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Terrible parenting

146 replies

Sunnyday1203 · 26/03/2018 13:14

So enjoying a boozy Sunday lunch with DP in our local when 2 sets ofyoung parents rock up with 2 babies and a toddler. One of mums decides to park her poor baby in a high chair in the middle of the bar where she stayed for a good hour whilst said mother chucked her crisps and left her alone several times whilst going outside for a fag. During this time the dad became more and more drunk and loud. They then moved to dining area next to us and his language was appalling, calling his Gf and fucking C**t, stupid bitch amongst other things because she changed the babies nappy on one of the dining tables. Seriously you could not make it up. ( did ask the bar staff to clean the table as thought it was disgusting. ) It was truly horrible to witness, that baby must have sat in the high chair for nearly 3 hours. Whilst they sat there getting pissed. My DP was getting very upset. When they finally left and passed our table DP comments that he thought they should be ashamed. So all hell lets loose and drunk dad launched himself at my DP and a fight ensued. Eventually it spills out onto the street and DP takes a photo of their car as baby now strapped in the back and the dad was driving. .So am I over reacting and this this behaviour is absolutely disgusting.?

OP posts:
Lizzie48 · 27/03/2018 19:47

Granted it's not a great choice, but the OP doesn't know whether it's a regular occurrence. But still not comparable with driving off drunk with that same child in the car. That's almost mentioned as an afterthought. It should have been reported. Hmm

Desmondo2016 · 27/03/2018 19:50

As a police officer in a rural location and a history working a child abuse investigator I can categorically state that you should and could have phoned the police at the time and that they would have circulated the vehicle, sent an officer to the rk address to try and intercept it, inputted intelligence in relation to the child protection issues (which would have been shared with other agencies) and recorded the assault against your husband. It's possible they would have gone as far as recording an offence of drink with a child in a public place, depending on witness accounts and cctv etc.

For future reference if you are as concerned as you must be to post on an internet forum 2 days later, please consider doing the right thing at the time. You are not the police and you do not fully know how they would operate so dont try to second guess. Do the right thing as an honourable citizen and gather the evidence you can Without putting yourself in any danger (eg names and vehicle details).

Goldmonday · 27/03/2018 19:50

Why on earth did your DP say something?? What on earth did you expect

Desmondo2016 · 27/03/2018 19:51

Oh and I appreciate you didn't have a phone but I'm sure someone did, or the pub had a landline.

Desmondo2016 · 27/03/2018 19:51

Oh and take your judgy pants off about the crisps. That's hardly the issue here!

Unihorn · 27/03/2018 19:52

I've called the police several times to report people drink driving from my restaurant. They've always told me there's not really much they can do unless there's a car driving past in the area at the exact time.

Angelf1sh · 27/03/2018 19:53

Even if that’s the case Unihorn, you’ve done what you can. Unlike the OP.

shesalady · 27/03/2018 19:54

I've called the police on two different people drink driving with children in the car and they've been picked up very quickly.

Onelasttime94 · 27/03/2018 19:55

Thanks desmondo2016

Desmondo2016 · 27/03/2018 19:56

Remember that even if it seems nothing has or can be done, intelligence gets submitted about everything so it can help build a picture or lead to proactive stop checks later on.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/03/2018 19:57

I can't imagine the police saying there's not much they can do when a man has been violent, is visibly drunk and who gets into his car with his baby and they have the registration.

shesalady · 27/03/2018 19:59

His baby and another baby and a toddler according to op. Plus four adults. Must have been a large car. Hmm

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/03/2018 20:03

Something isn't right here. One minute this happened on Sunday afternoon and then later on the OP said " this happened last night " Hmm

Sometimeitrains · 27/03/2018 21:27

Think op is a wind up merchant.
This story has gone from a couple with a baby to 4 adults and two kids.
It moved from sunday afternoon to last.
night no phone to having a phone and no reception.
What happened are you writing an episode of Eastenders and gauging impact...

Desmondo2016 · 27/03/2018 21:39

Did I kill it with my informative and educated response. Sorry peeps, it was quite entertaining so for that I apologise Grin

DamsonOnThisDress · 27/03/2018 22:05

Grin @Desmondo2016

Yeah, but you didn't bring nutritional advice to the table, Desmondo.

This thread has been informative if nothing else. Grin

shesalady · 27/03/2018 22:15

It would be more informative if op could tell us where she lives she we could avoid it like the plague. Grin

Original poster
Sunnyday1203 · 28/03/2018 02:18

des if you are a police officer then I rest my case that you are pretty useless. You can't even follow a simple story. Read again she 2 sets if parents, the baby of about 7 months was given crisps NOT a toddler. When did I say I was sober we were pretty drunk.. And she you could never afford to live around here. Intelligence ha ha. Shall I repeat TWO SETS OF PARENTS, ONE SEEMS quite sensible. BABY HAD CRISPS NOT TODDLER. I agree maybe I should have called police in hindsight, so will do if I see again

OP posts:
shesalady · 28/03/2018 02:21

I said nothing about the older one having crisps. It was clear you meant the baby (you said it 20 odd times Hmm.)

Your last post makes you look like the massive twat I suspected you were. (And raging drunk.)

shesalady · 28/03/2018 02:23

And so when was it op? Sunday or Monday? You seem unclear.

And why switch between seeing the Dad driving then not knowing?

Maybe you need to look at how much you're drinking because you're clearly losing your grip on reality (and common sense.)

Oilyoilyoilgob · 28/03/2018 07:15

Sunny you sound unhinged!

LavenderDoll · 28/03/2018 07:33

OP you sound drunk ......

Onelasttime94 · 28/03/2018 07:45

Hahaha DamsonOnThisDress killed me

uhoh2016 · 28/03/2018 07:47

So your DP thought he was Billy big bollocks after a session in the pub and thought he'd make a sarcastic comment to the local pissed up bully and ended up coming worse off for it. That's the top and bottom of this story.
Yes the parents shouldn't be drunk with a baby & certainly not drive but who are you or your DP to pass comment? If you was unhappy with his language then a polite "would you mind toning your language down please" may have gone down better than a sarcastic comment as they were leaving. If you felt uncomfortable you could have moved seats or even better left altogether. In future keep your nose out when it doesn't concern you

Sometimeitrains · 28/03/2018 07:57

Hold up. So after sitting on your high horse judging others and making passive aggressive comments to anyone who questioned your story you now say that you were drunk the whole time? Are you sure you were actually awake as well, or was it all a twin peak style dream....

The last post talking about how other posters cant afford to live where you are just makes you sound beyond ridiculous.

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