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Should I presume date is still on?

405 replies

lnging · 31/01/2018 12:46

So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

OP posts:
ALittleBitConfused1 · 31/01/2018 18:23

I wouldn't go either it would be a waste of your time effort and money, cancel the sitter if you don't feel upto it. Or if a friend is available go out for dinner.
You get a lot of this on old.
But in any case I think he's rude not replying so I wouldn't want to date him now anyway.
This is the first lesson I learnt, people aren't always who they pretend to be online, they say things they have no intention of doing, meet them quick to avoid any kind of over investment happening and take everything they say with a pinch of salt until it materializes.
Well done op another twat discovered, that means you're one man closer to finding someone who deserves a night out with you and those boots.

helenoftroyville · 31/01/2018 18:27

MN is very cynical, I really think he is going to turn up.

Am I naive, or are the majority right about him?

Nixen · 31/01/2018 18:27

I would go and have a glass of wine and enjoy my book. What have you got to lose?

Thethingswedoforlove · 31/01/2018 18:27

I really think he will be there

Psychobabble123 · 31/01/2018 18:29

God what a dilemma! My gut feeling would be that he had ghosted me, OLD can be brutal like that! But fuck him, get dressed up and go out anyway! Cinema and a nice dinner somewhere Smile

Sallystyle · 31/01/2018 18:30

Even if he did turn up I wouldn't want to date him.

A man who can't be arsed to send a quick text back isn't one I would want to date.

I can't imagine anyone who was really interested not replying to that message. I wouldn't even go.

thisismadness77 · 31/01/2018 18:32

I don’t know what I would do! What are you doing? Nice boots btw...

LML83 · 31/01/2018 18:32

What is OLD?

I would go, if you go and he doesn't turn up he isn't worth it and you know it. If you don't go and he does turn up it would be more disappointing to have missed out on a date with a nice man.

Fingers crossed for you OP!

crimsonlake · 31/01/2018 18:33

If he cannot be bothered to read and reply to your text I would not give him the time of day. You are worth more, he should be checking if you are still up for the date , not the other way around.

helenoftroyville · 31/01/2018 18:34

I often get a text, mentally reply to it, or begin typing a response, get interrupted and then realise (hours or days later) that I never did send a response.

thisismadness77 · 31/01/2018 18:34

LML83 It’s on line dating.

MarthaArthur · 31/01/2018 18:34

helen i am with you being optimistic i think he will show. He isnt much of a texter anyway and he confirmed time and place yesterday i dont see he will have changed his mind.

loopylobespat · 31/01/2018 18:35

What I was thinking @helenoftroyville

Hope you are alright OP?

Vitalogy · 31/01/2018 18:37

I wouldn't set out if I'd not received a reply.

Vitalogy · 31/01/2018 18:39

If he cannot be bothered to read and reply to your text I would not give him the time of day. You are worth more, he should be checking if you are still up for the date , not the other way around. Exactly.

Whatwouldkeithrichardsdo · 31/01/2018 18:44

I think you should go.

What have you got to lose?

He already confirmed the time and place.

If he doesn't show up then you know for a fact that he is an arsehole. You can move on.

If he does show, you might have a brilliant time. He could be super busy today and thinks he has already told you he will be there.

What if he turns up and you don't? Then you will be the one who stood him up.

Be brave and don't over think. You can always say to him in person, 'I didn't hear back from you today and was concerned you weren't going to come'.

Let him show you who he is.

SparklyMagpie · 31/01/2018 18:46

I actually do think he will be there, but still either way OP,like I said earlier,take advantage of your night off !!

dogfish1 · 31/01/2018 18:46

keith your username is v. cool

Sparklesdontshine · 31/01/2018 18:46

Hope he turns up!

LML83 · 31/01/2018 18:47

@Thisismadness

thank you! I had guessed it was a dating site, thought it was for old people - doh!

summerdreamz · 31/01/2018 18:47

Hope he has turned up OP and you have the best night!
I bet you look utterly gorgeous 💐

helenoftroyville · 31/01/2018 18:47

@Vitalogy but what if he read today's text as a confirmation and not a question 'still on the 7' (basically 'see you later') and the OP ends up the one who is a no show?

IAmSamSamlAm · 31/01/2018 18:49

Really hope he turns up OP and you have a lovely time. I've got my first date this weekend for years too Smile

AllStar14 · 31/01/2018 18:50

What an arse. I don't think he'll be there. Don't let that stop you from having some nice food and wine though!

Wellfuckmeinbothears · 31/01/2018 18:50

Your outfit is gorgeous, I prefer the brown over the knee boots. Hope he turns up, he’s a fool if not!

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