Break Out The Red Flag Bunting, It's Dating Thread 131

[VetOnCall]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

I know I'm late to the party but Too Climax Focussed??? Wtaf?? What a selfish little man.

Alison I say that! Hahahaha! I like it, I say that in real life too. I think its cute ;) But I say YOU not U. That is wrong!

so MrF never replied to my text about doing something non-bed related...and i dont even care

i did go into this looking for a FWB, so i guess i cant be too bothered. i only ever want the “WB” part of FWB when im ovulating and for the rest of the month cant be bothered strange i know...

so i might just keep him on the backburner, and focus on myself

Sky that’s mah girl! hi-five

We need a corner of the clubhouse for snarking where we can hunch over our phones cackling as we fire off sarky responses and await the karmic payback

In the midst of changing my age criteria, a 24 year old might have slipped through. Ooops. He is funny and super fit (but he's student Ffs!).

Anyway, might meet him, might not ;)

pudding . Sorry...

So Mr French and I are organising to meet up in the next few days. Yay! Mustn't get too excited.

Another iron, Mr Teacher, has asked me out on Saturday night but I haven't even spoken to him so I think that's too much. He's fairly local so I might just suggest a coffee on Sunday instead.

smeaton I think it could become addictive but to get dates you have to message, if you dont message, no dates... its a viscous circle.

Im just going to go with the flow with mr snog I dont think Im going to phone or text him and see if he messages me before I go away on Wednesday, although I sort of want to, but dont want to y'know. I will wait and see. Missed gym today but had a lovely lunch and walk with my sister instead. Gym tomorrow for sure.

esk1mo Not strange, or we are both strange. I've noticed there's two weeks of every month I'm really interested in OLD and then my interest wanes quite a lot. Until I'm interested for a longer, I'm taking a break.

Thanks everyone, I appreciate the reassurance my last attempt at dating was a dickhead.

I wish I knew you all IRL, not really got people I can share this with.

I'm still a little stunned at the turn of events recently, not because I overinvested - I've been at this OLD game for over two years so I know the pitfalls - but more that I can't believe there are so many nasty men out there.

Present company excepted of course, but honestly - I'm attractive according to my mum anyway keep fit, I'm solvent with my own home. No difficult ex, grown up DCs. Good job with ambitions - what more do men want? I fully appreciate the chemistry element, I don't expect to click with everyone and I don't expect everyone to feel they want to be with me, but there just seems to be no decency. This last guy literally went from promising the earth to sending two words in a whole 24 hour period. And one of those was lol 🙄

I've been stood up, ghosted, love bombed, cheated on, lied to, faded out - everything. Not one man has had the balls just to say he's not feeling it. They have all bailed out in shocking ways.

Yet I've never behaved badly, not once. When I've ended things it's always been with respect and politeness.

I'm growing tired of sifting through all the crap. Starting silly little conversations that I know will lead nowhere but to men behaving badly. My expectations are so low I don't even want to bother anymore.

Think I'll take a break for a while, will follow your stories avidly though, and wish you all lots of luck.

falcon me too. from day 3/4 of my cycle up till about day 14 (i ovulate day 10) im interested, feel flirty etc.

now im day 24 and i couldnt care less if i never see another man again 😂

biology eh..

Too please don't let them get you down.** I know there are good ones out there (hope). It just takes a lot of effort to find them.

POF is very busy at the moment - not sure if it's because I put another photo up after one man said he thought I was a scammer it because I hid my profile accidentally but now messaging 8 and getting confused - there is one who stands out from the crowd though - let's call him Mr Hello

@falcon and @esk that makes loads of sense..I'm on day 4 of my cycle and for the past week or so I couldn't care less whether I talk to anyone XD I'll be interested to see if it perks back up again as it did last month
@climax I'm in love with your name change I'm sorry you've had such bad luck over the last two years. Maybe a break is a good idea, but don't lose hope. There's a person there for you that will appreciate and love everything about you :)

Popcorn/TCF please do still stick around. It comes (so sorry grin) and goes in waves, and statistically you must be due a good’un pretty soon.
I’m going to test Fate: I’m going to do another 200 MeetMe, a search and I’m going to message five (5, v, cinq) blokes on POF and 5 on Match.
If that yields nothing I’m parking it while I go and lose a few stone so I can ditch the whole overweight tag and see if that brings any change.

Got this message from a good friend just: made me snort

Cover and Sky - I'm joining you in Sarky corner. This could be immense fun.

Vet Bumble is the site I've had most luck with, although nothing has led anywhere yet. I met Mr Music who lovebombed me on there. I met mad Mr Artist, who was clearly lacking social skills and a sense of humour. And I also met lovely Mr TV who keeps telling me how much he's looking forward to our date on Wednesday and sends me lovely messages each day. Quite a few people don't reply, but mostly those that do have been really nice, although not necessarily people I want to meet.
I was just offered a 7 day free trial of their upgraded package so can see who has swiped right on.

Whoops, forgot to attach message 🙄

esk1mo I'm so glad someone else mentioned it. I had been wondering.

Cover think I had that one earlier - inviting not

Val I could do a lot worse than Ramses II, you know. In fact I have 🙄

One of the joys of getting older is you don't have to ride the cycle and get free prescriptions !

Too it is really disheartening. I totally understand. When I'm about to give up there's always a small part of me thinks 'give it one more go'. So I do. I was about to delete Bumble last week (I've already deleted Tinder and GSM) and along came Mr TV. You just never know, but I always say 'you've got to be in it to win it'. I think you just have to take a step back, take it all with a pinch of salt and see what happens.

Actually, in all seriousness, will someone critique my profile? I know there’s no body shot, but other than that I’m wondering what I could tweak.....

esk and falcon I've never thought about this. My period tracker app allows me to add mood icons each day. I'm off to see if there's an icon for 'horny'.

Cover I was at the British Museum on Saturday and saw some of his kin in the flesh - well sort of - they were better looking though