Break Out The Red Flag Bunting, It's Dating Thread 131

[VetOnCall]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Silver I like Match. Not so many messages as POF but I've had a few nice dates from there. They just didn't go any further.
You should be able to get a free 3 day trial if you google. Then before the 3 days are up you should suspend (not cancel) your account.
Match then offer you half price subscription.

Bumble is like Tinder but women message first. I've had no luck with it. My matches disappear before I even look at them and the distances seem wrong. But others have found it good. Worth a try.

You lot are so funny, all welcome. I did joke with a match the other day as they all come from the same region that I might set up a speed date with a few different guys, one hour each. Do your best.

Maybe I can set up a big one, with Brits (cos they sure like the foreign connection). No fighting though ;)

Cover: take a break if you are feeling fatigued, remember the law of attraction :) Maybe go on a few what the hell dates, maybe when you are distracted with that one more suitable will come along but you'll feel less "meh" about the effort of dating.

Mr Italian texted me several times today saying how much he wants to see me and is missing me.

Mr Also 25: good morning and evening messages but I have been crazy busy today so not too much exchanged.

Mr 25: god hes gorgeous, and a few nice messages today.

Mr Have we spoken before: I am still trying to dig myself out the hole i created by not remembering the level of conversation we had, he's playing along.

Mr Actor: nada from him.

And my friend was round for lunch and I was showing her the likes on tinder (i paid for tinder plus for a month) and she was like "ooooh hes nice, swipe right". He is 23. Already asked me what I am looking for. My male frined said at 23 hes an adult and to persue. 23. I could be his mum.

Just want to ask would you meet for a first date in a hotel bar? that's where a potential date wants to meet up but seems a bit weird for a first date venue? should I decline?

user has he a reason to meet there? Is he staying there, nice cocktails or roof terrace or something? Or has he suggested to book a room?

Ask him. If it makes you feel uncomfortable say so. I'd ask.

Hello,
This thread moves so fast!
I used to be a regular on here (with a different name) about a year ago. Been lurking for ever, having a grim time at work at the moment so thought I would step back into OLD.

First guy mentioned he was solvent and VWE and did not want TWs

Second guy was older than my usual, seemed okay. Third message said
Hun I have to tell you I am married but my wife is disabled

Standards are as good as ever!

Saw an interesting movie tonight
“Finding Your Feet” with Imelda Staunton and Timothy Spall.
Best film for me this year. In terms of relationships ....there is hope!

its a local venue to him and he recommended it just worried about the booking a room connection do you think that's why he wants to meet there? I've never given him any hint sex will be happening as I don't do it on a first date.

I've had dates in hotel bars, sometimes they're the nicest and most convenient bars in the area. There's a difference between meeting in the bar of the ritz and the grimy bar at a holiday inn.

I think it's more usual for the man to travel to a place more convenient for the woman though, on a first date? Are you traveling to his neck of the woods?

Ask him. It might just be he likes the coktails there, or it has a nice ambience. Is he local too? If he was I really wouldn't worry about it, if he's driving perhaps he is chancing he might be in with a shot. Who knows. Honestly, ask him. If he objects to you asking, you know where you are.

Bant yes it's his neck of the woods but now I've thought about it for a first date he should travel to me so I'm telling him to come to my area or else we can forget it.

Thanks guys. I’ll sleep on it. Work is a big ficus (ooh great typo, leaving that one 😀) for me at the moment as is my health. I’m off to a spa tomorrow so am just going to clear my mind and subject my body to a bruising deep tissue massage 👍🏻

User what does he do for work? I travel for work and always find hotels with a reasonable restaurant/ bar to have meetings and work, standard practice so having thought about it I've been doing the same on dates without ever thinking about the room link!

Could be as simple as that.

Right, just had date 1 with Mr TV and he was lovely. We clicked from the start. Cheeky kiss mid-date in the pub and talked about date 2. When we left the pub we did not stop snogging. In true WMLB mode I made it very clear I wasn't ready for MB yet. He wants to see me soon but will be guided by me and my childcare. So far so good!

New I finally twigged what VWE means but TW's left me flummoxed... could you please enlighten me? I'm sure I'll live to regret asking-

User I love a hotel bar. I regularly meet friends for coffee or a glass of fizz in a nice bar. I think they're a great place for a first date but I'm talking about beautiful hotels in city centres not Premier Inn or the Travel Lodge on the M1...

I just had to Google VWE and I can't work out TW either!!!

I think TW may be time wasters
(I do like a good puzzle 😂)

Transsexual wombats?

Tiny willy

Vix I presume it was time wasters.
Mr VWE blocked me.
C’est la vie!

I'm too cynical for online dating at the moment.

One profile I saw was of an attractive woman, whose headline was 'I want someone who I can dance in the rain with'

That was all. My immediate thought was 'I want someone who owns an umbrella'

Maybe I'm just not romantic enough for saccharine aspirations.

Ah New ... maybe TW means 'Tight Wanny' then???
I'm going positive on the reason for the blocking, and maybe you look like you have the above

Think I am becoming too cynical too Bant I guess it gets that way after a bit.
So many pitfalls too, I went on pof to look at profiles of people here, now current iron seems to have the hump as it probably looked like I am still looking, but then what was he doing on there, etc etc. Round and round we go.
I could explain it and probably should. (without mentioning the thread)

Smeaton Yay!! Good to hear you may have a date.
I assume you're using my best opening line on your profile .
Not sure what to make of the one who thinks you're too nice. I thought 'nice' was good

How can someone be too nice?

What's VWE??