Dating thread 130: dates with more issues than Vogue - mad March hares every one of 'em

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Coffee date - blue jeans, brown dress shirt. Do I go with the blue or brown leather shoes? God, this dating thing is so hard .

Brown shoes from me Kin relax and enjoy :)

Brown kin. Definitely brown.

pudding ewwww, I do remember that thread! Hadn't thought about it until now. Thing is he literally jumped out of bed and was scrubbing his dick. I could see him in the mirror. Stark bollock naked. I was lying there literally thinking wtf?!! Anyway, that was a couple of years ago... I've brushed myself off since then and have now deleted and blocked!

Kin brown all the way... have fun & enjoy x

Do you have any Crocs, Kin

Vixen you sound like me! No show last night. Had 3 planned this w/e.
Because I have an evening date tonight (around 6) I would have to get rid of my afternoon date sharpish. But, guess what, despite msg me to say he was getting ready at 12.30 - nothing!! Not even read my msg at 2.30. Now 3. If he doesn't get a move on then assume it cancelled!
Men

Jealous of all these dates, I haven’t got any lined up, POF has gone quite apart from Mr Camper who sends me one or 2 messages a day even though he always seems to be online, no mention of actually meeting, I think he only messages as we share a hobby which he is new too and wants advice.

Have had one other message today from someone that lives 100 miles away

Hope all goes well Kin - fingers crossed. Great night at Stereophonics and half a burger this morning. Now to revert to nanny mode - babysitting- my kids love it when I'm single - I'm more available lol

kin good luck, hope you have a successful date!

third hope your afternoon date replies, especially after you no show last night! if not, you still have this evening to look forward to

i dont have another date arranged yet with MrForeign, but we are texting every day. it’s been a week since our last date. i mentioned earier i might just invite him to mine and we can get a takeaway tomorrow, the weather is still awful. it would only be our 4th date, maybe 8th time meeting, so i wouldnt DTD. but wouldnt mind a kiss and cuddle

Have to share this - so I decided to cancel my afternoon date but mistakenly msg last nights (non) date instead!!! Lol. Luckily my msg was pretty general and he didn't click. Then had to msg today's date and tell him. His excuse was he is still in bed (did night work last night) and is shattered. But he told me he was having a shower and getting in the zone earlier??
Anyway, at least tonight's date has confirmed it's still on!
Good luck to everyone on dates tonight x

Bant stop trying to eliminate the competition
Love all very quiet on pof for me too, unless you count the ones I have politely said no to telling me why I am wrong...need to stop being so polite but it just goes against the grain, then I end up in discussion with people I don't have any interest in.
Val glad the concert was good, much better than a date I should imagine :)
Vixen enjoy your date later, very quiet day for me so far. (basically I am a lazy sod)

Third that is funny, and why I can't message a few people at once, not sure how Kitten etc do it, I would def slip up!

ignore I’m glad it’s not just me, I seem to have a quite week or 2 and then suddenly I get 5 or 6 messages in a day.

Just got a lovely message, quite a long one which shows he has read all my profile and looked closely at my photos, we have a bit in comon, he doesn’t have children, live quite far away but not too far and he loves dogs. He ticks most of my boxes apart from one and that’s his looks, he’s not ugly but not that atractive either, carrying a bit of extra weight but not huge. There’s just something about his face that I don’t like but not sure what. Am I being too fussy? Should I meet up with him and hope he’s better looking in RL?

Third - I had started chatting to my last partner while still living in the same house as my exh. We were only at the WhafsApp stage - I accidentally sent a message to him that was meant for my daughter - it was pretty clear that exh was being an absolute ........ - I also said I wish he'd would vacate my life and get out of my house - so I had to explain the situation to my WhatsApp friend - thought he would bolt but he was extremely understanding and once we had met he gave me his house key - in case I needed somewhere to run to. We were together** 2 years but I am very careful who I'm sending messages too !!!

Val and Choc guess the lesson is, don't do it, lol.
Love - take a chance and meet him. I met a guy I didn't think was very attractive on his photo but in RL he was goddam sexy as fuck! It can go either way though. I met a guy who looked quite attractive but he was huge, grossly overweight. You really couldn't tell by his profile pic. Maybe make it a coffee date that you can get away from quickly?
My date tonight has let me know he has bathed and asked if we are getting a take-away. It's our 2nd date in a month - due to various factors on both sides.
Getting slightly excited now.

Third Have a good date - perhaps you can have MB as a take away

Love I agree that photo's are not always a true indicator, but I probably wouldn't meet as whenever I have tried not to be shallow and gone instead for personality/ interests, it just hasn't worked and is then more awkward to get out of post meeting. I have the opposite experience than some on here in that I have never met anyone and thought they looked better in real life, maybe that's just my bad luck but it has put me right off unattractive photo's.

So thread.....I wouldn't date my ex's friend. But what about about an ex of a friend of my ex....I met him once on a night out about a decade ago and my ex and him arnt in regular contact. What you reckon....

third so are you having him round or going to his place? hope you have a good night

love my problem with OLD is i have to see someone in real life to know if i fancy them - i dont swipe through tinder and think “phwoar” when i see attractive people. i think alot of attraction comes from the way someone dresses, how they carry themselves, their vibe etc. so id definitely meet him, you never know what the chemistry will be like

Queen - go for it

Val more info on this half a burger?!? How did that skip people's attention?

more info on this half a burger?!? How did that skip people's attention?

You mean he only put the tip in Val?

Or maybe she only got the bun......

Third - What a nightmare messaging the wrong one 🙈 I always have the dreaded fear about that, double & triple check these days had a very near miss which I almost sent to my mum on WhatsApp once. Eeek.

Val - this totally skipped me by too? Half a burger? Which bit? The meat, the lettuce, sauce or a nibble of the bun 🤣🙈

I'm currently sat in Starbucks (people watching) after a sucessful shopping trip - meeting my date at 7.30. Meanwhile last night's date has got in touch and wants to meet later #awkward. You couldn't make this stuff up.

Lol x

Cover you win I think - Kin - how was your date