Unsympathetic **** of a boyfriend 😡

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So I'm going to rant because I don't know what to do anymore with my OH. We've lived together for 2 years now. I've basically been really ill for the past month; starting with flu, then turning into a chest infection and now I have glandular fever I've been signed off from work for 2 weeks and just can't do anything!! I went to hospital today for blood tests and was checked over again to see if everything was ok. I have a temp of 39 degrees and just feel crappy!!

Anyway OH just expects me to carry on as normal and if I ask him to do something for me for example cook dinner (it's the biggest problem in the world) slamming pots and pans about in the kitchen etc. He then threw a complete strop saying that he was going to watch what he wanted to watch on tv because I got to watch what I wanted all day (sounds like a 10 year old!) it then got to about 10pm I said I'm going up to bed he's going into the kitchen (where the back door is) and he turns to me and goes "well aren't you going to let the dog out then?" When he was by the back door anyway and I was over the other side of the house!! We then had a massive argument and he said that he's fed up with me being like this and moping about, when it's not that at all I've never been this ill and I've still tried to carry on as normal as I can!

So I'm now sat here in bed he's fallen asleep and I just keep snarling at him because of how much he's p me off!!!!

Is this just men in general or have I got an extra unsympathetic one!! 😡😡😡

Probably not, sandy, but if he doesn't know that, then it's not going to come back on her.

If he is joint owner, I don't think you legally have the right to keep him out/change locks.

Good for you

Well done!!

Good for you, the twat needs putting in his place - days of pandering to our loved ones are long gone.

Now it is full time work and team work in a relationship.

Hoping you feel better soon

If he comes back about the lock change, she can just agree to give him a key again. I'd wait and see what he does next.

Glad you’ve finished the relationship but as others have said he is entitled to enter his own house. If he questions the changed locks, you may get into trouble if you don’t let him have access.

Down with flu and 'obviously the only thing you want is marriage and a baby' to moved out of the house in 12 hrs.

Seems legit.

Bloody well done!

You’ve definitely done the right thing, but as others have said be wary about that lock change. Do you own the house jointly?

Are you drunk? In what way is having sex with or liking the body of an adult pregnant woman the same as abusing children?

I agree. The two are not comparable. It's not an uncommon fetish. Some men have a fetish for drinking breast milk. The fetish isn't really the problem with this guy though.

Well done!

Can I say something when he tries to creep back into your life with promises of a proposal etc etc?

His type of spoilt, entitled, rude, unkind, unthoughtful behaviour would be enough to make you ill physically, emotionally and mentally.

So please get better in peace and in the loving care of people who love you by their actions and not their words.

May be have a period of being single so that you can attune yourself to only tolerating kind, thoughtful and caring behaviour/people in your life.

After all, those are the qualities you have yourself and would want in any children you have, so the role model/any significant male in your life must be like this too.

For a long time now your oh has shown his true selfish colours loud and clearly.

Love is selfless, caring, thoughtful and kind.

If it is not this, it is not love.

Please bear that in mind in any future relationships you have.

I have been married for 21 years: enjoy 3x a week massage/reflexology with candles and music from him; he cooks for me, brings me cups of tea in bed, takes the dog for a walk before work, gets the dc's breakfast ready every morning, vacuums, does the laundry..the list goes on.

Raise your benchmark please! This is 2018 not 1818!

He sounds absolutely awful! I’ve had glandular fever and it was no laughing matter, I felt at deaths door during the worst days of it.
He sounds like a lazy, entitled shithead of a boyfriend and I strongly suggest you rid yourself of him

You should be proud of yourself.
Well done.
Good positive actions from you to end this.
Let your parents spoil you for a few days.
Rest up and get well.

I was ill for a month with colds/bugs right before Christmas and DH was a star with baby/cooking etc ie. he just got on with usual jobs/life. Now he is ill and I am taking most of the load on. Its called a partnership. If he doesn't want to be part of yours carefully think about why you are with him

OH op please make sure you don't fall pregnant with this man, your life would be horrible.....Please leave asap

To be honest I don’t see how a fetish for pregnant women would be a problem, unless he’s imagining he’s fucking the foetus?

Can you afford the house on your own?

Let's ignore the porn and the future promising for now.

I've been ill for about the last 14 months; one of the side effects is total loss of appetite; I can go without eating or even thinking about it till I start shaking with low blood sugars. Now prior to this I was a total foodie.

DP had a rotten long day yesterday. We were sitting watching TV and a McDonalds add came on, and I absently commented Oh I quite fancy one of those

DP got up and started putting on his shoes, asked him where he was going?

To get me a McDonalds at 22.45, even though he was shattered.

Thats the kind of man you want, you who will put you first.

(I didn't let him go, pointed out that I'd have about one bite and be full and as he wouldn't eat it, it would be a waste. )

Before you start any future relationships think about who they are a man.

Do they hold down employment, do they keep their van/car/home clean. Themselves, not their Mum. If it's their Mum they need to know that you are not, and won't do their fair share.

Do they want children, how many how do they want them brought up.

How do they want their life to go, any major goals like living abroad etc.

Don't just settle.

If your bar is low only slugs get under

Bindibot

re the McDonalds - this is my cousins husband - he has even done this for me - we are very lucky

i wrote a whole post then lost it but basically, I divorced a man for being an utter prick about my ill health and endless surgeries, as if I were trying to bunk off work. his inconvenience trumped my pain and immobility. he would set me up at the kitchen table so i could log into work emails and get something done. this was usually a week or so after an operation. he earned 5 times my salary and wanted me to understand that if I intended to go onto sick pay, I would need to budget carefully because his money was his, not mine or ours.

I had a lot of operations over a 5 year period, and there was a year in the middle where I had no white blood cells and had 3 bone marrow biopsies for suspected leukaemia. this was particularly irritating to him, as it meant travelling to south east London every 6 weeks (from Suffolk) to see specialists. at one point, I had arm in a sling after 4th shoulder op and a walking stick from major knee surgery. he was busy that day, so he had me drive to Newbury Park and tube it over to Camberwell and back. what a charmer, eh?

we're divorced, I'm disabled and he's a fucking prick.

so. consider me the Ghost of Relationships Yet to Come and don't let him wheedle his way back in...

It sounds as though your illness is showing you some very bad home truths about your relationship. You would be very, very wise to take heed of what you are learning here.

Ooops, posted too soon - I wanted to add another sentence, which was "You've done really well to get rid of him, but make sure you stick to it when you feel a bit better, because this guy isn't worth your time and effort".

A fetish for pregnant women? shock That's sick Isn't that a step away from being a.......ya know..... Can I say the P word

Are you drunk? In what way is having sex with or liking the body of an adult pregnant woman the same as abusing children?

So glad you said that, I read that and thought? WTF

Well done.

The lock broke and you changed it. You plan to give him have key just haven't got round to it yet.

That's your story
Up to him to prove otherwise.
He can go to.court to oblige you to give him access but you can wait.

If he comes banging on the door aggressively call 999.

You can buy him out or sell.up.
Get some valuations and make him a proposal.

be careful about changing locks i know someone who went through a break up and was told specfically they couldnt do this as joint owner he still legally has a right to enter