Unsympathetic **** of a boyfriend 😡

[babylovexo]

So I'm going to rant because I don't know what to do anymore with my OH. We've lived together for 2 years now. I've basically been really ill for the past month; starting with flu, then turning into a chest infection and now I have glandular fever I've been signed off from work for 2 weeks and just can't do anything!! I went to hospital today for blood tests and was checked over again to see if everything was ok. I have a temp of 39 degrees and just feel crappy!!

Anyway OH just expects me to carry on as normal and if I ask him to do something for me for example cook dinner (it's the biggest problem in the world) slamming pots and pans about in the kitchen etc. He then threw a complete strop saying that he was going to watch what he wanted to watch on tv because I got to watch what I wanted all day (sounds like a 10 year old!) it then got to about 10pm I said I'm going up to bed he's going into the kitchen (where the back door is) and he turns to me and goes "well aren't you going to let the dog out then?" When he was by the back door anyway and I was over the other side of the house!! We then had a massive argument and he said that he's fed up with me being like this and moping about, when it's not that at all I've never been this ill and I've still tried to carry on as normal as I can!

So I'm now sat here in bed he's fallen asleep and I just keep snarling at him because of how much he's p me off!!!!

Is this just men in general or have I got an extra unsympathetic one!! 😡😡😡

A friend of mine is you, just a few years ahead in the game. She is running ragged and the husband is still the laziest, most selfish and inconsiderate twat ever. But she now has also small children to take care of, so several-fold the burden, and resentment when the husband does not lift a finger but adds to her workload instead. Don't do it to yourself.

He will have a legal right to enter unless there have been documented things like domestic violence

only read page 1. Have some standards, OP. Show him the door.

If you think all men are like this you REALLY need to raise standards. Only arseholes are like that. Do not have sex with or breed with arseholes. Rule for happiness.

best of luck.

Ask him to leave while you recover from your illness, if he finds it so hard to be around. Then when you are well, get the locks changed and tell him when he can pick up his stuff.

And go to bed!!!!!! Glandular fever is awful and will not go away if you don't follow GP advice and rest rest rest rest rest rest

More to all this than meets the eye........
Yes indeed - OP says this:-
I've just got to remember how much he has hurt me over the last couple of years
So I think this is probably the straw that broke the camels back!
She just needed some validation to make that final push.

Please don't marry this jerk or have kids with him.

Clovertoast yes was thinking the same. Glandular fever pretty much knocks you out, how can you manage to pack all his stuff all night?

If it's real think you maybe gave up a bit too soon. But I dunno how you can be saying you're too ill and weak to do anything around the house, but are fine to pack all his stuff. It's a bit odd.

my daughter who is nearly 32 has had 2 awful boyfriends and has 2 children 1 from each 1st one treated her like shit would go out and get drunk called her all the names under the sun they also had his 3 children with them he took the children on holiday to his mums and never came back they were together for 6 yrs 2nd one smoked to much pot and stole money (a lot from me which he said wasn't him ,but after he was gone we worked out it must have been him) and after she finished with him and had had a baby , she was living with me they had a row on the phone he came up and head butted her in the face,daughter will not allow him to see daughter. Just over a year ago she meet a man on line he is really lovely couldn't have found a better one loves her daughter who calls him da da and would like to adopt her, so there is always hope . You can find someone who will love you how you deserve ,best of luck for your future

Say you did marry & have children with this man, would you be happy for your son to emulate him and grow up like him and then treat his wife like this, or your daughter to think this is how men should be and accept the same treatment from her husband?

If not, don't do it.

Oh FFS, stop with the troll hunting! OP was at breaking point and likely posted for that last bit of resolve and push. A lot of us tend to have a rant and it helps to clear your mind to face up to stark realities. It’s hardly been on a whim! As for packing his stuff up, she was probably seething about it and unable to sleep. I have done similar after literally being released and all wobbly from hospital from sheer exasperation. She’s most likely going to spend a fair few days recuperating from the exertion.

@littletinyme1 "It's horrible when they stop making the effort and you see what nasty bastards they really are isn't it? I realised how vile my husband was and how little he cared when my 4yo son showed more care and sympathy for me when i hurt myself. I remember my little boy shouting ' Mum, ate you ok? Quick, dad, mum has hurt herself'. My husband did a ' here we go again face!' I didn't leave and it's still like that today"

How old is your son now? Are you happy still to be with his dad?

OP please stay on property ladder.

Plus please check if you can legally change locks. if not, you will need to give him a key but you could perhaps leave a key on back of lock so it cannot be entered? I'd that legal? Find out before you do anything please.

*A fetish for pregnant women? shock That's sick Isn't that a step away from being a.......ya know..... Can I say the P word

Are you drunk? In what way is having sex with or liking the body of an adult pregnant woman the same as abusing children?

So glad you said that, I read that and thought? WTF*

So, so glad someone else said this. I mean seriously? It's not even remotely the same thing.

Hey most men are like this...

Christmas day I was sick with that vomiting bug, so my husband took the kids away all boxing day and left me to my own.. which was probably the best to stop the bug spreading..

He did get me ice lollies and loads of fluids to drink.

But if am emotional distraught which is alot due to being pregnant, it tends to be a "there there" or a pat on the back...

Speak to him though,
x

Hi all,

I have had to give him a key my dad decided to tell me that after he'd actually done it so I've left one under the matt for him.
For the people saying that because I'm ill why would I pack his stuff up? I've been feeling like I've wanted to leave him for a while now and decided last night that enough was enough especially after what everyone has said to me and of course I didn't pack every single item he owns in the house as I would be there for hours but I chucked some clothes in a bin liner for him and that was that. Not that I need to explain myself to disbelievers...

I have been asleep all day because I am exhausted and still ill and I haven't heard from him all day nor has he tried to come to the house. So I guess that it is definitely over!

Good on you baby, his behaviour is awful. That behaviour is an indication of how he will be is you got seriously ill or disabled. YOu don't need that in your life.

Better in the long run for you OP. He sounds awful, selfish and immature.

A fetish for pregnant women? That's sick Isn't that a step away from being a.......ya know..... Can I say the P word - I actually thought ' she means 'pervert', surely? A Paedo wouldn't find a real-life, grown pregnant woman attractive.

Hi op. I wish I had taken the advice I was given about ex DH before marriage and kids. All the signs were there and he showed me little respect, it ended up getting worse after we married. While he never hit me or and was rarely verbally abusive he was just like you described a man child. He came from a family where the woman of the house was mean to put up and shut up. I often have wondered why I put up with it. I think it was a combination of not wanting to be on my own, kids and blaming myself. The end result was catastrophic. Affair and suicide

Good for you. Caring for each other when you are ill is such a fundamental part of a relationship; if it's not happening, neither is the relationship.

Hey most men are like this...

No, they absolutely are not.

I'm sure a chunk of men are, judging by the fuckwits people on mumsnet come here to rant about. But those of us married to grown ups don't come here and post 'I was poorly this week and my DH did all the cooking and housework and made me a hot water bottle and a GP's appointment then knitted me a blanket'. Because it's not something we need to rant about.

Expect more and don't put up with shitheads. Rock on, OP.

'Hey most men are like this...

No, they absolutely are not. '

Quite right, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Ditto 'men just don't see dirt / mess' and 'boys will be boys'

Agree with the last two posts.

There are a lot of good men out there. Don’t put up with a bad one!

You didn't need to give him a key, you could have got an Occupational Order on the grounds of emotional abuse