Is anyone else just 'done with men' or dating/relationships?

[RedHareWithBlondeHair]

I think I'm just over it tbh. I can't express it fully enough.
The initial rush of feelings, then the abandonment. I just don't want any of this anymore. And what when you have children? Fuck all of it.

I hear ya!
I have a tidy house.
I can watch what I want and when I want.
Eat what I want and when I want.
Plan girlie nights out or in with my friends.
Visit and stay at my mum and dads when I want.
Sit in and slob if I want.
Not shave if I CBA.
Whole bed to myself.
Don't care or know if I snore.
No-one keeping me awake with their snoring.
Do my hobby without any issues.
No man-child.

I love single life!

Me! I much prefer single life. Two very good friends are recently said "You deserve a really good man",

All I could reply was that I'd much prefer a really good life.

Definitely got to this point after 10 years single with the odd fun dalliance & a couple of disastrous short relationships.. was very happy to be just me DC's & the dog... until current DP came back in my life 6 months ago. We had previously tried & failed (well he failed mainly) but so far so good.. I was very sceptical & wary of getting involved again & have not yet been able to fully let me guard down (self preservation) .. more of the feeling that for as long as it lasts I'll enjoy it & should it go tits up I'll survive.. it will be his last chance though & my last attempt at a relationship!

I agree with doing what you want eating etc watching your own stuff.
I've often preferred watching tv alone anyway.
It's more the quiet when you live alone and having lack of plans for the weekend.
Which then equals trying to find a random guy to meet up with.
Need decent friends I think.

Ragnar "Think the females in our family are too independent!"

no such thing as too independent IMO!

5 years single here. Bad break up and never want to go there again. Sometimes I think I should have some sort of relationship, just so HE isn't the last man I was ever with, but I really don't want to get involved. I'm not the kind of person who would have a ONS or a casual relationship, so I'll probably stay on my own. I often holiday/go to gigs on my own, love being on my own and having space with no one to mess with my head. What's not to like

Me! My people! I'm so done with it all, so much effort and energy, so much worrying.. better off without it all.

Coming up to 10 years since I booted him out and for the life of me, I don't know why I married him and stayed married for so long. Since leaving him, 2 male friends offered to be FWB, but both are married and I know both their wives and no way could I do that to any woman, never mind a woman I know! I''m more than happy being single. The DC are grown and mostly away and I love being single.

Ew littlecandle how sad that two married men have offered you regular sex :( this is a good reminder of why it’s better to be single.

does anyone else have that thing where people ask if you are married, and you do a little internal jump of astonishment, because it's such a foreign concept now?

Nope, try as I might, still can’t make any sense out of that jumble of words.

My problem is me

I am really impatient and intolerant. I get to know people and let a lot of little things slide, then suddenly realise that most of what they do drives me mad and I then can’t stand them. I’m like ‘ok... I’m pretty horny and he seems ok. Let’s date’ then before I know it I am ignoring his calls

The last few relationships I have ended up horribly resentful. So I am avoiding them

Dating doesn’t seem to last very long and then develops into what people seem to think a relationship entails which is cooking dinner for each other, having occasional ok sex, watching TV, going to the pub and sending each other silly Memes.
I DO ALL OF THAT WITH MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY (except the sex). Then there is factoring their DC into it and both my last relationships needed fucking A3 year to view wall planners - which incidentally, were never correct on their end and their exes constantly changed all the bloody dates

-I don’t want to spend my only free time sitting in someone else’s (messy) house

• I don’t want to have to be cleaning my own house for a visitor. Or cooking for anyone else

-I don’t want to go round Aldi with you

• I don’t want to sit in a shit pub for 3 hours talking about work
• I don’t want to be rushing about after a long work day and leaving my DC to watch crap on TV
• I don’t want to have to teach you what a clitoris is
• I don’t want to shave my legs
• I don’t want to watch your DC on the slide in the park
• I don’t want to watch you have no fucking clue how to talk to my teen DC so fucking ignore them
• I don’t want to have to book you 6 months in advance to do anything spontaneous because you have dodgy child contact arrangements with your ex

So it’s me!

I'm happy with Mr Buns, but if it ended for whatever reason, I would not seek out another relationship. We have been together 20 years and I have put everything into it. There has been a lot of compromise and it has been tough at times. I'm not prepared to make that kind of emotional investment again.