Relative forgot my baby’s 1st Birthday?

[PasstheStarmix]

Hi, my sibling forgot my baby’s first birthday. I’m disappointed in said sibling. Said sibling has no dc and plenty of free time to be organised. Has this happened to you or anybody you know? I just seem to have a really poor family.

I don’t think it’s a big deal but I am disappointed about it yes.

Joysmum Already reminded and discussed. Also sibling doesn’t have a massively life with no children herself and no other neives or nephews.

massively busy

nieces*

My sister has no children and enough time to be organised and remembers everybody else’s

Your assumption that people who are childfree live in a wonderland of having loads of time to buy presents for the DC of others is a little bit annoying - I hope this isn't an attitude you display openly to your sister.

My suggestion would be to remind her in future - drop it into conversation that the birthday is coming up, and what you're doing to celebrate - perhaps invite her along!

Just because someone doesn’t have children doesn’t mean she’s not busy! I assume she has a job/friends/a social life? I have way more time to remember this stuff now I’m a SAHM to 2 pre schoolers than I ever did pre children.
Anyway... yes it is disappointing. But maybe she feels closer to the other children you mentioned than she does to your DC?

So are you notbothered about your DH brother doing even less?

Btw, I don't think there should be an automatic assumption that people who are childfree do not have busy lives: people can work long hours, have high-flying careers with lots of business travel, sick parents, networking evenings, relationships etc.

And as some PP said, some people are just naturally disorganised, whether or not they have children.

My 2 older siblings had their children some years before I did. I always gave presents for their birthdays and Christmas. Then I had my children when theirs were teenagers. My children never got presents from them. I was very hurt at first but then learnt to let it go. My children never really noticed so I didn’t think it was worth making a rift in the family. Try to be philosophical about it.

Gah81 I’m Obviously talking about my own sibling’s personal situation and she doesn’t work long hours or have any of the other commitments you mentioned.

I also agree that your attitude that someone who doesn't have children simply has plenty of time on their hands comes across really badly and it is to be hoped it isn't as apparent in real life as it is on this thread.

ilovesooty Read my comment above please

I wouldn't worry about it. My mum forgot my birthday once, I wasn't offended by it.

You are determined to justify your hostility towards her and continue to make judgement on her life evidently.

Life's too short - tell them a week before if they forget again I'm sure next time you see them they'll get a gift

My brother regularly does this and the kids like getting presents outside of their birthday as it's another present

Some people just don't think baby's first birthday is a big deal.

Me for one.

Don't assume everyone thinks the same way as you OP. You sound like hard work.

Doesn’t matter what commitments you say she doesn’t have. She might just not be as bothered as you.

When was the birthday?

ilovesooty Incorrect

Passthestarmix, you are obviously in your comments drawing a direct line between the lack of children and your sibling's abundance of spare time.

Maybe you weren't aware of it, but it is there. This is why so many posters have picked up on it. HTH.

What Gah81 said.

I don't think it's your sister who has the "me me me" attitude.

extinctspecies My sister is all about birthdays and when one of her friends forgot her she went crazy about it. I’m personally not arsed about my own

What gah said.

I wouldnt be too bothered about a forgotten birthday tbh.