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GLAM & FAB TOUR - MEMBERS MEETING POINT!!!

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Ifonlyhewould · 09/05/2007 12:32

Hi Ladies

Hope you don't mind, ive started this thread to save hijacking the thread of others.

I thought we could use it to attract attention of the other members if needed or whatever

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Fubsy · 27/05/2007 19:09

Crap weather doesnt help at all. Especially if youre stuck indoors with DP hinting that housework needs to be done.

Ive got so many ideas for things to do over half term, just difficult to do them when there's gloom and doom in the house!

Glad youve got company, MLS. it always helps.

IOHW - Ive accepted your MSN!

lilybubble · 27/05/2007 19:47

hi all, not been around for a while. hope all is okay? not had time to catch up with things yet but will try to. My internet time is so limited it seems impossible, yet I could do with the support more than ever. I hope things are okay with everyone. Those in the MSN group have my email address should anyone want to get in touch. I am back to work on Tue, and not sure of internet access this week. I am here in spirit girls, please don't forget me?!!

Dior · 27/05/2007 19:48

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lilybubble · 27/05/2007 19:48

mls, are you okay? just seen your last message? will try and have a look at other threads to see what's going on. you know where i am if you want me, take care xxx

sunshinegirl · 27/05/2007 20:02

LB, won't forget you, you ok?

macdoodle · 27/05/2007 21:11

Hi all away for weekend just stealing sis comp for ten min - always feel so much better away from DH hounding me - feel normal again...despite niggling suspicion that he seeing ex OW or even someone else - really don't think can ever trust him again
oh and if anyone thinks it was me posting on the other thread under diff name it wasn't promise not doing any more name calling can't be arsed....
and good news after rumours DH was sleeping with ANOTHER girl who had chlamydia got tested (he swore blue he had not) and test was NEGATIVE a glimmer of light

sugar34plum · 28/05/2007 08:15

morning all

sugar34plum · 28/05/2007 08:16

it worked!!!

ernest · 28/05/2007 08:23

dior that made me and reading your dh saying stuff like that to your ds. Hope lily and mel and mls are ok. Blimey, what is it atm ?????

Macdoodle, glad you've at least got a glimmer of hope I know what you mean about rust.

I'm doing my head in cos tomorrow dh is going to Spain on a conference all week. I'm torturing myself freaking out that ow is also going to go, that he might not be going on a conference at all. Basically his skiing trip showed me how deceitful and clever and sly he can be, and I can't see any way of checking or proof. I again only have his word for it

He's reassured me and even offered to take the lap top and do a video conference so I can see him alone in his room, but I sadi she could just wait outside the door while he did it. That's not proof. Like I said, it's doing my head in.

But sending him out with the boys today as I'll have a 2nd week in a row with him not about and me doing all the work.

lou33 · 28/05/2007 09:06

i just emailed my exbf to say we had to stop being in touch so i can get over him, and that i had been asked out and was accepting

told him i still loved him but i cant sit here falling apart hoping he will come back to me

cant believe i've done it tbh!

sugar34plum · 28/05/2007 09:21

for those who dont "know" me now name change its mel!

sugar34plum · 28/05/2007 09:25

ernest just seen your message. Really feel for you. Trust is very hard to get back when its been broken. Try not to work yourself up i know easier said than done! Is tehre anyway you can find out if ow is going or not?

lou33 dont know your story sorry

ernest · 28/05/2007 09:35

that's just it sp, I can't see any way of finding out. I think I should be able to find out which hotel he's staying in, but if I phoned them up they wouldn't let me know if she was also checked in, would they? He has tried to reassure me, but I can't let it go & switch off like that. I guess it's worse because it would be so easy for them to get away with it. I can't find out if she's going, or is she's at the hotel. For all I know, he might not be at a bloody conference in Spain at all, or he might be, but she too.... It was arranged while the affair was going on, so she def. knows he's going. Or maybe it was never a conference and they'd planned a nice few days together away....

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Ifonlyhewould · 28/05/2007 09:59

Ernest, why don't you put a little love note in his suitcase and a photo of you and the children, just to prick his conscience but maybe also bring a smile to his face.

I realise it may be something you don't feel like doing but, if you are going to turn this thing around and regain control you have to start somewhere.

Once you feel in control you will start feeling a lot more secure. xx

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Ifonlyhewould · 28/05/2007 10:00

PS. I'm not talking majorly slushy or anything like that. I would have suggested a rudey photo of yourself in a provocative postition but i sensed you may not be up for that just yet

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Paddlechick666 · 28/05/2007 10:07

ernest, i think we need to resurrect the tattoo idea.

in the meantime get an indelible marker and when he's asleep write on his penis "hands off husband stealing bitch".

if necessary you might have to use initials and pop an explanatory note into is pants!

Paddlechick666 · 28/05/2007 10:07

"his pants"

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Ifonlyhewould · 28/05/2007 10:13

OR sew a name tag into all his underpants "Property of Ernest, it might be small but it's mine! Keep off"

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Ifonlyhewould · 28/05/2007 10:15

Or.. while he is asleep, get out the green food dye and paint his wotsit. He will be too ashamed to get it out at all for a week. A 'mouldy' todger never looked good on any man!

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DimpledThighs · 28/05/2007 10:16

what is this thread about?

Dior · 28/05/2007 10:30

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ernest · 28/05/2007 10:42

iohw, pmsl. Favourite is the green food colouring!!!

Love the tatoo/indelible pen idea too. Funnily enough pc, he was talking yesterday about getting a tattoo . (did imagine our earlier tatto discussion, I think I went with TOXIC in the end. Best to keep it short and too the point). But kept that to myself & j ust told him I thought it would go very nicely with his red ferarri, just to make his mlc complete. Funnily enough his gp sent him a birthday card with a red ferarri on it last week... Maybe they can sense it?

Will go for the note and pic idea tho. Tho went out yesterday and ds3 esp but all of 'em really, being naughty/painfiul. Cue him loosing temper and me imagining him leaving cos he was so pissed off with them

Dimpledthighs, we're all going through various levels of shit in our relationships, and supporting each other. Happy the woman who doesn't need this thread.

sugar34plum · 28/05/2007 10:58

if you know her name you could always call work and ask to speak to her then they would either put her on phone or tell you she is away on business?

Am loving the tattoo ressurection talk

lou33 · 28/05/2007 11:20

probably, but i've been sobbing all morning about it

DimpledThighs · 28/05/2007 11:23

oh - sorry to clumsly crash in - sorry you are having a shit time - have had my fair share and know how bleak and hard it can be.

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