The house next door

[isobel79]

Ok so I have the most gorgeous neighbour. He helped me out with a kitchen appliance crisis a few months back. As a thank you I said we should do coffee.
Today was that day.
He is smart intelligent handsome and such a gentleman.
I have been admiring him since he moved in.
Anyhow I text him to say thanks for a lovely afternoon. He replied with
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"You are very exciting, and I dont know how it could end."

What does this mean. I want it to mean one thing but it probably means something else

I may be moving at the end of this month and I won't see him

What do I do I am very attracted to him.

Anyone else still wanting to know if anything happened between OP and her neighbour ?

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Great thread !

Scuzzlet nowt has happend I think I've scared him off. We exchanged hellos yesterday he asked about the housing and that's all folks. I was so tempted to ask him for coffee but u know what I've done I've deleted his number so that at least I can't contact him - if he wants to say hey then he has my number. I wont now be hanging on waiting for a message. Its a shame because he is so handsome and smart and such a gent and what I did was wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy out of my comfort zone and I don't think I'd do it again

Of course nothing happened. He isn't interested thats very clear. Time to stop harassing him now.

Yep I've made a complete and utter fool of myself

No you haven't Isobel. Nothing lost. You're moving soon. It doesn't matter.

Not made a fool of yourself at all x x You took the bull by the horns and actually that took a lot of guts! Ignore some people’s negativity. I’m still hopeful because of his initial message and the spark between you x

You're still hopefully? Let it gooooooo let it goooooo. Come on if this was a man people would find it seriously creepy. The.man.is.not.interested. Being friendly doesn't=flirting.

Thank you LP I'm not hopeful I just feel a bit foolish x

Oh my gosh you were way too forward! I would never in a million years have texted what you did although I do admire you for having the courage to do so.
Just leave it for now - back off. Don’t contact him again. If he contacts you be friendly but don’t ask him out again! It is sexist but most men like to do that for at least the first date!

Agree rainbows! Can't believe people are still "hopeful" op texted him saying she fancied him. Texted him explaining fancy means like. Which he didn't reply to. Yet people are still hopeful. Leave the man alone.

In the grand scheme of things, OP, it's not that big a deal. You took a risk but at least now you know, and anyway, as a PP said - you're moving soon so you can put it all behind you and chalk it up to experience.

It could have been a lot worse. When I was a student I fell madly in love with a guy on my course. We became friends and hung out together - a lot. But he never made a move on me romantically.

I confided in my best female pal (also on the course) details of our every meeting and how crazy I was about him. And how I was in agony wishing he would make a move. But he never did. This went on for a year!

I eventually told him about my feelings and he said, "I think you're a wonderful person but I just see you as a friend."

You've guessed it. He fancied my best pal! He married her and they are still very happy decades later. He knows about all the agonies I suffered and how crazy I was about him, which I'm still embarrassed about to this day. I'm still friends with them both.

So next time you feel stupid, OP, think of me and remember that it could have been a lot worse!

Thank you LP and sorry that it didn't work for you but I think we both did something out of our comfort zone and tbh I think we are pretty brilliant. Sometimes you just got a take a chance. I did.....

Newsflash

So I'm home this evening and I get a text asking how am I. Omg butterflies or what. Anyhow we had coffee and im not gonna make the same mistake twice but am very happy

Ooh was it just coffee or coffee and more?!!

Did you make plans to see him again?

That's great, Isobel!🤗🌞

'I don't know how it could end'.......He only wants a shag anyway. Know that.

Good luck Isobel - glad to hear your update! Please keep us posted

Whoop!!! Brilliant Isobel!!!

I was cringing so much reading other posters actually telling you to send that text. It was a bit full on. Seems to have worked out I guess, good luck.

Just don’t take any nice thing he says or does as a sign that he is besotted with you becaus eit May not be the case. Don’t be too full on and just be calm.

So what actually happened?

It was nice we had coffee. Couple of drinks talked for ages. He is very intelligent and funny. And his company was great. And even though I find him very very attractive I wouldn't see it developing into anything towards an "everlasting relationship". And yes we did kiss but it was inevitable and exciting. And now I have done it I feel great. As I said it was so out of my comfort zone to make that initial message but I feel good and know that I can do it.

"You are very exciting, and I dont know how it could end."

Hmmm... I can't help thinking he sounds like a player here. Nothing wrong with that, if you are too, of course, but I would caution you to protect your heart. This could also be an issue if you want children within a certain time frame.

The reason I think this is because I think men who are looking for a long-term relationship tend to be straight about this. They might be more likely to start by asking you for coffee or a drink. He didn't - he started with a reference to you being exciting and a vague 'hook' designed to get your imagination going.

I'm wondering if he did this after you'd already told him you're moving?

Tread carefully until you're sure you're both on the same page.