The house next door

[isobel79]

Ok so I have the most gorgeous neighbour. He helped me out with a kitchen appliance crisis a few months back. As a thank you I said we should do coffee.
Today was that day.
He is smart intelligent handsome and such a gentleman.
I have been admiring him since he moved in.
Anyhow I text him to say thanks for a lovely afternoon. He replied with
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"You are very exciting, and I dont know how it could end."

What does this mean. I want it to mean one thing but it probably means something else

I may be moving at the end of this month and I won't see him

What do I do I am very attracted to him.

Maybe he doesn't want it to happen too soon or maybe he gets pleasure from chasing women. In those countries (Eastern Europe) men can be quite conservative. Back down. Thank him and say if he even wants to go out for coffee or beer let me know.

I feel a bit deflated now all the hype from last night to feeling a bit sad this morning. I am not sure what to do

Ever not even

Well, maybe he doesn’t understand the word fancy if English isn’t his first language as it’s slang.

Perhaps ask if he would like to go out for a coffee instead as it looks like crossed wires- the first message suggested he really likes you but the second didn’t make sense so perhaps he didn’t understand

I've put 'i fancy you' on Google translate for the languages that I speak and the translation doesn't make sense in any of them.

I would reply with 'thank you. Do you want to have a coffee this week?' or whatever. But keep your English simple.

Don’t feel sad Isobel. I think you were very brave to text him and I wouldn’t discourage that. I just think maybe the content of the text was too much too soon?

Shall I say

"Thank you for offering to help. Perhaps we could go for a drink when you are free. My last message maybe I wasn't making any sense so I apologise"

Maybe he means you can rely on him for help with your quite fancying him? I would let it lie for a while and then maybe text him suggesting another coffee, or do some baking and have 'too much left' and leave a muffin or two on his doorstep,

Is no one else intrigued by the 'kitchen appliance crisis' that he helped out with initially? I'm seeing a dishevelled man in overalls, clutching a huge spanner a la Pat Mustard's enormous tool

OP, he is Polish, a quite conservative culture. As I said, thank him and suggest coffee one day but don't give him any dates. Forget about beer. You now need to back down. Maybe it's your way of making a friendship. Hello handsome, I really fancy you. You wanna go to Costa? ;)

He fancies you.

You don't need to go in all guns blazing. He's interested. Just ask him directly, esp ask him how he would like it to end.

I would take thst as a gentle let down.

He says thank you, so acknowledges your compliment and offers his support in a neighbourly way.

Just move on, don't feel rejected.Trust that he is not right for you.

Yes reply again.. you can't leave it like that😬

I dont think i would reply.

Sounds like he is just being polite and didnt mean what you thought he did in his first text.

Op. I would leave the last line out. Just put the first two sentences about thank you and about the coffee.

It doesn't matter where you're from, if he likes her, he likes her. He definitely likes you but whether as just a friend or more is hard to understand because if his English. Maybe he meant exciting as fun (any Polish speakers here who could shed a light?) Or maybe he meant the way you took it. A coffee can also mean anything but it gives you an opportunity to spend time with him and see how interested he is.

OP needs to reply otherwise it would look like it matters to her. Of course it matters but you don't want to show it. In this case you need to pretend everything is cool and I didn't send you anything what you may think. "Thank you. You're very kind. Let me know if ever feel like having coffee with me. I know a good place." No kisses at the end.

I just don't want to feel like an idiot shall put

"Thank you for your offer of help. Perhaps we can go for a drink sometime or another coffee"

Don’t go apologising or saying anything else. It’s fine what you’ve said. If he’s not interested that’s also ok. You didn’t embarrass yourself. You took a leap of faith. It didn’t work out. If he does like you and there’s crossed wires, he will have to do the running. Perhaps he doesn’t understand what “fancy” him means btw. Not something I would have said to a foreigner.

You'll be forever getting your wires crossed! If he's interested, he'll look up the word 'fancy'.

I like that mummy of little dragon

Just go and knock on his door and actually speak to him.

Texting isn't going to work due to the language differences. Body language will be a better indicator.

Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed, it's 2018. woman can ask a man out for a date.

Ok I suppose you may have a point onecute. Thank you. You are very kind is enough.

He could be letting you down gently, however it's hard to say as English isn't his first language. It could be a confusion between cultures and he might not have understood what you were saying by fancying him. I once dated an Italian guy and his texts did seem abrupt and he wouldn't always understand the context of things, as it may translate differently in his language to mean something else. I would reply a bit later on something like " well would be nice to keep in touch after I move", and see what his reply is.

Oh cross post. Do either nothing or a very short post.

Short Message even.

I think his message is a bit creepy! But as I'm alone in that, I'm probably over thinking it

You're not alone. It would have put me off.