Is DH making a fool of me?

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My DH runs a business with another woman and they get on really well together. Because of the nature of the business, they are together most of the day and during the evening they're together entertaining clients. I hardly see him. I'm feeling very left out and jealous of the time he and the woman spend together. I've never met her. This has been going on for 5 months and I told him this weekend how miserable I am and the feelings of jealousy I've been suffering. He said he understood and that he loves me yet today, Easter Sunday, he's gone out to meet her to do some work in a local cafe.

I'm so upset. I think I want to leave him as I feel he's making a fool of me. Should I be more patient and stay or show some self-respect and go?

See a solicitor first.

Can you drive by the cafe see if his car is even there?

SevenStones, I should have explained in my first post but this has been going on since October when they first met. I have been having the wool pulled over my eyes since then. I'm so tired of feeling like a deceived wife. In fact I don't even feel like I have a husband, I see him so rarely. So I'm not really making a large leap

I had an office male partner which was fine as I knew his wife and he knew my dh so there was no secrecy- I'd not be happy with him keeping you apart.

I wonder if she even knows that he is married. I would be turning up at his place of work - just to “take him out to lunch” or say you wanted to meet her.

So when she arrived to pick him up you could have gone out and introduced yourself...what would stop you just calling into his place of work?
I do feel for you op I wouldn't stand for it either.

There's no good reason why you can't meet his business partner. There's only bad reasons such as an affair with her, an affair with someone else, criminal activity, ...

Sorry OP this sounds dodgy to me. I'm sat here feeling angry for you.
The Facebook thing is weird. Are they friends on Facebook?

This sounds very shady indeed.

I'd not be able to silently seeth- I'd have to ask outright

Thanks for your support everyone. I'm feeling really fed up but you're all helping me so much

So when she arrived to pick him up you could have gone out and introduced yourself...what would stop you just calling into his place of work?
I do feel for you op I wouldn't stand for it either

This, what @mzcracker said.

Op, what did you actually do when he went outside to be picked up ?

Meekly sit on the sofa and wring your hands ?

I'd have barged the fucker out of the way, walked right up to the car and gestured for her to wind the window down to have a nice little chat

Have you checked Companies House to see if their ‘business’ is registered?

You really need to take control of this situation, op. Sit him down and explain that if he doesn't introduce you to this woman and start to spend a bit more time at home, you will consider that he has no respect for you and your happiness and you will be making an appointment with a solicitor.

Don't just sit back and let this happen to you!

AnyFucker, I nearly ran him over with the car as he waited. Took the children out for pizza. Told him to mind his own business when he asked where we were going. I'm not going to sit at home waiting

I would love to know what kind of business entails them working all day AND evenings, taking clients out? (So wining and dining together). When does your DH have anything to do with his DC?

What about her, does she have DC or a DP? Is she is friend on FB? Surely you have family members that are allowed to be friends with him on there.

Have you asked what is so important for them to work together in a cafe today?

Doesn't look good I'm afraid. It seems he does what he likes and you don't say or do anything other than accept it.

You flouncing off for a pizza didn't help your situation though, did it ? He still got his own way, completely unchallenged. I expect he waved you off quite happily, despite pretending to be interested in where you were going. If he were that bothered, he'd have sacked off his girlfriend gone out to eat with his family.

The only time I've had a boyfriend (even just casual) reject my Facebook friend request is when they've still been married/partnered.

Are your DC his? How long have you been together?

We've been together for 19 years, married for 15. DC are ours

To me it sounds like she thinks he's single that's why he doesn't want you to meet or be his friend on fb.

They met in October and immediately set up in business together?

As a self employed person...I don't see the urgency for him working today tbh.

I would let him know you aren't happy (state your reasons) and are thinking some time apart (a separation) to consider the future of this marriage.

If he had any love or respect for you he'll want to listen and discuss your concerns.

That way...you aren't threatening anything or issuing ultimatums...you're just stating how you feel and your potential next course of action.

Is he back yet? Did he come with her, if so? If he isn't back wait outside until their return and go and "introduce" yourself to her.

Very odd situation.... I hope it turns out how you want it too, but I for one would be making my presence known and introducing myself to her as his WIFE!