What would you do? He's married.

[window]

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He's using his position to manipulate you.

Sounds like a gem to me

You can't have a very high opinion of yourself if someone who is obviously up for cheating on his wife makes you feel good - I would want someone who actually cared for me and wanted me - not someone who saw me as a cheap shag - surely a nice respectable man who is single would make you feel good about yourself because shagging someone elses husband most certainly wouldn't in the long run.

fortyplus, love your idea of ''I''l just check with your wife to see if she's comfortable with this...''' genius!

Listen, there are zillion unmarried blokes out there if you want sex; don't fuck up someone else's marriage for a bit of 'fun'.
Although technically, if he's sniffing around someone else their marriage is perhaps not very healthy. But don't be the one to exacerbate things.
What a sleazeball.

No no. You go for it. Really.
Then try living with the consequences of possibly destroying a marraige, ruining God knows how many lives, and never ever really knowing if he won't do the same thing to you.........see how "good" that makes you feel.

Good honeymoon, Spook?

Hey
Yes thankyou Freckle! Lush.
Couldn't really pass this thread title by without a little grumble though could I??

cant see what the problem is here, he is obviously not in a happy relationship if you want a bit of fun go ahead, for all you know his wife has cheated x ammount of times. he mist not be getting it at home so if you want to have a bit of fun with him go ahead.

Yes bluebubbles. You are obviously in a fantastically happy marraige, having sex every ten minutes and there is no way it could ever happen to you eh?
What a fucking arsehole comment.

Excellent - if a married guy comes onto you it means his wife is an adulterer and he is not getting it at home - maybe she has postnatal depression or something and has gone off sex or he has shgged someone else before and given her an STD so she is keeping away from him in the bedroom department - are you for real???

yeah i am in a happy marrige, this guy is not, its him that owes something to his wife not the poster, if she wants a bit of fine and thinks she can keep it as that they so what.

I am so angry I could spit.
You are despicable.

Yeah bb, that's what my friend told herself about the man with whom she had a "relationship" for a year . He wasn't actually married but had been living with his partner for a long time - of course they didn't have sex any more so that was ok.

She finally got the message after his partner had a baby. They'd been having a lot of troubly conceiving. Apparently sex with my friend was a necessary "release"

im not the one thats wanting to have a affair, im just saying to the poster that its not her problem if tis guy does

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To be fair, there are people who are still living together but "separated". DW & I bought our house from a couple who were in this position. But agree broadly with the note of caution being sounded by almost everyone here.

Window-I didn't mean to have a go at you. Honestly.
But you were never going to get the reen light here.
(well-maybe not from the majority!)

Or the green light for that matter

Window, be it right or wrong to get involved with a married man, I'm sure more people have considered it, just like you, but wont admit it.Dont take the critism on here to heart. Do what you think is right.

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Bluebubbles. Just because a man is up for cheating on his wife does NOT automatically mean he is in a bad sexless marriage. I can state that from bitter experience, as can several other MNer's that I know of. Only he and his wife know what their marriage is like.
But - we can't stop the OP going for it if she decides to. However - window - if you do you surely must be well aware that you are leaving yourself wide open at the very least for heartache yourself, very probably problems at work, and equally probably causing massive upset and distress to his family as well.
If he is really a genuine person, who could offer you more than just a risky shag, then tell him to sort his other life out first and come to you when he is free to do so.

Hey window, big hurrah for you girl!

Now you are making sense.

Value and respect yourself and others will to.

Accept sloppy seconds and that's all you'll get.

You'll go much further with an attitude like this

...er...too....

Good for you Window, you made the right decision

he is not likely to be in a fantastic marrage if he is looking elsewhere, your "bitter experience" is giving you a very one sided view.

The next time he mentions being 'seperated' but living together, just laugh and say 'oh that old line, does your wife know'