Pog Mr Faraway is a knob. I doubt there was a card too, one of my exes (not Mr Yowzer) was very fond of that kind of gaslighting shit: he said he’d put a letter through my door once and it drove me insane wondering what could have happened to it 🙄 Also said he bought an engagement ring and was going to propose, but had sold it as I wouldn’t take his calls at one point. Lordy I’m well rid.
Peaceful I’m so sorry you had to find out what a fleshlight is 😆 and I want to know more about the ice.....
Val any man that calls you “honey” on first message isn’t going to pan out well. I feel like replying “you are overfamiliar. Many women do not like this. Cease immediately and there’s a chance you might get a date” but I don’t.
Annit I have no clue. It’s a two way thing, attraction, so I don’t get how men say they can’t tell if you are (MrMr did this. I wasn’t all PHWOAR, but I was enjoying his company and would have thought it was obvious I’d like to see him again)or say they are if you couldn’t tell. Odd.
Mystic think it will have been answered, but coffee shop/pub for an hours coffee. And I do enforce that hour and most times make plans to go somewhere after so a) my friend knows I haven’t been murdered and b) if there’s no spark there’s a natural end.
Told Mr Cure that on the phone today. He seemed genuinely gobsmacked “what? Even if you’re getting on and enjoying each other’s company” and I’m like “yes, because it whets the appetite for a second meeting”
I’m sure he thinks I’m bats, but it’s my method and it’s worked for me so far 😉
Ah, am reading on: what Bant said. I’d no more have a stranger in my house than fly in the air. Nor go to theirs. No no no nooooooo.
Ruby have you binned off that guy? How can he ever come home back from that?? Plus I agree with others who’ve said it’s a smokescreen: if you have BV you’ll know about it. And if you’d washed recently (which I think you said you did) then there’s no way. It was an unbelievably cruel thing to say, regardless.
Reading on: what Been said.
Ignoring I’ve now got 3 dates in the diary and am talking to 4 others. It’s not slapperish it’s working the odds 😀
Bloody it does sound suss to me, yes. Keep us posted?
Popple good luck tonight 😀 (argh just seen he cancelled. Are you rescheduling or binning?) and yes, those who were here last summer might remember I was having the same worries as you. I don’t have full length on my profile but I’m upfront with all of them (as Match handily has weight in the “what you’re looking for” bit 🙄) and all 3 guys I’ve got dates with either said “can’t remember what I put now, not a problem” or just “not a problem”.
You know as women we really do a number on ourselves about our size: when I was a 14 and beating myself up about it, what would have put guys off was the “I hate myself” vibe I was emanating. Now I’m an 18 (though working back to a 12 purely to avoid diabetes and a heart attack 💀) and feeling better about myself than I ever have it just seems a non-issue. If you choose the curvy/extra pounds option then they know they’re not going to get someone slim and they do look at that. Just like we look at height 😉
Ah I see StM and Peaceful said pretty much the same: confidence is key 👍🏻 and yes, our issues.
Been I’m glad you’re happy with Mr TC. You will keep checking in though, right?
Vixen ah now I know what MH means in previous posts. I was wondering how mental health fit in lol I’ll have a look at his stuff.
Custard welcome! And I think you just need to add “with you” onto the end of that sentence 😉 or soften it to “things aren’t going to work out between us” then delete and block. I know it’s really hard and you don’t want to hurt the other persons feelings, but leaving any kind of hope with them isn’t fair. And this is a guy you’ve met once; you really don’t owe him anything. Being polite but firm isn’t cruel, it’s kind and frees him up to meet someone else.
Lost if you feel comfortable then it’s fine 😉
Runs I’m sorry you’re having a hard day. Time will heal; it’s just a bugger to get through 
Last did you send it? I like the “things aren’t going to work out between us” as it’s stating a fact, but you don’t have to give a reason. If they ask why and you choose to reply (cos you’ve wished them luck at the end of the message which is a natural close) then you can be honest and say no physical spark.
Sadik that gave me a laugh. No parents or kids to do that to me, but I do have a friend who has a key.....😳
Game if it’s not happening for you with either physical attraction or compatibility then you can’t make it happen. There will be ones that tick both boxes, promise. (Please remind me of this if all my dates are a bust 
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Rose wise words from Pringle; couldn’t have put it better.
Nothing I’d go, unless the idea of getting ready and travelling etc etc made my stomach plummet.
Pudding yippee! Am as overinvested as everyone else.
Bloody I’ve got Derek and Clive singing “I’ve got the horn” as an ear worm now 
Tinderella moose burgers are served on the kitchen worktop I’ll try and find an explaining post I can copy and paste as my hand is going into a Davros claw with all this typing (iPhone)
Popple breeeeeaaaaathe. And relaaaaaaaax. He might fancy you. He might not. You might fancy him. You might not. You’re just going for a coffee for an hour with someone to have (hopefully) an interesting chat. That’s all it is. No big deal, see? 😉 He might be a catfish, or a flake, or a liar, but he might not and you don’t need to validate that before you’ve had just an hours coffee, right?
If he doesn’t do it for you, you leave. Earlier than planned if you feel uncomfortable; he’s a stranger and at this stage you owe him zilch (other than basic politeness. You might not get that back, but it’s always good to have standards)
Fuck me, that’ll teach me not to read back properly for a mere 24 hours......