Should I presume date is still on?

[lnging]

So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

Don't believe it - takes seconds to text you - he doesn't give a toss and he didn't even say he wanted to rearrange. If he managed to have a pee in the day, then he had time to send a text.

Why text after the time arranged? That’s bad.

Awwww hun I'm so sorry it's definitely his loss! He is lying to you! You saw he was online 3 times after you sent you the message. Forget about him. You'll meet someone who'll know your worth very soon I'm sure xx

Just to be clear not seen him online on dating apps was only online between 1.30ish and 3ish today he said his sister called him at 2

Think I will just reply

Hope she's ok, no worries obviously I didn't go anyway and made other plans

Actually on second thought I agree with PP who said don't give him the satisfaction of responding, just block him.

I'd go with Helenoftroy's suggestion

His sister is 8 months pregnant and already has 10 month old twins??? misses point of thread entirely

I can't believe he couldn't find 2 minutes to send a txt all day. I'd just ignore and move on. Sorry OP, you looked gorgeous in your photo, his loss!

Maybe I'm naive but I would give him one more chance. Send a breezy reply, hope she feels better and leave it at that.

If he wants to see you, let him set up a second date. Otherwise.... Next!

Just no worries and leave it

Ps where is your top from? It's gorgeous

I wouldn't bother replying. It's bullshit. Even whilst looking after twins, you can text a line.

He missed out big time OP. Onward and upwards!

I wouldn't say that you didn't go.

I'd just say "ok, thanks for letting me know. Hope she's ok"

Leave it at that. Ball is in his court.

If he gets in touch again you can decide what you want to do.

It's complete and utter horseshit OP but I think you know that.

I had near enough the exact same thing happen to me. Guy was mega keen, seemed refreshingly normal and low key. On the day of our first date he sent me a text saying that his younger brother who lives in another city had gone off radar and their mum had asked him to drive there and check on him. Oh and he was really keen to reschedule .

I replied 'Never mind. Hope he's ok'.

I then blocked his number, unmatched him on Tinder and moved swiftly on.

It's ridiculously common with online dating.

He's not worth another second of your time or energy.

Whether the sister comment is true or not, how rude. You are worth far more than that. Forget him and enjoy your evening.

I'd send him a photo from in the pub with a glass of wine in your hand. Bet he'd soon be on route and the family emergency wouldn't be so much of an emergency!

Can't stand bad manners, it's just unnecessary.

His sister is going to have three babies under 1! Bloody hell, the poor woman. Surely that's too crazy to make up. The rest of it is bullshit. Even if true he should have sent you a bloody text before now. So very rude.

OP - you look absolutely stunning. Do not allow yourself to run up the arse of someone who is making so little effort before any potential relationship has even begun. You can do much better

Im sorry OP. I would reply:

'I'm sorry to hear that your sister is unwell. However, you should have felt it was important to let me know before I booked and paid for a babysitter and you left me sitting in this restaurant. I wish you all the best'.

Send. Then block him.

You look fantastic OP. Chalk this up to experience. His loss.

Is there a stunning barman you can take a pic with? Send him with a caption :
You missed out sucker....

Don't putv'obviously I didn't go'.

Just simple, no worries, hope she's ok.

You're far too good looking for him, stunner!

Sierra - well spotted. Surely the last thing on someone's mind with 2 month old twins is having sex again...... like ever.

Agree with helmet, just ...hope she’s ok, no worries

What a lovely lady you look and sound op. You deserve so, so much better than this. Enjoy your wine, go home and see your lovely child and kind babysitter and move on. What a ridiculous excuse (of a man).

Go and pull someone else OP - this guy is not who he says he is.

Chalk it up to experience and let yourself have an unexpected evening out.

And never text him again!

Thing is, responding like that is probably what he wants. He knows he has stood her up and he knows he is a shit.

And if the op reacts like that he has won.

There are so many fake profiles online dating. He could be a 16 year old lad laughing about it with his mates. Or a 60 year old married man who just likes the idea of a pretty woman getting dressed up to meet him.

Best to think of first dates as pre dates and try to have a day time coffee. It's a pre date to check they are who they say and to see if you do what to spend several hours in their company having dinner.