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Dating Thread 128: the one without a catchy title

999 replies

RunsforCake14 · 11/02/2018 11:15

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
OP posts:
ValMc1 · 12/02/2018 21:17

People please help - I've just signed up to tinder and most of the people I'm seeing are from my line of work - I've not put anything in about where I work so hope I'm paranoid

ValMc1 · 12/02/2018 21:24

Panic over - just realised it is where they were educated - I work in a college so thought WHAT - all very new lol

sweetbabboo · 12/02/2018 21:25

Great news on the jobs Ginny! I've had my redundancy figures through and I haven't got much choice anyway so at least I know what I'm working with. Applied for two jobs this evening but am bloody nervous about it all. Am viewing OLD as a nice distraction to it all!

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 12/02/2018 21:27

Have another date on Thursday now as the guy that I was talking to before the weekend and who disappeared came back ...took the piss out of him a bit but thought Why Not ? Let's call him Mr Bad Boy . He looks a bit naughty but who knows in real life ! Tomorrow is Mr Seems Boring but Texts Nice Stuff all the time ! Think I'm getting too old for 2 dates in a week Grin

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 12/02/2018 21:28

but I do have Valentine's Day sandwiched Wink Grin

VetOnCall · 12/02/2018 21:45

Congratulations on the job offers Ginny - spoiled for choice!

I'll do my best to update tomorrow. Oh god, I fear it's going to be a huge anticlimax for you all so I apologise in advance!

Techgirldating2018 · 12/02/2018 21:48

I’m going for a drink on Wednesday with a part time iron I know from RL not OLD let’s call him Mr Cat he’s all kinds of wrong but good fun. I don’t know what we would even call this relationship/friendship. Total contrast to Mr Sensible. Maybe that’s the problem?

Stmoritz · 12/02/2018 21:56

Ugh, so annoying. The guy I started chatting to earlier seemed amazing, we had a phone chat today, exchanged more photos (just general, travelling, with friends etc.) we were really on the same wavelength, he’s really interesting. Planned to meet this weekend. Anyway he messaged me just now asking how my evening was, I mentioned I was happy as I’d had some good news relating to a sensitive subject for me and he proceeded to make loads of crude, inappropriate jokes about it?! I told him he was being inappropriate and insensitive and he’s read it and not replied. Doubt he will now. What a dick! He really gave the impression of not being one as well! I actually feel like I want to cry, partly from the sensitive subject (sorry I can’t say what it is as it’s outing) being talked about like that and partly because are there any actual non-dicks out there??

Techgirldating2018 · 12/02/2018 21:58

st what is the matter with them?

Techgirldating2018 · 12/02/2018 22:00

I mean why? Are they not trying to find nice, sensible women? And if they’re not surely they have better things to do?

esk1mo · 12/02/2018 22:11

he’s all kinds of wrong but good fun

that made me laugh bloody

MrForeign has asked to go to the cinema for our 2nd date. he said he used to go all the time in his home country but hasnt been here yet (lived here for 1 year) and i havent been in years sooo..might aswellSmile

ive sort of planned in my head that our 3rd date can be walking/climbing a big hill in our city, then im getting a hip operation so will be in crutces for 2-3 weeks. so i will have to ask him to nurse me back to health.

glad everything is looking positive for most of us

Stmoritz · 12/02/2018 22:16

Techgirl I don’t know. It’s depressing!

Lovemusic33 · 12/02/2018 22:21

I have been chatting to someone through adult friends for 2 days, I hadn’t seen his face (not many face shots on there), he seems really nice and then tonight he sends me a face shot Sad ,he’s not my type at all, he looks really young and very thin.

I won’t be going anywhere for Valentine’s Day, I’m off work sick with a nasty kidney infection, on pain killers and antibiotics so no alcohol for me Sad

Stmoritz · 12/02/2018 22:50

Love get well soon!

gettingthere1968 · 12/02/2018 22:54

Thanks cover, have cracked straight on with POF and Tinder.....certainly does help moving on!

lastnicknamefree · 12/02/2018 22:56

Oh StM that’s really crap of him, bullet dodged I think! Angry

But on a more positive note, we’ll done on the good news, don’t let that twunt spoil it for you Wine

gettingthere1968 · 12/02/2018 23:10

Big hugs StM, what an idiot!! Honestly you do wonder about people don't you Angry!!

PeacefulPoster · 12/02/2018 23:35

Having just posted about my disastrous experience of online dating I was directed to his thread and feel a little less alone xx

Stmoritz · 12/02/2018 23:45

Oh FFS!!!

speaking to what I thought was a man with a lot of potential. Have been messaging for a few weeks, not too intensely but enough to keep in touch. Good looking, intelligent, works in the field that I’m working towards, interesting, polite. This is on ok Cupid. So I suggested meeting up and he says yeah, we seem really compatible, have you checked our questions? And I thought I had, but I guess he’s answered a load more recently? Anyway, turns out he’s a TRUMP SUPPORTER, thinks the Mexican wall is a GOOD IDEA, is ‘on the fence’ over whether abortion should be allowed, thinks ‘mansplaining’ doesn’t exist and apparently has some kind of ‘worshipping’ fetish?!

I give up. I actually give up.

pringlecat · 12/02/2018 23:47

Stmoritz Ouch. The problem I found with OKC was when I read the answers to all the questions, I decided I pretty much hated very man on there... I mean, it's saved a lot of time, but it's resulted in zero dates from that site! Wink

sweetbabboo · 12/02/2018 23:54

Dear God stmoritz! What type of questions do they ask on there? Obviously it's good you now know before wasting anymore time but it's quite a bizarre set of answers! A worshipping fetish... the mind boggles!

sweetbabboo · 12/02/2018 23:55

Welcome peaceful, take a pew and enjoy the horror and success stories!

CoverMeLads · 13/02/2018 00:02

Welcome Peaceful you really aren’t alone Wink

StM OKC I would say these days has about a 5000:1 perv:nonperv ratio. They’re more entertaining than the run of the mill sex pests you get on POF, but I could only take it in very small doses. By the time the 5th guy in a wig and bad makeup had suggested I might like to Domme him up real nice, I’d had enough.

Feel better soon, Love Flowers

Vet no pressure for it to work out from us lot. No siree, none at all Wink

ValMc1 · 13/02/2018 06:31

Question about Tinder - if you've said no to them don't get keep popping up again? Also I can't up my age setting - I've got late 40s popping up - a bit too young for me - it's a bit compulsive x

VetOnCall · 13/02/2018 07:21

Val to change the age range, tap the little person icon at the top left of the screen then hit 'settings' and scroll down and you'll be able to adjust the age, distance etc. I also get people I've swiped left on coming up again, I don't think you can change that. Maybe if they've swiped right on you Tinder gives them another shot in case you change your mind.