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Dating thread 130: dates with more issues than Vogue - mad March hares every one of 'em

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BeenThereDating · 28/02/2018 21:04

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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changeoflife · 03/03/2018 09:02

I've arranged date#2 for Wednesday. In fairness to him he has been keen and asked me at the end if the first date if we could meet again. I like that in him as can't be bothered with all the skirting around the issue. If you want a 2nd date, just be upfront and ask for one!
More messages coming in on pof but none that stand out at the moment. Pickings are definitely slimmer as you near the 50 mark.

ignoringthechoc · 03/03/2018 09:04

Morning :)
So living up to my username last night I ignored everyone and went to bed with phone turned off, I will be sending a message to Mr 15x this morning Been to say I don't want to meet as I find him too intense.
Vet that profile sounds awful, not seen any that bad I don't think.
Pud do you think Dutch/English will get Mr A out of your head or is he just a passing distraction?
Third hope your dates go well later, not sure I could manage 2 in one day!
Tech did Mr Catt go home after the bar or to yours? Wink
Hope everyone has a good day, still snowed in here so will end up catching up with work probably.

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 03/03/2018 09:10

changeoflife better get moving now as it only gets worse the older you get Grin believe me

Am finding that people asking for a second date right off is no guarantee of anything ( not trying to P*ss on your parade or upcoming date ) This has happened to me and they chase you down then just disappear - why? Think too many dishonest men out there who like to see how many they can gather into their potential harem - their profile usually includes the words " I am old school, have manners etc " Hmm Actually No, you don't . My OLD currently consists of reading this thread Grin

Kinunir · 03/03/2018 09:15

Hmmm... Bloody... maybe this is where I am going wrong. Maybe I need to go with the generic "I am old school," etc. instead of mentioning the whip and digging things up? Grin

change I'm fishing in the 50ish pool and finding the pickings slim myself. I'm optimistic though and still believe it's just a matter of time...

NewYear2019 · 03/03/2018 09:26

Bloody that's so true, I just don't understand why they love to chase, make all the promises and then drift away. My guess is they weren't available in the first place or do it for kicks. All that crap about being old school is just bait Hmm

NewYear2019 · 03/03/2018 09:28

kin I'm sure you'll find someone who likes your whip Grin

changeoflife · 03/03/2018 09:33

True bloody.... don't get me wrong, I'm under no illusions about date2. Been around the block enough over the last few years to know the score. I guess I just meant I hate the game players or those that skirt about the issue of 2nd dates for fear of seeming too keen. Time will tell I guess.

Just got a message from someone I dated a couple of years ago now. He was nice enough but not for me. We dtd and once he'd finished he promptly got out of bed to wash himself. Can't say I found that particularly flattering. And no effort to make sure I was equally satisfied! Will have to block him.

BeenThereDating · 03/03/2018 09:47

Change Shock I've had some Hmm sexual experiences but never met an instant cock cleaner...

Ignoring Mr 15x will be on a thread somewhere bemoaning the fact that the last woman complained he never texted so this time he's made a real effort and been sacked off... Grin

Pud I've had the good fortune to hang out with a lot of Dutch folk in my time and I have to say they're lovely; the men are fine specimens clearly there will be dodgy Dutch folk and Dutch mingers but I've not met one-

Have a good day one and all and for those experiencing the worst of the weather and floods I hope you and yours are all safe and toasty.

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Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 03/03/2018 09:49

and what is with the random message in the middle of the night ? Drunk ? Impressive way to go ! Or you reply to another message when THEY have messaged you and then bugger all ? Can you tell I am pissed off with it all ? Think I would rather have kin with his whip - at least I know what kind of beating I am going to get Grin

BeenThereDating · 03/03/2018 09:58

I'd much prefer a Walnut Whip.

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BeenThereDating · 03/03/2018 10:04

Actually Walnut Whips are now called Whips and the walnut is no more due to austerity measures (really) so you have to buy a packet of walnuts and a packet of Whips. Thankfully M&S understands that the walnut is a crucial ingredient to a Walnut Whip.

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Kinunir · 03/03/2018 10:09

Whenever you're ready...

Dating thread 130: dates with more issues than Vogue - mad March hares every one of 'em
ThirdTimeUnlucky · 03/03/2018 10:12

Been - that's funny! My missing date last night apparently abandoned his car and left his phone in it. Asking for another date. I am not going to be so gullible (am I?)
Looking forward to today - kick off about 3/4ish.
Will send updates when I can! Smile

SpringtimeSun · 03/03/2018 10:12

I hope everyone's general scunneredness with OLD passes soon and there are some fresh irons hiding under this snow.

I have a 3rd date with Mr Knotty Captain tonight. We're going for dinner again and it's too identifying to explain what, but he's coming or his way to help me out in the snow, which I like.

Before then I have to finish work and then take my 3 little ones sledging!! This may not be my most groomed date ever Grin

Kinunir · 03/03/2018 10:14

If it makes you feel better Spring, I'm prepping for my meet with Miss Keen later and have just ripped my face to shreds shaving Sad.

I'd swap that for not fantastically groomed right now.

SpringtimeSun · 03/03/2018 10:25

I'm shaving bugger all cause I'm determined not to end up in bed on this date!!!
Plus a layer of fizz will help hold the heat for sledging!!!

BeenThereDating · 03/03/2018 10:25

Third I struggle to believe that someone would leave their phone in the car and not realise quickly and go back for it. If you're driving to a date and get stuck I do think that you'd message that date... I smell BS, even under all that snow...

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Pogmella · 03/03/2018 10:25

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Didn't last long, did it. So some guy I met at a conference dinner got in touch last night (drunk whatsapp). Remembered a tonne if details about our conversation and said he thinks about me (we're FB friends and there's been low level liking for a while)

Anyway we discussed meeting up. But he was drunk. Leave it to him to bring it back up?

BeenThereDating · 03/03/2018 10:29

But Spring he'll be trimming everything from nose hair to ear hair to eyebrows because... it is the THIRD date.

Everyone knows that all across this fair land the princess lies with the prince on the third date at which point he turns into a frog...

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Kinunir · 03/03/2018 10:36

he'll be trimming everything from nose hair to ear hair to eyebrows because... it is the THIRD date.

I'd go wayyyy beyond that for a first meet third date!

SpringtimeSun · 03/03/2018 10:41

Haha Been I'm pretty sure he knows they'll be no MB. We're meeting in the middle and it's not exactly 10mins from either house. That's the draw back with this iron.

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 03/03/2018 10:57

Now then kin would have taken you on with that whip BUT I love a rough chin Grin

BeenThereDating · 03/03/2018 11:12

Pog! I'd probably drop him a line all nonchalant-like with a wee bit of interesting and funny news and end it with something like "so you mentioned meeting up... shall we?"

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pudding21 · 03/03/2018 12:17

Ok so in the end the date finished with me dropping him off at a friends house (I had to go around 00:30 as I had a football match early this morning for the kids). We had a Portuguese kiss, both sides. That's it. He said he felt he'd struck gold matching me on tinder and he would like to see me again. texted when I got home to say how nice it was to meet me. i would see him again, hopefully he will be less nervous. Don't know about moose burgers until i have kissed him.........He seems very respectful and well, normal. Doesn't appear to be the playing games type. He doesn't have a car here though, which is understandable as he doesn't know how long he will be here for (he works from home). Only half an hour drive, but I don't know if I want to be a taxi service. I think I will just be cool and see how things go.

Pog sounds promising, do you want to meet up though??

spring have fun tonight!

ignoring hmmm will he take my mind off Mr A. I am not sure, but it will certainly make me feel less desperate iykwim. I spoke to him this morning he is so freaking sexy but he knows I think that I am sure. Anyway I will be seeing him a lot over the next few weeks, but ball is firmly in his court. I won't push things and see how things develop.

changeoflife a cock cleaner? He needs a glass of water by his bed (remember that thread? Classic).

been my ex is half dutch but his father was brought up in the Uk from the age of 3 so didn't really have much dutch influence. He is the opposite, born in the Uk brought up in Holland, but he has lived in LA and Australia and now Portugal so he is well traveled. He clearly has a good relationship with him mum, which is always a plus in my eyes.

third I guess its plausible in this weather to have not been able to turn up for the date. But who would leave their phone in their car?? Surely you would keep that firmly attached to you if you had to wade through snow??

VixenSixen · 03/03/2018 12:38

Just checking in - Last night's date was snowed off, tried to get to me but couldn't so turned round and gave up. We just ended up chatting on the phone 🤣😂

I have a random date later with a guy I got chatting with earlier this week, not spoken to him on the phone yet and not done too much chat- trying to save that for the date. Eeek. Going to grab a drink and if we are both feeling it something nice to eat somewhere.

Thing is I think last night's date will also want to meet me at some point later 🙈 I don't usually plan B2B dates and never been on 2 in a weekend. Eeek.

Date 1 - we've been chatting for ages, met twice and get on really well but he cannot offer me much in a way of a future with him so defo keeping that as fun for now.

Date 2 (tonight) - this feels like a proper date. We'll have a lot to talk about and hoping that it might be one that goes somewhere.