Break Out The Red Flag Bunting, It's Dating Thread 131

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Sense check please! Have just started talking to Mr Clown. He has been very chatty, long messages. Seems friendly and interesting. But, and I wonder if this is a red flag, he is saying how if he clicks with someone he meets online he gives it his all. I said I’d broke up with someone a few months ago and he said it was sad but he was pleased as it meant he’d met me. Should I be concerned? He seems a bit full on to me. Apart from that he’s really interesting. What should I do?

Little Willy wants to meet me !!

val five?! Good for you. I’d have to keep going back over the messages to remember what I’d said. In fact I’d almost have to track it all in a spread sheet!

Tom yep thinking Excel too !

Tom he sounds like a potential love bomber. He sounds too full on, I would back away and disappear.

Thanks love, I did wonder. I was lovebombed two months ago and don't want it again. I'll take my time replying. I don't want to be rude, but I don't want to appear interested either.

I'm all about under-promising and over-delivering Val

Kin I would like to picture something to look forward to - haven't answered yet!

Having read some of WMLB - I've tried what I've learnt on 2 of my chatters and called them out on a few things - they've disappeared ! Little Willy is still there though.

oh smeaton that is my drink of choice!

MrNice not gonna happen, he is lovely but doesnt look much like his profile picture, is def not 6' and is far too nice and very boring. Honestly, that was the most dismal 2.5hrs of my very first proper date. We chatted lots but I just know he isnt for me. I could walk all over him if I wanted and thats not me. I know he would be lovely and treat me like a star. Shame though.
Still chatting to MrBelfast he makes me laugh, but too far away.
Got a few more messages from others.

I suppose this is the name of the game, chatting, meeting and then seeing if there is anything there.

Hiya I'm new. Hope it's ok to join in. Been separated from h for 8 months and was bored and drunk Friday night so downloaded tinder 🙈 had a few matches but no messages until tonight. He wants to meet up and is very attractive.
Don't know much about him yet but he's 33 and I'm 28. I don't know whether to bring up the fact I've been married. Also I have two ds 3 and 9. Should I mention this before any date. Argh! I've been in a relationship since I was 16. I don't know what to do!

Cant I think honesty is the best policy . You have children and they are part of you and something to be proud of - if that puts him off - he's not for you - be yourself.

teenage what is his complicated situation? Would be my first question!

Mrunavailable is checking if he is free this week. I'm starting to get married vibes, though he swears up, down and sideways he's not... How would I know?

You're right. If he doesn't like it then sod him

silverdale Have you checked him out on SM? I was recently in this position and after the first glance on FB looked ok it was only when I delved into the comments that I found out the truth..,

Argh I so need to catch up properly (is there an echo in here?) but am really meh about dating at the moment.

Weekend highlights: two guys yesterday (neither of whom I can say I was massively enthusiastic about) just fucked off mid conversation (in fairness one said “got to go do x can I catch up later?” Which is totally unnecessary, but I said of course. Then nada)

Plus guy who’s German and thus someone I can’t have a laugh with. Not because he’s German, but because I had to explain my phrasing. Three times. Nope.

Best was this one though:
Bloke: your beautiful why is a babe like you still single xx
Me: because I’ve been in prison
Bloke: that’s ok babe I don't mind you are stunning xx
Me: um, it was a joke
Bloke: I know babe you did make me laugh xx

There’s not enough 🙄 emojis, truly.

I’m becoming a snarky bitch; I probably need to give it a rest for a while/ever.

Surf I literally have a first name and a town. Nothing to look up on SM. hmmm I should know more this far in?

Hi Silversale,

Just complicated that he has young children and was newly separated, staying with family and has his kids a lot. I guess it's not that complicated when you say it out loud! But compared to mine it is x

cover that made me laugh

And I’m getting so meh and snarky about it all too.
And the word Babe 🙄

That doesn't sound like anything problematic Teenage, it does sound like you just need to get used to relaxing xx

Silverdale, I guess i do but my mind makes me panic he's still married or not really interested. And I don't know how to make it stop

That's hilarious cover, I think you do become quite cynical about it all after a while. Where do these people come from? I swear I never meet anyone as irritating in real life as I've met online.

Tech I loved that I could have been inside for anything from receiving stolen goods through prostitution to murder but that’s OK because he thinks I’m attractive 🙄 On the other hand he’s non-judgemental 🤔

Tom so cynical I’ve actually just messaged someone “can you tell me why you’re using a photo of Steve Pemberton as your profile picture?” I mean FFS. Unless Steve Pemberton actually does live in Rugeley, in which case hello, I’ll be on the M6Toll in a heartbeat, snow or no snow.

Tomhardy and val I actually met a guy who told me that a woman turned up on a date, got her i Pad out and started asking him loads of questions and typing in what he said ! There's the spreadsheet in action