Terrible parenting

[Sunnyday1203]

So enjoying a boozy Sunday lunch with DP in our local when 2 sets ofyoung parents rock up with 2 babies and a toddler. One of mums decides to park her poor baby in a high chair in the middle of the bar where she stayed for a good hour whilst said mother chucked her crisps and left her alone several times whilst going outside for a fag. During this time the dad became more and more drunk and loud. They then moved to dining area next to us and his language was appalling, calling his Gf and fucking C**t, stupid bitch amongst other things because she changed the babies nappy on one of the dining tables. Seriously you could not make it up. ( did ask the bar staff to clean the table as thought it was disgusting. ) It was truly horrible to witness, that baby must have sat in the high chair for nearly 3 hours. Whilst they sat there getting pissed. My DP was getting very upset. When they finally left and passed our table DP comments that he thought they should be ashamed. So all hell lets loose and drunk dad launched himself at my DP and a fight ensued. Eventually it spills out onto the street and DP takes a photo of their car as baby now strapped in the back and the dad was driving. .So am I over reacting and this this behaviour is absolutely disgusting.?

I'm assuming it was a family pub from the fact it had highchairs. The swearing and changing nappy on the table is wrong but tbf you don't know what they were drinking. Could have been shandy/alcohol free. You sound quite judgemental people with babies are allowed to go out for pub lunches too. This could have been a once a year thing.

revel yes a family pub all the more reason not to shout and swear, did you not read the bit about he was very very drunk so not shandy. Yes I do judge people who plonk a small child in a busy bar, feed her crisps and call their gf a cunt. Also drove a car whilst drunk with a small baby. There are many families who go there and normally it is a great atmosphere.

Mum left the baby but the Dad was there too?

I would judge them but I would judge anyone fighting.

Why didn't you ring the police regarding the father drinking driving especially given he had the baby with him?

They won't be winning any parenting awards, but it probably wasn't wise for your DP to make a comment as they were leaving. They were never going to just accept the criticism and walk away.

If you knew they were drunk in charge of children and about to drink drive then just call the police. Drink driving is actually endangering the children rather than just being shitty parenting.

Making Dad was totally incapable of looking after the baby. assassin true but DP is out spoken and these people had been going on for hours, I felt very tempted to say something myself. There were many witnesses to the drink driving so maybe someone did call police. Not that they would have turned up here.

If they were extremely drunk in charge of a child - and driving - someone really should have called the police. Both are offences. The crisps and swearing pale in comparison. Poor kid.

If they were swearing and leaving the baby completely unattended then I would expect staff to have a word.
It was very unwise for your "outspoken" (is that code for rude?!) DP to wait until they were really pissed and leaving before starting a fight.
If you were so concerned why didn't you call the police about the drink driving?

Why didn’t you phoned the police about the violence and drink driving?

But you didn't report it, so you don't know if the police would have been able to follow it up or not? You could also still report to social services regarding the being drunk in charge of a child, and presumably they'd also be concerned about the drink driving.

What a shame you didn't just call the police to report the drink driving.

Yeah if you didn't report to police then you have no room to talk

Not behaviour I'd like to particularly witness, from you and your partner or the other family

You should have called the police

Calling the police or social services would have been more effective than jumping on here for everyone’s opinions... which will get you nowhere.

Tbf it sounds like there were many there who didn't phone the police. I'm disappointed that the management didn't intervene and call them. Or at least stop serving the pished dad.

Changing a nappy on the dining table 😩

The post was not meant to get me anywhere, what a ridiculous thing to say. It was a horrid thing to witness and this is a close knit community, life could be very bad. I think if so them again I would call, Sadly the land lord was out for the day and 2 young girls behind the bar, I don't think this man was someone they would have been happy to confront. wolfe they were pissed when they came in. I feel sorry for the child

Obviously their behaviour wasn’t great but what did your partner hope to gain from starting on them when they were already drunk? People like that don’t suddenly have an epiphany because a stranger passes judgement on them for their shitty behaviour.

Best course of action would have been for someone including the staff to report the fact he was intending to drive the child home as they gathered their things to leave rather than fight in the street.

Judging and commenting but not actually reporting negligent parenting. Now doing the same on here. You have a duty to report. Call Social Services and tell them if you have the licence plate of the car.

“2 young girls behind the bar” or not they have a responsibility to not serve anyone who is already drunk especially if they’re being lairy. If they’re out of their depth they really shouldn’t be doing that job for their own sakes. I’d have called the police when they showed up drunk with a baby in tow personally.

You were wrong not to ring the police when you saw the man driving off knowing he was drunk, even worse that he had a baby with him.

So you’re that bothered by it all that you had to come on here and tell us all, but not that bothered at the time of witnessing a drunk driver to report it to the police 🤨

I assumed you took a photo so you could pass on the registration to the police when you rang them.

Why else would you take a photo?

What does this have to do with a relationship forum.

Tbh it just sounds like you want to gossip and judge others rather than seek advice.

You should have called the police.

You should have said something constructive to the guy rather than call them a disgrace for all you know he may be abusive gone home and beat up his girlfriend/child as a result of the event.

I think you are right to be appalled by their behaviour OP. They sound like selfish twats who aren't fit to be parents.