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Terrible parenting

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Sunnyday1203 · 26/03/2018 13:14

So enjoying a boozy Sunday lunch with DP in our local when 2 sets ofyoung parents rock up with 2 babies and a toddler. One of mums decides to park her poor baby in a high chair in the middle of the bar where she stayed for a good hour whilst said mother chucked her crisps and left her alone several times whilst going outside for a fag. During this time the dad became more and more drunk and loud. They then moved to dining area next to us and his language was appalling, calling his Gf and fucking C**t, stupid bitch amongst other things because she changed the babies nappy on one of the dining tables. Seriously you could not make it up. ( did ask the bar staff to clean the table as thought it was disgusting. ) It was truly horrible to witness, that baby must have sat in the high chair for nearly 3 hours. Whilst they sat there getting pissed. My DP was getting very upset. When they finally left and passed our table DP comments that he thought they should be ashamed. So all hell lets loose and drunk dad launched himself at my DP and a fight ensued. Eventually it spills out onto the street and DP takes a photo of their car as baby now strapped in the back and the dad was driving. .So am I over reacting and this this behaviour is absolutely disgusting.?

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 15:12

Damson I hope it is a one off but seriously doubt it considering what other people were saying about them. A little country pub so no CCTV, it is also a close knit community, I think sadly I would need to witness something again and report at the time. They could take the view we are making it up because of the fight.

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Scrumptiousbears · 27/03/2018 15:23

I think you should have called the police when you saw them get in the car knowing they were pissed. If they had a unit available they would have been waiting for them to arrive home. This would have them meant social se vice would have got involved etc etc.

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 15:32

Scrum all hell was breaking out, this guy was going crazy, several people holding him back. I did not have phone and was very worried for my DP. I

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Adora10 · 27/03/2018 15:33

So what did your OH achieve, other than cause them to become more verbally abusive, he was daft to do that with such a volatile group of arseholes.

I also find it strange you posting about it when you have and intend to do FA about it.

Scrumptiousbears · 27/03/2018 15:58

Hindsight is a great thing but the only thing that would have happened when your DP made comments was to cause a ruck. 🤷🏼‍♀️

shesalady · 27/03/2018 16:05

On your head be it if they kill their children or someone else's drink driving. Attitudes like yours disgust me.

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 16:05

I just love how some people are putting words into my mouth and putting 2 and 2 and making 5.

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 16:07

she stop being pathetic. I did not get in my car with a baby or abuse my partner the only people you should be disgusted with are these idiots who took these actions. what did you want me to do? drag him out of the car

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shesalady · 27/03/2018 16:15

No I would have called the police rather than bitch about it on Mumsnet a few days later. Hmm

Rather than standing around shrieking like someone from Eastenders at a brawl my husband actually kicked off.

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 16:18

Again she stop making things up. This happened last night, there was not shrieking from me. I am not bitching but was interested to hear what people though. How would you have called the police?

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 16:19

The only thugs was the bully farmer boy. We were trying to enjoy a quiet afternoon and had witness this thug bullying his gf and acting like a complete knob head.

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milkntwo · 27/03/2018 16:20

OP, why did you post?? The only advice people can give you is to call the police which should have been done at the time and you’re just being defensive of that fact being pointed out.

You can’t seriously need your opinion of this situation validated by a bunch of strangers, so I can only assume you just fancied taking the moral high ground and having a bit of a bitch and sneer.

shesalady · 27/03/2018 16:21

Your op said it was Sunday lunch.

There's these amazing things called mobile phones most people have now. I'm sure most people would be more than happy to have lent you one (if neither of you had one) to tell the police people were drink driving with a baby and endangering lives.

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 16:28

Are you a bit stupid she ?@ what point would you have called the police then?. Hello police what is your emergency, " well there are some people in he pub with their kids drinking, and he is swearing" really if you have nothing sensible to contribute then leave the thread

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 16:29

And yes we were in the pub for hours but started @ lunch time

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Wolfiefan · 27/03/2018 16:30

You're not trying to enjoy a quiet time if your partner makes inflammatory comments to drunken louts. Confused

Lizzie48 · 27/03/2018 16:33

It's the drink driving that you or someone else in the pub should have reported, not the fight particularly. But someone will have had a mobile, surely. Your DP took a photo, surely he could have used his phone to call the police instead and reported the registration number.

Drink driving costs lives, it needs to be reported. Why are you focusing on the crisps, which isn't your concern, and the fight, which while scary left no one hurt. You don't seem to care about the drink driving. Hmm

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/03/2018 16:33

A little country pub? Sounds more like an episode of Shameless!

Sometimeitrains · 27/03/2018 16:36

No Im not just genuinely curious which is why I askedHmm

shesalady · 27/03/2018 16:37

What is the emergency?

The fact that someone upset, aggressive and DRUNK took off in a car you say you took a photo of!

I think the police would expect people to call.

And unless your husband had a camera handy I'm assuming he's used his ...... PHONE. Yet you say you couldn't call them because you didn't have one.

You're absolutely full of shit op.

shesalady · 27/03/2018 16:39

Op it's daft to virtue signal when you've actually been a bit neglectful yourself.

And if bar brawls and drink driving with kids in the car are commonplace and not an issue for the police where you live please let me know where so I can check it off my list of places to move to.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/03/2018 16:41

This is a weird thread. You seem more concerned about your husband than the child being driven off by her drunk and agitated father.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/03/2018 16:43

Dad was totally incapable of looking after the baby

And you did nothing but stand there when he drove away with him/her. I find this pretty awful OP.

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Sunnyday1203 · 27/03/2018 16:49

You know normally it is lovely, very calm all welcome. Hence this was out of the ordinary. I do not drink and drive and do not condone it in the slightest. My DP made a comment when they left because they deserved to be honest, bunch of assholes I hope they get barred. If someone wants to feed 6 month old crisps then up to them, I just said I would never have given them to my children at that age that is all. The problem here is these parents and a, shocked at their behaviour

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Adora10 · 27/03/2018 16:51

My DP made a comment when they left because they deserved to be honest, bunch of assholes I hope they get barred

Nope, he was wrong, in fact he probably inflamed the situation and riled up the man just before he made off in car with baby!

Sorry OP, I get what you are saying about them being shit parents but you both did nothing apart from your OH having a go which basically did nothing but anger the arsehole more.

If you truly wanted to help why did you both not take down the reg and report, I just don't get it.