My husband ‘filters’ the mail.

[Yhang39]

I don’t know if I am being ridiculous getting too stressed about this, not sure what to think. Our post gets delivered to a post box on the gate at the end of the drive to which me and DH had a key. Somehow my key got lost and so he brought the post in for a while which was fine. Then I would find some of my post buried in the bin and even saw him putting post in the bin. When challenged, he said he didn’t want my junk mail catalogues and stuff in the house so he thought it was okay to bin them. Of course this started a row which ended in silent sulking. Anyway I got my own key cut and try to get to the post first if I can, which due to my current situation is possible but if I bring the post in I get annoyed looks and tone of voice. It feels like this is something small to get stressed about but it just feels a bit controlling and I don’t know how to handle it. Any help much appreciated.

Getting the credit check is a brilliant idea you can do it free on noodle

My husband installed a lockable letter box (completely unecessary, especially as the house is miles from anywhere). I was not allowed to open it.

He then locked my computer up at his mother’s, took my mobile and documents and banned me from using the house phone. (Not all on the same day - over a few years).

I divorced him.

Oh, and re: possible debts - he left me with £35,000s worth that I had no idea about.

Can't you being up a conversation like, being worried that all your savings are going to be used up if you can't get back into a good position when you return to work etc, so you'd like to sit down and have a chat about family finances. Remind him that you know what he used to earn, you know it's increased, and you know what his expenses are so why can't he contribute more to cover more of the family costs. Have a kid was a joint decision so buying the clothes and paying for activities is a joint expense. If he refuses to involve you in his finances, start pushing because he's either hiding something or wants to make sure he's got money hidden away that you can't get to if you split - don't know if the prenup covers his money too or just your savings.

Hi OP, did you find anything else out or speak to him about it? Really odd behaviour, I hope it's nothing too serious