NC Dignity Club part 8: still wearing our crowns

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Anxious (((((((()))))))) big hug from me.

Welcome Jesus definitely don't reset it again.

Am off to bed the rest of my thread lovelies. Tomorrow is hopefully a brighter and better day

Wow oldbrook that's brilliant that you are so calm!

Morning all. Hope everyone is OK. My goals for today are to be kind to myself (and other people) and to let sleeping dogs lie with NC. I'm going to be kind to myself by not trying to cram too much into my day, and to remember that quote I posted yesterday about letting whatever I do today be enough.

Anyone else got ideas for treating ourselves with kindness?

Wow Oldbrook what a turning point for you. I'm in awe.

Belonger sounds like a plan. I'm getting my hair done today so that's bit of kindness for myself. I have loads of mouth ulcers which means I'm run down. A direct result of the stress of work I reckon.

Morning everyone... @oldbrook I am child free this weekend as well... Which makes me want to see him more arghh!!!

Morning all. Meeting him doesn’t seem to have set you back at all oldbrook - that’s so good
Day 14 NC - It feels so much longer than 14 days. Today I am determined to be more focused! I am getting better, less sad, more resigned but it’s v up and down.
I’m also going away for a long weekend tonight with friends, so good distraction I hope.
Hope everyone has a good day

oldbrook well done on your contact and how you have handled it .

I don't think I am there yet despite Day 27 . Today my brain feels a bit as if I have a hangover from yesterday - you know what I mean there is a tinge of yesterday's feeling but it's not full on but I still feel sad this morning . I think ( despite all the articles in the world ) I am irritated with myself as he really was/is a shit in many aspects . I am beginning to think now about the fact that he hasn't even messaged me once to say "Are you OK ? " but then why would he . I expect he feels that he has made the offer of being "friends" and to message him at anytime plus he has "got away" with having had an affair . That's not very positive to start the day , is it ?

Myrelationship have looked for that on Netflix and started to watch last night - looks good and I only got started . Could be a good diversion.

bloody I'm a bit annoyed with myself too, also despite all the articles (and books!) about self-compassion in the world! But I'm determined not to give myself a hard time today. I am human, with all the needs and foibles that entails, and I'm going to do things that I regret sometimes, and things that I don't understand. But nobody died, I haven't hurt anyone, and I'm going to forgive myself. I'm even going to forgive myself for being annoyed at myself! I might collapse from the sheer effort of all this self-forgiveness!

It is what it is bloody and we are who we are. We should go easy on ourselves if we possibly can because life is hard enough.

Oldbrook I cannot believe how calm you seem after running into NC!! Just because he was so flustered doesn't mean you can't be friends in August though! I absolutely love that you were wearing the hot dress

Apparently it is international women's day today so go us.

Thank you for all the hugs last night. If any of you are 6ft or above with huge strong gym arms please let me know

NK and Oldbrook hope ulcers clear up soon. Listen to them and take some more time for yourselves. Hope you love your hair NK.

I've not been good today swinging between anger, sadness and hope. Despite working it's overwhelming me. Was a complete cow to the poor man whose helping me with the project I'm working on. Can't put my finger on why it's overwhelming me so much these last couple of weeks? I had been doing not to bad? Perhaps it's the house move/ job change I don't really know but it's got to stop. I need to pull myself together. I'm also over the hot weather here it's very draining. Hope all you lovely ladies are well. Hugs to you all.

Just checking in for day 9. Longest I’ve been nc apart from when I made it to 30 plus days but got sucked back in. Feel a bit sad and wondering how he is. I think days 9 and 10 are supposed to be tough? So like you lovely ladies will do something nice today. Anybody else round the 10 day mark?
oldbrook how are you feeling? You sound in control when you bumped into him. He must be struggling a big otherwise he wouldn’t have been so flustered. What are your thoughts?

oliking how long you been nc? Our emotions are so unpredictable. One day we feel strong and in control and then bang the next day it’s back to sadness and pining. I find that very difficult.

belonger there’s logic and then we have emotions. The two don’t often agree!

Rhubarb NC since mid January but it seems like it's getting harder not easier atm.

Oh I've also lost half a front tooth last so as well as feeling crap I look it too :(

That’s a lot of days olikkng. Well done! Has it been getting harder recently? Or all along? When I did 30 days some things changed, but it never got easy.

Oldbrook so CHUFFED for you that you bumped into him, looking hot, and he got all flustered! then ran away

I had a SEX DREAM last night and it WAS NOT about DOM!!!

It was about MF [FFS.....]