Dating thread 130: dates with more issues than Vogue - mad March hares every one of 'em

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

You're right Lovemusic. I've been browsing tonight and chatted to a couple of people. Feeling a bit better.

alison id maybe even just block him then, it gives you a little bit of power. that way you arent waiting for a call/text day after day.
thats the only way i could get over the last guy i dated last year - he said “i hope we can still be friends” and i though fuck no blocks on everything possible

Just on from our "1st date". It was brilliant. Easy, comfortable, just really, really lovely. Now to make sure I don't over invest and stay grounded...

change glad your first date went well.

I’m meant to be having a 1st date with Mr Local this week at some point but it depends on when he finishes work, it might be today or over the weekend but will just be a quick coffee date to start with. I’m quite excited about this one as he just lives up the road, dating would be so much easier than other irons that have lived so far away, so the pressure is on a little to like him when we meet.

Yay changeoflife

Ahhh, coffee date in a few hours. Panic. I'm at the gym, need to get home, shower and make myself look ok ish.

Thanks Smeaton, I have been on loads of dates, had dinner and danced way too much and it still doesn’t get any easier .

Change I'm glad the date went well. Do you have plans to see him again?

Love Good luck for this morning. I hope it goes well. I was hoping that it would get easier with practice as I do find first dates quite nerve racking.

I also think I need a bit of distraction from Mr SA so have agreed to Mr Train's suggestion to meetup. I've never multi dated before so this could be an interesting experience.

I'm back on OLD, it's only been a few days and already I'm like what's the point haha!
Men who just want to talk dirty, fake profiles (does anyone else reverse Google the images?) I've had 3 already in 3 days!
Men who speak all day and then just disappear the next. I have quite a thick skin so I just laugh but by God, these people!!!

Hopefully I'll be able to join in with stories of irons soon and I'm wishing you all good luck

love hope your date is enjoyable!

change yayy! do you have a 2nd date arranged?

vista multidating can be a fun distraction from overinvesting! although ive never managed it past 1st dates.

MrF is meeting me later and has suggested we go for some food, which is nice, considering i thought he’d just want to come to mine again now that we’ve DTD.

Hey again,

So I've been trying a break from OLD after my FWB thing got odd on several levels, one if which was me getting two attached... the other was him getting an STD.

So he got in touch last night at about 10 saying 'I actually miss you'. I know he's at a funeral so I'm guessing drunk and sad. I messaged back to say I missed him too sometimes, now nothing.

I don't say anything more, right? He knows I partly broke it off bcs was getting too attached. He can figure it out himself if he's that bothered, yeah?

Pog I would ignore, men have a habit of saying ‘I miss you’ and tugging on your heart strings when infact they just want a shag. If he really does miss you and wants the same as you then he will chase and lay the cards on the table not play mind games by messaging ‘I miss you’.

I’m sat waiting for Mr Local to text to say he’s finished work, this is the most unorganised date I have had, I don’t even know where we are going, I only have a couple hours before I need to be home for the kids.

Well Miss Keen doesn't want to meet up for a few days as she's on her period so I guess she's not looking for a relationship!

What's everyone's views on multi-dating if already sleeping with someone? Ok as long as I end things with Miss Keen before dtd with someone else?

I'm already out of my moral comfort zone here.

Hope it goes well Love. I’m seeing MrMoves later, will report in after

Kin - don't write her off completely (unless she has said she doesn't want to see you because you can't have MB). It might be that she has terrible period pains and loads of spots, and wants to look and feel her best for you.

Also have you had the exclusivity chat yet?

"Exclusivity chat" is an American thing isn't it? Neither myself nor anyone I know IRL dates more than one person at a time.

Pog what Love said. I take late night / early morning texts with a pinch of salt as it often means "I'm horny therefore I miss you / I'm thinking of you". I'd say wait and see.

He might well be rethinking his promiscuous phase though if he's been taught a lesson with the STI. If he gets in touch again maybe reply during the day with a breezy funny short unemotional text. If he replies to that maybe he really does miss you...

kin i dont think theres anything wrong with multidating in your situation, you have only met MissKeen once right? i doubt she is under any illusion that you are 100% commited to her. mentioning her period does make it sound as though its FWB.

it doesn’t mean you’re going to be sleeping with 3 or 4 people at once, but having a fun,
physical relationship while still looking for a “soulmate” per say - i dont see anything wrong with

I need to clarify with Miss Keen properly later on - her texts are confusing - but it looks like she is indeed after FWB, which is strange given how she checked I wanted more before we met .

So, looks like she wants sex without a relationship. Miss Intellectual wanted a relationship without sex.

Third time... lucky?

Kin What I meant was have you discussed not dating anyone else.

Kin combine the two?

She'd previously told me she wasn't seeing anyone else Val and, prior to today, it's not something I would have ever considered to be acceptable for myself.

Kin I don't think I would feel comfortable dating somebody else in your position until you have managed to clarify things with Miss Keen.