Would you date a man...

[PrettyLittIeThing]

That doesn't work? (Just wondering.)

Not if that’s his lifestyle choice no

who doesn't work?

It would depend, I have been made redundant in the past and was lucky enough to get another job straight away. That situation is understandable, short term u employment fine.

If it was someone long term unemployed then I wouldn't have been interested. I would also understand that it would have put potential partners off of me as well.

Depends. If they’re a PhD student - yes. If they volunteer instead of paid work - yes. If they’re a stay at home dad - yes. If they sit around watching tv all day doing nothing else- no.

Depends- retired, main carer for someone/ young kids, made redundant and job hunting etc I'd consider it. Single man with no other responsibilities who just choses not to work absolutely not.

Yes who doesn't work.

As a lifestyle choice.

No. Not if that's his choice and he's not seriously looking after being made redundant etc. I don't expect a man to support me, but I do expect him to support himself. I've been 'understanding' about all this in my twenties and would never bother again.

How is your hypothetical man supporting this lifestyle choice?

If he had made enough money to support himself without working, e.g. by setting up a business, then I don't see a problem with it. There are plenty of worthwhile and fulfilling things to do with your time other than work if you don't need to. If, on the other hand, he was choosing to live off handouts from other taxpayers then no.

As a lifestyle choice absolutely no way.

On benefits but with no intention of working.

Definitely not. They don’t have to be wealthy by any means, but i’d Find the laziness and lack of ambition a huge turn off. The only times it’s acceptable to not work at all when under retirement age are things like certain disabilities, being a carer (which is probably a lot harder than most full time jobs) or being made redundant etc (although in that instance I would expect them to be trying to find something else). Even if I met someone who was wealthy enough to not work i’d be turned off if they weren’t doing anything productive at all with their time such as studying or volunteering

Does he have health issues/ main care of any kids? What is he able to claim without any intention of working?

Nope. If you're describing it as a "lifestyle choice" then he's clearly not disabled and is capable of work. Why would you even consider dating someone so lazy and with no sense of shame for expecting to live off everyone else? Hardly attractive qualities!

No kids to look after and yes capable of working. We are talking about jsa (pretty easy to claim with no intention of actually working since this is how he has got by for years according to him.)

I tend to agree that even being very wealthy means someone should be doing something creative or productive with their time. The fact that this man isn't remotely bothered about describing it as a 'lifestyle choice' suggests to me he'd be uncaring in so many other aspects of life too.

Why are you interested in him? If he has zero physical/mental health issues then he’s just a lazy so and so

Then no, he sounds lazy and useless.

No I'm not interested I turned him down. (Known him a while but just a friends.) he thinks it's wrong that I turned him down for this reason and said that it's not put any women off before so I wondered how many women would actually date an unemployed man who had no intentions of working.

Not in that situation no. I would assume he was lazy and that laziness and lack of effort or ambition would extend to every area of his life including a relationships.

No. I want someone with ambition and drive not someone who wants to do nothing by choice. If he had a reason for not working it would be different but as a lifestyle choice no.

I'd shop him. Can't stand useless, lazy people who take the piss.

His attitude stinks.

Posted too soon. I was also going to add that benefits don't pay much as far as I know jsa is about £80 pw for a single person? Open to being corrected here, but you would end up subsidising all trips, days out etc.

Cocklodger in the making.

Probably only a certain type of woman who has similar "values" to him, OP. I can't imagine any of the women I know having any interest in such a loser.