Boyfriend's female friends of facebook... would you contact them?

[catbasilio]

Would you contact a boyfriend's female 'friend' on facebook if the number of increased likes between them would start to bother you?
I do have some worries that my boyfriend might be a bit of a player, but have no hard evidence. It is not really a friend - it is an ex of his male friend, he said she befriended him (I somehow think it might be opposite) few months ago, to my knowledge they have never met, but she started instantly liking his posts and he likes hers (see that from few public posts).

I just want to ask, if there is something, as his girlfriend, I need to know, as I might be worrying over nothing.

There is a lot of dignity to swallow.
I had contacted one of his FB "friends" in the past and he appeared to be seeking slightly inappropriate flirt although it was early days in our relationship. Some other female friends, including one of his ex, seem ok and nothing to worry about it.

What did he do before?

You sound nuts. Surely if anything was going on she'd just lie and alert him to the fact you're suspicious.

No you complete nut, seriously get out now it’s not worth the heartache

Sounds all very playground imo

We are all skating this guy. She said he compliments women (is flirty) and do something inappropriate. That could mean anything. Maybe she is the one with the issues. Unless I've missed that he has cheated.

Of course everything doesn't have to be black and white when it comes to trust if you choose so. You can maintain a relationship despite not trusting him. All it means is you'll forever feel how you do now. Second guessing him at every turn, over-analysing minor things like who interacts with his Facebook posts and thinking he'll lie to you about disrespecting you before you've even spoken to him. It sounds miserable.

I don't mean to sound harsh by the way, as I really do feel for you and you've got a tough decision to make. But for me, trust is a vital pillar for a relationship; without it, I don't think you can have a happy relationship. You've got two choices; accept the fact that you don't trust him (and rightly so, by the way) and maintain a relationship away, on the understanding you'll probably always have these niggling doubts about him. Or choose to walk away and have a relationship with someone who you actually do trust.

We can't tell you what to do unfortunately, has to be your decision as you're the one living it.

Why am I with him, because the relationship is good, and I’ve forgiven but situations like that put me somewhat backwards. I am hoping that with time I’ll be proven that there is nothing to worry about.

How do I confront him then? There is this girl on FB, is there something that’s going on there?

Forgiving situations like what op? Liking people's post on fb?

Confront him, are you married, is he not allowed female friends. How will you explain you know what he posts on f2f.

My boyfriend is very close to two of his flatmates from uni, they always like each others things and chat all of the time. It really doesn't bother me because I trust him totally. We went over to the country they are living in to stay with them for our holiday last year, they are lovely girls.

Obviously meant to say f.b.

How do I confront him then?

You want to confront him because of a girl liking his pics.

You need to finish this relationship there is no trust and it won’t get better ever

Isn't this where you both create a joint Facebook page? because nothing says one of us cheated like that does to the world

Honestly if Facebook likes are causing this level of problems you should bin him off. Life's too short.

Is this for real? Early forties

Is his cock studded with rubies??

Early 40s? And all this is over "likes" on FB? Good grief.

How about you have a conversation with him instead of messaging "girls" (women, I hope/presume) on FB?

How long have you been with him OP and what did he do before?

You say the relationship is good

But you don't know how to talk to him ("confront" him, apparently - not sure what he did that needs confronting but anyway) about this.

Those two things don't go together op.

If the relationship was good, you'd just be able to talk freely with him.

What would happen if you "confronted" him?
You've said earlier that you expect he'd lie, and you'd not know - again - are you actually serious with believing the relationship is "good" because I'm fairly certain, from what you yourself have said, that it isn't...

Can you not just not be with someone who has cheated on you, and who you feel insecure with?
Is that an option?
If it isn't - why isn't it an option?

Trust your instinct, someone good with words will find a way to convince you that you're wrong and doubt yourself. The relationship is over if you don't trust him so move on and save yourself heartache later. Things will only get more complicated.

Leave him. Leave Facebook. Sorted.

I'm amazed to read you are in your 40s - the OP came across as if you were teenagers.
It sounds as if you can't/don't trust him at all so I don't see how you can describe the relationship as good.

They're both disrespectful but she or he clearly don't care Disrespectful for "liking" someones post when they're in a relationship? Get a fucking grip FFS!!

I can't seem to understand whether he is a well-masked player, or not

I think all your instincts are telling you he is, or you wouldn't have started this thread.