The house next door

[isobel79]

Ok so I have the most gorgeous neighbour. He helped me out with a kitchen appliance crisis a few months back. As a thank you I said we should do coffee.
Today was that day.
He is smart intelligent handsome and such a gentleman.
I have been admiring him since he moved in.
Anyhow I text him to say thanks for a lovely afternoon. He replied with
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"You are very exciting, and I dont know how it could end."

What does this mean. I want it to mean one thing but it probably means something else

I may be moving at the end of this month and I won't see him

What do I do I am very attracted to him.

Ooh. Thought I'd fallen through a time portal for a second there.

Jeeesus!! We're not in the bloody 60s.

OP. There's nothing wrong with your messages. Ignore all this "if he wants you, he'll come get you."

In this day and age I really hope a woman can go get what she wants if she's so inclined. Well done on being so confident and forthright. It's very refreshing.

Thank you LP that's uplifting if he wants me he knows where I am "for now" 😉

This reminded me of a line from Notting Hill 'well anyone saying they want to go out with you is pretty good isn't it.'

But I've also got a line from Love Actually in my head too, 'enough, enough now'

• See what happens. x

Well done OP. You've not lost anything.

LollaLaLuna
Sorry I put it rather badly. I was trying to say that people more inclined to ask neighbors for help before phoning for handy man.

I would have said
How do you want it to end
Coffee at mine

I've given up

You haven't lost anything op. He sent you a text which made it seem like he was interested. You replied in kind. You weren't sure if it was a language thing so you replied making it clear. You like him and wanted to see if he liked you in that way. One way or the other you'll know now so you won't need to think about what ifs. It was a few texts not you offering yourself naked so ignore the peeps who said you were too forward, I completely disagree.

I've given up

Have you met your new neighbours yet?

Go for it op. I've been with my neighbour for four years now.

LP that so encouraging I'm just gonna see what happens and whether we meet again I'd love for us to meet again I have never had such a strong attraction to someone never mind actually telling him that I like him

Just tell him!

Ignore all of those telling you that you should let him come to you. Sending two texts is far from desperate. I'd have sent him something similar to that if I'd been in your position.

Thank you LP. I spotted him this morning but I believe he has gone to work as I remember said he does shifts. I might ask him for coffee on Sunday I don't know he might say no then I'd feel like a complete idiot

I think it's really great that you out yourself out there but please don't ask him out now. You asked him out for coffee as a thanks for the help, then you sent him a text saying you like him, and sent a second text saying it again on case he didn't understand a word you used in the first one.

The ball is totally in his court now. If he doesn't ask you out (bear in mind you already did that first with the thank you coffee) then I can't see that he is interested. Maybe he would say yes if you asked him again but do you really want to set out with someone who doesn't reciprocate and put any effort in? To me dating is a two way street. I'd not be pursuing someone who isn't bothered enough to make plans too or prove to me they return the interest.

Is he Asian by any chance? Usually exciting means that you are full of life .

I guess he ain't the only man in the world I just feel like I let myself down by going the extra mile something I would never do. I don't think he likes me in that way and if and when I move i don't think I'll ask for help. Better if I just carry on regard less

Any news op?

‘k isobel79 so it seems sucky but it’s not really.

You’ve put yourself out there, the rush must have been amazing, hence the come down feeling like shit.

But, do you what? You’ve done it. Put yourself out there. And he missed that boat.

You just need to keep paddeling

No news just a thank you text when he replied to my stupid text explaining fancy doh doh doh me. Think I've put him off so I feel quite down about it just embarrassed

Really sorry about that Isobel. I don’t think you acted inappropriately though. Given what he messaged you in the first place. Don’t feel embarrassed as you’ve done nothing wrong. Time will tell whether anything happens and if it’s meant to be then I hope it does x