I'm 35 today I've realised my marriage is over

[mammymammyIRL]

Dh emotionally abuses me.
He shouted at me & shoved me in front of our four year old ds for the last time on Sunday morning.
I don't want my 7 year old dd growing up seeing her parents not getting along
I don't want them to think Daddy's getting cross with Mammy is normal or ok

I can't do the rest of my life living like this.

H went out last night for a few hours & then text that he wouldn't be home until this morning. And it 100% didn't bother me so I'm delighted as it proves I'm over him completely

Fathers Day today & dd says she doesn't want any arguments today. So you and daddy don't argue ok
We haven't argued in 14 weeks, just shows the effect it has had on her.

Woo hoo finally got called for mediation, now the hard work will start.

This week one of the houses I'd my eye on went sale agreed, and a work colleague (unaware of my interest in it) is looking at possibly purchasing the other one so with that disappointment of what might have been, it's great to get called for mediation. 8 week waiting list, this is week 15!

Well done on getting the mediation going...so sorry it's taken so long, don't worry about the house, there is going to be sometime on the market come your time to make an offer...'I feel it in me waters 😝'

Exactly iwill and maybe h will have come up with a different solution that I haven't thought of yet

So today would've been day one of mediation if H could've made it
Next date is 10th July if he pulls same stunt then I may have to go down legal road

It's sounding like you'll have no option. I hope not though.

Pebbles will see what the next week brings

Feeling a bit low this weekend, spent it with my friend, her husband and two kids and I suppose felt all the more what I don't have. Then met my friend who's separating from her dh and that wasn't as therapeutic as I thought it might be

Mediation this week

It sounds hard. Concentrate on why you're here and that 'this too shall pass' and that you have the rest of your life to look forward to.

Thanks pebble x

I don't even expect replies but this is kinda of an online diary for me

Hi Mammy, you've been on my mind and I've been following your journey. How did mediation go?

inisfree thanks for thinking of me, it was put back until Monday :(

Just caught up with all of this.
You are doing so well.
I wish you luck in mediation.
Ensure they know that he is emotionally and physically abusive before you start.

I don't know how to pm but would love to message you but anyway I want to say, it will be over soon. Everyday is a day closer to freedom.

Thanks means a lot

I've stood up for myself I have arranged to be away for fri eve through to sun next weekend alone, he's taking full responsibility for dc, possibly longest time ever since ds was born, will give him an idea what life will be life if we do 50/50 with dc.

Aargh am I ever going to get going with mediation? Booked for Monday and there's been a bereavement in mediators family so it's been cancelled.

Going to view a house today & talking to mortgage advisor in my bank to see what I can afford to borrow alone

Hope it goes OK mammynow. How did the weekend away go?

Doing a viewing is good - it's nice to start imagining what 'could be' if nothing else comes from it...shite about the mediation so far, fingers crossed the new appointment is soon and that the mortgage advisor gives you some good news XX

Thanks for the positive thoughts - I loved the house! It's got one downfall only electric storage heaters and electric heater for water in kitchen but everything else is all good! I was able to clearly see who would sleep in which bedroom and the other downfalls are minor. The big bonuses are it's already been renovated, the windows are new and it's on a huge site. Hi years to come subject to planning obviously there's space for both dc to build if they wished
For now like hyacinth bucket would say there's even room for a pony!
Outside there's just gravel space to park one car so putting in a yard would be a priority.

If you've got a dishwasher you wont need a lot of hotwater anyway.

True fluffy
It's the heating I'd be more concerned about, but it's something that could be done in time rather than immediately. I filled in form for 5 quotes online just to get an idea of approx cost