Unsympathetic **** of a boyfriend 😡

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So I'm going to rant because I don't know what to do anymore with my OH. We've lived together for 2 years now. I've basically been really ill for the past month; starting with flu, then turning into a chest infection and now I have glandular fever I've been signed off from work for 2 weeks and just can't do anything!! I went to hospital today for blood tests and was checked over again to see if everything was ok. I have a temp of 39 degrees and just feel crappy!!

Anyway OH just expects me to carry on as normal and if I ask him to do something for me for example cook dinner (it's the biggest problem in the world) slamming pots and pans about in the kitchen etc. He then threw a complete strop saying that he was going to watch what he wanted to watch on tv because I got to watch what I wanted all day (sounds like a 10 year old!) it then got to about 10pm I said I'm going up to bed he's going into the kitchen (where the back door is) and he turns to me and goes "well aren't you going to let the dog out then?" When he was by the back door anyway and I was over the other side of the house!! We then had a massive argument and he said that he's fed up with me being like this and moping about, when it's not that at all I've never been this ill and I've still tried to carry on as normal as I can!

So I'm now sat here in bed he's fallen asleep and I just keep snarling at him because of how much he's p me off!!!!

Is this just men in general or have I got an extra unsympathetic one!! 😡😡😡

So normally you do everything and he's unhappy that his domestic drudge isn't up to much right now?

I hope you're not contemplating having kids with him at any point.

And no, all men are not like this.

They are generally selfish and stroppy theyd expect us to be a nurse by there side tending to there every need if it was them but if were ill weve still to look after them 😩get well op and ignore the man child

My god. How old is he?

Don’t have kids with him.

Has he been this awful the whole time you’ve been ill, or just today?

I'm guessing you usually do everything and he's upset because his maid/girlfriend is not doing her usual jobs?

Don't ignore the man child, OP!

Get rid of the man child. Seriously. You can do better.

My dh would shame Florence Nightingale when I am poorly.
Ltb and don't look back.

No this is not what all men are like. Not all men are the same. They're not all selfish and stroppy either

It sounds like you have had a really awful time with your health and he is being vile to you. That's horrible - it's not normal and it's not something you have to accept. You have every right to be furious with him. He sounds like a selfish brat

Urgh. He sounds awful

End it. Seriously. What a selfish, unsympathetic cunt. Whatever you do - don't have children with this toddler. Having a strop because his mummy figure is too ill to wipe his arse - what a douche! He'll have a bloody shock when he has to do everything himself when he finds himself single.

Basically yes! And he's hated it even more because I've been out of action for two weeks! He comes from one of these "traditional" families where the mother has done everything for her "men" and has always had dinner on the table for them, pants and socks ironed etc!

That is just something else that has made me debate my relationship with him for some time now. It seems that I'm constantly letting one thing after another thing go. For example; I found out he had a fetish for pregnant women (ironic really😂) and had an addiction to porn (was watching it around 6 times a day) he's stopped now with the porn but I know the fetish is still there to some extent (it'll probably never go) he's sex obsessed and at 27 years old he acts as though he's 18/19, he's made it quite clear he doesn't really want children yet or to get married etc etc which is obviously all I want! We've tried the whole meeting in the middle agreeing a time to start etc but then when it comes to it he finds an excuse and he's broken my heart a lot but because I love him I carry on and forgive him.

For example again; we went to Rome last year was making hints that he was going to propose even said to my best friend he was (I found this out after which made it all worse) , when it came to it do you think he did? Hell no!!! I spoke to him about it afterwards and said never to make hints like that again or tell my best friend that you're going to because it's just not on!

It's one of those things where I just don't know what to do anymore!! I love him to bits but just feel that he doesn't show me the same respect and love that I show to him! I hate men 🙄😂😂

My DH is lovely when I'm ill. Looks after the kids and dogs while I rest. Gives me the time I need to get better. I include mental health illness related downtime.

That is how it should be. Sorry. You don't have a good one.

All men are definitely not like this. He’s shown his true colours. How would he help with a small baby or if you got a very serious illness? This man is not a partner.

I think you're all right I seriously need to think about what to do!! Even now I've just realised the dogs sat at the end of the bed and he's gone to sleep so I've got to get up and put the dog downstairs because he won't do it!!! Yeah I'm done!!

There are nicer men, go find one. Don't waste any more time on someone like this.

Oh god - your update What are you doing with this knob head?! Seriously! Sounds like you've come to a place where you're seeing how loathsome he really is.

Pfft my partner wont let me lift a finger if im ill unless i tell him to. he cooks , cleans and goes shopping for me and runs baths for me.

Currently pregnant and he is even more helpful and tends to tuck me into bed with a film, i feel like a right child but i love it because for once i dont have to think or do anything for myself.

Sorry to say but your partner is a dick.

Any option to ‘give him some space’ and fend for himself for a few days while you get some tlc from friends/ family. He clearly doesn’t realise how good he has it x

A wise woman once said to me.."judge a man by how he treats you when you are ill"

How does it look practically for you? Do you own / rent?

Mine sleeps soundly but will react to the slightest whimper from child or dog (mostly dog at this point). He is letting them out before I've realised there's a dog needing something.

My DH also didn't string me along with hopes of a proposal, and we married before kids. All important things.

My dh is wonderful when I'm sick or just poorly! He does everything and doesn't complain at all. Why would he complain,you didn't go get ill on purpose!

If he can't be kind to the dog when you're sick, what will he be like to the kids?

@Loz604 that's exactly what my mum said she said to go and live at hers for a few days so he realises how difficult it is being on his own! Which I'm going to do tomorrow!!

I always find myself comparing him to my dad weirdly! My dad is the kindest most sympathetic man you would ever meet goes out of his way for everyone works hard and goes above and beyond for anyone!! And then I look at my brat of a boyfriend and just want to walk away!!

Oh god don’t marry him and don’t have children with him. Why would you? This is who he is. A pathetic man child.

Why do you love him? Honestly, why? Does he cherish you? Does he care for you, respect you? Is he kind to you, thoughtful and loving? Or is he just the bloke you happen to be seeing at a time in your life when all your mates are getting married and having kids?

Listen to all the previous posters - you're worth so much more than this. Imagine how put out he'd be if you were pregnant, breastfeeding etc and "out of action" There are nicer men out there - go and find one. Hope you feel better soon x