Break Out The Red Flag Bunting, It's Dating Thread 131

[VetOnCall]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Yeah can I get in on the 20something action too pudding. I never see anyone I find gorgeous on OLD so I may as well live vicariously/consider lowering my age range.

runs I think we’re getting the same men!!!

And pudding I would 😉

pudding should be our leader. we will make a crown of leaves and chant round her in circles.

I'm pissed off as I have started seeing someone who lied about their age. He did fess up immediately but I am still pissed off and it has made me question if I should continue with him. I was married to someone who was 10 years older and I didn't want to have a relationship with that age gap again. This bloke took 3/4 years off his age but the reality now is that there is a 10 year gap again (which is significant when you are mid/late 40s yourself).

Incidentally still getting very old blokes on eharmony. Mainly men who say they are 60 and clearly are far older! Have not seen one bloke who is anywhere near suitable.

The problem with lying about your age is you immediately think what else are they lying about.

Daffo that's not good. I can understand how it's tempting to knock a couple of years off but I agree that you start to question everything.

I started chatting to someone new on POF last night. He said he was new on the site but I've seen him before. He'd just put up a new photo that made him look less like an axe murderer. He also said he had flu but was out visiting his children. This was later watered down to man flu but if you're visiting your kids, you don't spend the evening chatting online?
He asked for a date but pinning him down to an actual day and time was mission impossible.
However we did seem to get on while so for now I'm giving him a little leeway. But I'm on alert already and we haven't met.

Daffo I went out with someone last year who had taken ten years off his age, he did look younger than he was but not ten years younger, he lied through his teeth and said ‘I look mature for my age’, I wonder what other lies he was telling? Age doesn’t bother me buy lying does

Hahahahaha! I tired las to night from my phone. I'll try from My laptop today. I think you're all gonna hate me. Extend your criteria to Portugal then thank me for it late to ;)

Still alive! Very tired, need to go to work and he's still here hmmm what to do...

did you eat the spider?

Smeaton bang kin ???

I'd prefer it if he didn't Barm

popcorn yes, I did recieve a couple of messages last night but I did cave and text first! Today- I am going to be stronger and put my phone away / on do not disturb and see if he contacts me! I realised his texting pattern hasnt changed at all in the couple of months I have been speaking to him -which is good but the whole asleep thing with his phone off didn't make much sense! Too late to even ask now so will just have to see if it happens again!

Anyone know if you can send pictures on PM? I can't work out how to do it!

pudding I couldn't work out a way to do it, sorry.

In exciting news, I've had a match on Tinder who actually sent me a message.
Him: sexy
Me: yes I am
Him: Lol

He's 53 and looks like an intelligent, well groomed business man. Yet Tinder has reduced him to teen speak. (Which is the message I sent back to him)

Having seen what’s available in Portugal Pudding wins dating and I’m giving up.

I'll book our tickets cover - I'm heading to Portugal too; there's nothing like that in the South West! Soooo envious pudding.

Good to see his texting pattern hasn't changed minnie. I can deal with few texts as long as that's the way it's always been, it's when they suddenly drop off that you get that sinking feeling...

Can we get a group discount on a flight to Portugal? Your house will cope with us all for a bit right Pud?
Seriously, there is no point me looking at pof now after viewing those pictures, I will just be disappointed.
To be honest I'm more focused on work right now (and this thread) but do miss the chat that goes on when I have a witty iron to talk to, grumpy teens are not as much fun.
Glad you are safe and had enjoyed yourself Glen hope you got to work on time. Not sure about the spider but what I don't know won't harm me, if not it will be a bit of company tonight :)

I’m this close to binning OLD. I know a) I’ve said it before and b) it’s up phases and down phases for all of us, but I’m getting seriously dark of mood. Rule 8.

My photos are ok ( I’m not stunning but I’m not hideous, I reckon) and my profile is OK (those of you who’ve looked at it have said). All I can surmise is a) my age kicks me out of searches but I refuse to lie b) my size is against me (that I can and do want to change, though the guys I’ve met haven’t seemed bothered in the slightest) and/or c) the UK is devoid of attractive, intelligent and slightly sarky middle aged music lovers. I swear, looking at the apps reminds me of watching Jeremy Kyle when I was in hospital, wondering how all those grim people appeared to be having much more sex than me.

I’m turning into a bitter snob, and I don’t like it. Help me, O thread massive, help me.

This thread is making me glad I'm not on POF. Sounds grim.

Mr French and I haven't managed to meet up again but we're messaging lots and he actually phoned today. Nobody seems to do that any more!

I’m getting messages, don’t get me wrong, but I’m 100% “nah”.I get that I’m probably quite picky, more picky than I should be maybe. Or unrealistic? Entitled?

Alison I’m on POF and Match. Match has less outrageously awful profiles, but less traffic.

I've given up cover, deleted POF and Tinder this morning. Daresay I'll reinstall it in a few weeks because, like ignoring I do miss the chat in the evenings but at the moment I am so disillusioned I'm just not in the right frame of mind.

Cover I feel exactly the same.
I've had many friends and people from here look at my profile and they all say it's good. Like you, I get messages but most can't get past "hi" or "lol".
I'm very tempted to set up a new profile with exactly the same photos and blurb but knock 5 or so years of my age. Just to see if it makes any difference.
Or I'm heading to Portugal with the rest of you. I haven't seen the photos but I'll take your word for it that it's worth the move.

Well I feel like a bit of a fraud at the minute as I have a casual thing going on with someone local who I know isn't a long term prospect but he is planning things for the Summer! I know I should do the right thing and end it but the sex is really good and I do like him, he just isn't wow.
I'm being really unfair on him I know and will have a word with myself soon.
Cover I don't think I will go back on pof for a while, planning to arrange nights out with friends/ Sister and see if I meet someone IRL, think that's why I am loathe to end things immediately as it might be my last roll in the hay for a long time :)

Last nights MrLondon is Portuguese and I have to say if that's a taster of what the country has to offer I am moving!

He's handsome, interesting, sweet and not interested in settling down with anyone yet FML also 5yrs younger

Ah well.

MrUnavailable only messages back, never first too so I think I may have to let that go which is a shame as I was enjoying the chats.

Cover I get that, but when you drop your standards to be less picky then I just can't cope with the LOLS argh.

Is Match worth a trial then? I've only Tindered. And what is Bumble??