd are planning on booking a holiday abroad together. I’ve never met his dd and he’s already said it would be a long time before he introduced us both.

Would anyone else feel really uncomfortable about this? I know they haven’t been split long but surely it would be confusing for their child too.

I haven’t got 3 on the go, I’m recently single too I did one about my ex who wants to sort things out with me.

Frustrated, it’s not bollocks and everyone’s reply has helped and gave me the advice I needed.

My plan is to back off and I will ask about the sharing a room situation but I’m not going to allow myself to get to close to him for him to end up getting back with ex! After reading the replies I feel an idiot even seeing someone that hasn’t been single long!

So who is the guy you were asking us about 2 weeks ago? The one who might be too nice but was highlighted as a controlling lovebomber? Is that this guy? Or a different guy? The timescales are so off that you've either got 3 men you're asking about or are lying.

So who is this guy?? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3198364-new-man-too-nice

Maybe get yourself a spreadsheet to help you keep track .

Private that's what we'd all like to know! And the ex from about 10 days ago that she was thinking of getting back with?

What about this one Nightowll??

Lying or telling the truth? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3203398-lying-or-telling-the-truth

Bloody hell OP have you ever considered spending 24 hours single?

They are still not over each other, Run for the hills.

I just think you have absolutely no right even question this guy your seeing when a week ago you were thinking about getting back with your ex. Talk about bloody double standards! You aren't a saint in all this, you could go back to your ex and leave this guy your seeing - whoever the hell he is - and you would be just as bad.

I think you just need to cut contact with all men in your life and focus on yourself. You've had a lot of support on here but you won't get much now.

Me thinks OP won't be back.

Sounds like my SIL who has a new bloke every week and talks about how serious they are until a week later. I think she's the only person that thinks it's serious

Busted

Does your 'holiday with ex ' bloke know you're thinking about going back with your old boyfriend?

It's a bit pots and kettles eh ?

Well this has been fun

They'll probably come back with DD's sibling-to-be on the way.
Given what she's said to him about trying for another baby this could definitely be on her mind as an objective.

On the off chance this is legit (I haven't read your previous threads) then why are you saying that you'll just back off rather than telling him "this doesn't work for me, sorry"?

This is a completely different scenario to where other PPs are saying they holiday with their exes and kids when them and their ex are friends. This guy and his ex haven't been separated long enough to establish where their boundaries as friends are, their behaviour clearly demonstrates that.

Also, if she flies off the handle whenever he mentions you (as he is claiming) then how will that work? Either he won't be able to call/message you on holiday at all yo avoid her kicking off and you'll spend the whole time in limbo worrying; or he will contact you, she'll pick up on it and have a go and then how is that good for the 3 year old involved?!

Plus, if you were debating getting back with someone else just a couple of weeks ago then this isn't serious. This sounds harsh but is meant kindly, have you ever been comfortable on your own? I know so many people who can't do that and will jump into completely unsuitable relationships just to avoid their own company and it really isn't healthy.

The new man too nice post is the same man in this post. Cake I think your right, I suffer with anxiety and it’s way to early to even writing stuff on mumsnet and even worth getting worked up about!

But that post says he’s been single 3 years and this one says 3 months?

Time waster

That escalated quickly.

No relationship is 'serious' after two months, especially when one or both of you have DC with someone else. Either you or he or both of you are childish drama llamas who need to get a hobby. There's more to life than couple-relationships FFS.

So you're 'serious' with this guy (who was single for 3 years but was actually only single for 3 months) but you were also talking to your ex about getting together at the same time (24 March)?

Your poor DD.

What a muddle

Thanks to those who saved me spending further time here, I appreciate it.
I'll try and fix the tv aerial instead.

In agreeance with @CrustyCob,im off to the shop