think I may have been right

[isheisnthe]

DP has been very cool with me for about a month after a disaterious weekend away with the family, where he was very nasty and selfish. When we came home he moved in to the spare room and has been there since on and off.

Last week he announced that he wanted to split up - I was shocked. Our relationship (like most peoples) goes in peaks and troughs and I wasn't expecting it. I have begged and pleaded to make this work, esp for the sake of our sons and the fact the majority of the time we do rub along together but he is not interested. I am so shocked, as we are his "second" family after he was left by his first wife and children and he made it clear he had been gutted not living with his children (he still sees them all the time).

now, I know Ishouldn't have but I checked his phone, I found an entry undera mans name (I have NEVER heard him mention this person) hidden in his archive file in the phone. Then I checked his messae counter and it appears he and this"trevor" have been texting each other V regularly, esp late at night. Being as he is constantly walking round with his mobile attached to him I think I may already know the answer o the question I guess I am asking.

I have written the number down - do I ring it? how do Ifind out this persons name (if a woman answers?!)

Sorry if you got this far

Hi isheisnthe,

I have just been reading through as fast as i could. I got to the part about you taking sleeping pills:-

Sleep is fine - with the help of zopliclone!

I had to stop there, and post this.
My ex had affair and i could not eat or sleep either. I got zolpidem sleeping pills off my mum they are virtually the same as zopliclone but with no bitter taste in the mouth.

I did not go to bed after taking the pill and i would also drink wine as well (very very silly girl i was then) its hard to explain but the sleeping pill made me not give a damn about his affair, in fact i felt as if i could invite them in for coffee together.

When you do end up sleeping with him had you taken a zopliclone, because they make you feel all loved up.

My ex was my first love from age 13 to 28 we had 2 ds 12 and 9 at the time i never thought i would get over him... He was cheating with a 40yr old with 4 kids and a husband.

I now have a dp aged 25 and a new ds aged 11 months, my older boys get on great with him and adore there new brother. Back then i NEVER thought i would get over him.

If he is taking her its because he is worried she is gonna dump him, she did send a txt asking him not to txt her again?? The bitch must of done this before.

Hmmm..I'd be really tempted to burn his passport....

Mumto3girls
The passport will be well hidden by now!!! but if not get rid of it a.s.a.p.

isheisnthe

Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned.

Its a gut instict but i knew he was cheating on me, he turned into a cocky little tit. I threw him out, the next day i caught him gettin into her car...

MY REVENGE

I made sure he left the way he came to me (only the clothes on his back) i gave all his stuff to the next door neighbours ex husband.

He worked as a bus driver and his wedding ring went awol, he had love bites on his neck and a new gold chain off her. I got on his bus, smashed his glasses (he never had them when we met we were only 13yrs old).

Snapped the chain off his neck and took the bus keys. Sold the chain for £70.00 at Cash converters.
Cheeky Bitch rang me and said "you ave robbed my chain" I said so you've got my husband, and i am gonna tell yours all about it. So i did, she said her husband never believed me. But the seed of dbout was sown... He had an idea anyway, i just told him the truth

I lost over 2 stone (just like u i also could not eat). I had all our savings about 7K. Bought myself trendy clothes and started going out clubbin and dating other men (thats wot he thought, i went crying to friends or parked car crying my heart out).

The look on his face was priceless, when he realised i was surviving, and getting flowers off other men (sent them to myself).

I filed for Divorce and it took 12 months to the very day (the cheeky sod refused to sign the papers).

I met my dp 16 months later, we now have a beautiful little boy 11 months old. I never thought i would ever find happiness again, my other 2 sons now aged 18 and 15 love their new brother and get on great with my dp xx

YAY LISA111 !!!!!!!

Wicked!

ISHE have found your thread again not been around much lately. Will try to catch up now, Hows things going ? How are you and the boys ? x

IHIH, have just read your thread so sorry

I live in Cornwall so if you want anyone to chat to while you're here, let me know

Ishe just caught up now , no change in him then ?
Your boys are so lucky to have such a wonderful mum who has fought tooth and nail for them and has done her very best to push her feelings to the side when with them, sadly none of this can be send of h !
Keep strong and focused and seriously think about relocating North , it is lovely and you would be much better off r/e house. As the boys not in school yet it could be a good time.

Been away for a week cos my computer was in the shop, but glad to hear you're so strong still.
Enjoy your holiday and try and see what life might be like without him. Nice and stress free.
Lisa111 WOW. Good for you.

well, I am BACK - thank th lord - I hav to say it was a horrible hoiday (for me - not binks) it skinted me to as he didnot give me penny for sends on them - but I'd be bollocked if I was going to ask - took his card and filled up the car tho

It rained all week (bar yesterday) so spent the week going to zoos, an old prison (scary for the boys but fun for stories later!) did he phone the boys from his sunny paridise - nope. had a text yesterday (reality creeping back in for him maybe? as he ishome tonight) asking how they were - which I ignored, then a second one today saying I am demnding to know how my children are, and whats the weather like, and what are there shoe sizes. What an exciting present - some shoes!

lisa - sounds like petic justice ha ha ha

went out with him on the friday before we left to discuss money and ended up being slipped a business card by a very sexy man when I went to the bar! will email him this week and see about going for a drink interesting to see I am not the pig I have been made to think I am!

Wow, you must be one hot lady, you seem to get your fair share of interested men! glad you're going to email this one, you could do with someone to bolster your self esteem. And it'll really piss your xh off if he sees you glammed up and seeing other men, especially now Trevors sent him packing lol

What's all this about DEMANDING to know how his kids and and "how the weather is"? He sounds so silly. How can he expect you to take him seriously? lol

Hope everything's going ok with solicitors and everything, there is light at the end of the tunnel....

thanks - dont think I am tho - but losing a few stone has helped a bit

well, he said he had thought a lot on his holiday, but that "nothing has changed, you have killed any thing I ever felt"

Like I want a way back now anyway - for ease of course it would be better but long term? Think not.

Just wish that there was some more interest in the house really, and that it would sell and be over and done with.

oh good for you i remember losing 2 stone when ex left me,

4 weeks of me begging him to come back i remember him sat here saying to me that he missed me, (he wanted split) and that he finds it so much harder when he sees me looking so attractive... and truth be told i do look so much better since split i def look after myself better, now wear make up buy myself new clothes and not just for the kids like before...

it makes me feel so much better that i have reinvented myself

me too, its like getting yourself back really, after being changed in to the person he wanted and now doesnt like!

utter nutter, he keeps chosing strong women and then doesnt like he fact he cant do as he likes and the woman has an opinion! what he wants is a nogging dog with her legs splayed for him whenever he takes fancy!

thanks mommalove, I am feeling good at the mo. The future looks okayish, and at the end of the day i'm 30 - not too old to start again with me and the boys, and maybe one day I will meet the right man who loves me for me.

thanks, I have a feeling there is someone who will look back with regrets tho! And its not me, I have already admitted my faults, and said would change hem, but he thinks he has none and its all my fault.

I know that Ihave done everything I could have and should have done to keep the childrens lives as they should have been - and he can not say the same thing.

His loss, my gain.

Have been so much calmer with the boys and not stressing about bed times and toys etc and feel better myself for it

i always hold that thought to., that i fought tooth and nail to save our family but he couldnt even try, i still say now, why couldnt we have tried for 6 months say (that is nothnig when a whole family are at stake) to get our relationship back on track and if it wasnt going to work at least we would have tried rather than just walking away..

and men just go from one to another, my ex is getting married this augast, by then we will have been split for 2 years, i havent even had a snog, - well i have actually but i havnet had the other

well, now he is trying to go away (abroad) again this weekend -

FFS - I have had a week of constant demands from the children and was thinking I may slope off for a night to a friends, or maybe my sisters for the weekend.

I am just pissed off with selfishness - not phoning the kids all week last week, now not five minutes back hes off again - smacks of how he is going to be in the future with them.

and to think, there I was decided almost to just accept 50/50 as I am not willing to argue about it - but he keeps moving the goal posts. nob

and hes out tonight too - I bloody give up

And the tax credits are investigating my claim and I feel like I have done something wrong when all the information was right

ishe just consider yourself a lone parent and act like he isnt around, that way you wont rely on him and can move on without him, that way you and the children wont get dissapointed, he is acting like a single bloke now and treating the house like a hotel, so dont do anything for him, shop for food on a daily basis if you have to

ishe I dont know the story about your tax credits, but you must make it clear to them you are not living as a couple, and you run the household seperately, shame he wont move out